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Old 17th January 2018, 7:08 PM   #16
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I Eventually get a bronchitis every couple of years. Trust me - it's no fun and I would rather work my ass off for a week.

Actually the last time I got one my doc refused to grant me two mere days off. I have had fractures, kidney stones and wisdom teeth so its not that awful in comparison but there is nothing good about being sick. Not even a cold.
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Old 17th January 2018, 7:10 PM   #17
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The deaths of healthy people scare me too...

But, as my mother would say... the reality is that you could get hit by a bus and die tomorrow. You can't stop living your life.

Last week, one of my best friend's aunt's passed away in her sleep... they don't know why. Life has a way of reminding us sometimes that we are not in control...

I will say, I have had some health anxiety after an allergic reaction to antibiotics. My anxiety was largely related to the fact that as a single person, I am fearful to be sick and alone. But... this is the common cold. I work with children, I get sick probably 5-6 times a year. It's just part of life, not something I am especially anxious about.

I will say, I too see an illness as a time that I can slow down and rest. How sad is that... I am so active and so busy... I have to get sick to feel like I can take a "break..." But, if you can't slow down then, when can you slow down...
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Old 17th January 2018, 7:20 PM   #18
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Why don't you get a flu shot? Surely being vaccinated would ease your mind some.
I get one every year as I work testing for flu and other bacteria and viruses.
I also have a dodgy immune system as I had my spleen partially removed many years ago. I have never had a flu, so the vaccine has worked for me.
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Old 17th January 2018, 7:21 PM   #19
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I Eventually get a bronchitis every couple of years. Trust me - it's no fun and I would rather work my ass off for a week.

Actually the last time I got one my doc refused to grant me two mere days off. I have had fractures, kidney stones and wisdom teeth so its not that awful in comparison but there is nothing good about being sick. Not even a cold.
My ribs took 6 weeks to heal after I had bronchitis (and I've only had it once, thank God). It's pretty sucky!
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Old 17th January 2018, 7:22 PM   #20
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Why don't you get a flu shot? Surely being vaccinated would ease your mind some.
I get one every year as I work testing for flu and other bacteria and viruses.
I also have a dodgy immune system as I had my spleen partially removed many years ago. I have never had a flu, so the vaccine has worked for me.
I was talking to my sis about this the other day, and she said the flu shot is estimated to only be 10% effective this year . As I posted up thread, I have a friend who has the flu right now and she got the shot.
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I was talking to my sis about this the other day, and she said the flu shot is estimated to only be 10% effective this year . As I posted up thread, I have a friend who has the flu right now and she got the shot.
They try to predict which strains will come out each year, so there is always a gamble, here in NZ our flu shot for next winter will be made up of the most common strains the USA and the UK are having now...so hopefully it will be more than 10% effective. As I say I've never had a flu and I work with it and get my vaccine every year.
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Old 18th January 2018, 1:41 AM   #22
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Thanks for the input, everybody. Basically I'm mostly afraid of the symptoms itself. If I'm around somebody with a cold I get nervous that I'll catch it, but if I do start to get cold symptoms I just kind of deal with it. Rarely have I had a cold that has put me down, and I've never once taken a day off of work because of a cold.

Flu is obviously much more serious, and since I haven't had it since I was a child I've mostly forgotten what it actually feels like. In my mind it's only associated with puking (which I'm also afraid of) and misery. I'm afraid of being out and about then suddenly coming down with symptoms. Suppose I don't wake up with it and it starts during the day while I'm not at home? What if I start hurling when I'm out and about and have to drive home like this? What if I'm on the subway and the motion of the train starts making me puke? Once I'm home, how long will I be dealing with this illness? What if I'm alone in my apartment and can't make it to the story to get food/medicine? What if it gets so bad that I need to go to the ER? Etc. etc. etc.

I have seen a therapist before for anxiety but frankly I didn't think like it accomplished much. Therapy felt like I was just paying money to complain to some dude for 45 minutes, then I'd leave feeling okay, but the problem would come back later that day. I'd love to have some sort of treatment program or homework to strive for getting better.

