rbrohman Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 i've had this bad crush/infatuation with my coworker for about 6 months now, were both married with kid. I entertained it for awhile but its eating me alive so I decided to quit cold turkey. I stopped talking to her about 3 weeks ago, kind of cold shoulder-ish, minimal contact aside from work but I still think about her all the time, can't get her out of my head. I think she thinks im pissed at her but I don't want to tell her why im acting that way. The cold turkey isn't working. what do i do?? I'm considering asking her to lunch and telling her everything just to get it off my chest. That might help me move on from this. what do you guys think I should do? Am I crazy? its so unlike me to feel this way about someone especially since im married, damn it! this is driving me nuts. do I just suck it up or should I tell her? If I dont I'm gonna lose my mind. Link to post Share on other sites
jsa100100 Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 Think about your wife please. And your kid. I think there's a part of you that wants to tell her because you want to be with her, and hope that she would reciprocate. That's a big no no. Don't put yourself in that situation, and if you still love your family you will respect those boundaries. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rbrohman Posted July 29, 2010 Author Share Posted July 29, 2010 i think your right about the reciprocating feelings but I don't think I would act on anything and I'm almost 100% sure she wouldn't, she's a total goody good girl. I just feel like telling her might free my mind of the burden of it being a deep dark secret and may help me close the door and move on. who knows maybe it will make us better freinds and will clear up any mis-percieved boundary lines. How much could it really hurt just to tell her? Worst case scenario she freaks out and doesn't talk to me anymore, I can deal with that and no line has been crossed, right? Link to post Share on other sites
cavedweller Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 How old are you? You need to grow up and get a handle on it... A tip for you: Don't put your meat where you get your bread..... Link to post Share on other sites
GordonDarkfoot Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 Be careful. If you disclose these feelings to her, she may interpret it as harassment; you could be risking your job if you do this. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted July 30, 2010 Share Posted July 30, 2010 You must leave her alone. Get a new job if necessary. It's not worth your marriage Link to post Share on other sites
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