melissay2066 Posted April 6, 2011 Share Posted April 6, 2011 (edited) Attempt 2: It just occurred to me that while I may feel these things, it's not what I want immediately. How could I simply befriend him? At the risk of sounding like a silly little girl, I want to pose this question to you all. I am the youngest employee at a large doctor's office, and I have what is widely regarded as the most menial job there. This is not a complaint - I am treated with the utmost respect by both my coworkers and my superiors. I only say this to explain that while I have no qualms about my position, I am little more to most than the 22 year-old girl who does her work well, obeys the rules, and keeps her head down. This job pays my rent while I work on med school admissions, and I enjoy the reliability of it. All this is to say that this is a job, and not necessarily my career. So this is my issue: I have developed a crush on my boss. In the name of professionalism, I have not divulged this to anyone in the company and doubt I ever will. But he and I click in a way I find very exciting, both professionally, academically, and personally. To be clear, while we may joke around, we do not flirt; while he may praise me more than others, he does not show any favoritism; and although I technically answer to him, it's my department's supervisor (also underneath him) that I go to with questions, etc. We have little true contact, and I find myself craving more than our once-weekly ten minute check-ins. So how could I feel this out more? It seems to me the only way is to screw up and get called in for a reprimand, and that is obviously not what I want, haha. If there were a way to spend a bit of time with him to figure out my feelings, how would I it? I am not afraid of finding a new job if anything happened, it isn't about "career." But, that being said, I do not want to complicate my stable employment as "the quiet, good girl" if I haven't even been able to determine if he's even worth my mental energy So, how do I get more time with him? How do I break that barrier? He's thirty, unmarried, no children, and if nothing else I think he could be a friend. I just don't know how to get there. Edited April 6, 2011 by melissay2066 Immediate insight Link to post Share on other sites
jean-luc sisko Posted April 9, 2011 Share Posted April 9, 2011 Dating a boss is not advisable, generally. Yes it's not a career, but if you're found out you may lose your job. If you have another lined up, well it's not an issue. Another thing is that he may lose his job. Is it his own company, or does he report to somebody else? Link to post Share on other sites
Goldenspoon Posted April 10, 2011 Share Posted April 10, 2011 At the risk of sounding like a silly little girl, I want to pose this question to you all. Risk? Did you mean certainty? He's single, you're single, you want him, if he wants you, just seal the deal. Just use gloves and all, after all, ya'll are medical people. Link to post Share on other sites
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