Now for some positives, here is my lifestyle. I haven't been THAT sick since I was a kid, and I've had anywhere from 0-2 colds in any given year. I make healthy shakes for breakfast consisting of kale, spinach, ginger, chia and flax seeds, an apple and banana, dark chocolate, and multivitamin powder. I also take 2-3 daily gummy multivitamins. I exercise moderately almost every day, consisting of cardio and weight training. I keep my stress in line by watching or listening to comedy, either streaming shows or listening to podcasts. My sleep could be better, but it's not my biggest concern. Overall, my lifestyle itself is fairly low stress-inducing, but my anxiety can sometimes take over once the ball starts rolling. In fact, I had been hearing word about this year's bad flu season around the holidays but didn't give it much thought. Like I said, it's been 20+ years since I've gotten it. Maybe I'm one of those "super carriers" they speak of, people who carry and transmit the flu but don't really show symptoms? As far as I remember, my parents and brother & sister haven't really had the flu either.

It wasn't until I started seeing more news stories about this season and the connection that I have to go down to a populated city for a week of work that my anxiety started skyrocketing. As I said earlier though, I'm aware of the statistics. Even in a bad season like this only about 20% max of the population will be affected. 2/10 or 1/5 odds is pretty good. My mind doesn't always see it that way, though. In my head it's more like 4/5 people, and it's only a matter of time. In reality, I should be proud of my health and be grateful that I've been so lucky and respect that if history is any guide I will not get the flu.


Here's an interesting aside that just occurred to me after I posted this. Last year right about this time a friend who I hadn't seen in awhile invited me over to play a game. When I got there he didn't seem too energetic, and after a little bit he revealed that he had actually stayed home that day because he had the flu which started the day before. It was a quick 24 hour flu, and his fever had actually broken by the time I got there. Still, there was fresh flu floating around in that small flat of his. I casually said "we could have rescheduled you know!" He said that he didn't want to because we'd been trying to meet for awhile. After a couple of hours I made my leave, and was nervous for a week that I'm GUARANTEED to get the flu now. Did I get it? No.

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Old 18th January 2018, 1:53 AM   #23
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Much of this is your anxiety disorder. Health anxiety is a huge part of it. Been there so I know what you're feeling. the thing is, the therapist you spoke to wasn't the right one. You need to find someone you can feel comfy with and feel connected and have a trust. Cognitive behavioural therapy is very helpful so don't give up. Keep looking because when you find the right T to talk to, you will feel better and learn skills to talk yourself down and have a better frame of mind about everything.

If you get sick, you call a friend or family member to help you. If you need to go to the ER, same thing (call fam/friends) or call 911.

I have a barf phobia as well so I get the fear of throwing up in public or seeing or hearing someone else do it.

worrying about something that may not happen is much worse than it actually happening. Anticipation anxiety is bad and only will make you feel worse.

You can't control the future or what happens. If you get sick you'll feel crappy but you will survive. Ask for help, go home if possible and let your parents look after you or a trusted friend.
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Old 20th January 2018, 6:50 AM   #24
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I had flu once a long long time ago and from someone who wasn't displaying any symptoms at the time. They got sick the day after I was with them.
Why don't you get a flu shot? It won't necessarily stop you getting flu but should reassure you and ease the anxiety.

I don't use any herbal anything to avoid colds. I'm the type who attempts to remember to buy multivitamins and then has to remember to actually take them.

With colds, I don't catch them from people. I only catch a cold if I get cold to the bone and cannot internally warm up.
I get a cold every 4-5 years and I can pinpoint exactly what caused it.
I always walk to work with very wet hair (it's long and curly so doesn't like hairdryers) but it doesn't make me feel cold and most cold frosty mornings I'll take my coat off on the walk to work (1.5 miles) because I get too hot.

I got a cold this week - had a meeting for a couple of hours in a freezing cold room - that did it for me.
Once I get the aches, fever and shivers I keep as warm as possible and sleep until the cold appears and the aches etc disappear otherwise my cold will linger for days or weeks.
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