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Old 7th November 2017, 3:42 AM   #16
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Meditation is a good place to start. The 'Stop, Breathe & Think' app is very good and easy way to start meditation.

Another good way of improving your self confidence is visualization and try to get yourself out a negative thinking cycle. For example one small thing goes wrong at the start of the day and you then think you will have a terrible day. Try to think positive - it will take time and at the start you might not see or feel any progress, but perceive and you will see and feel them.

These techniques take time to work so you need to try any new technique for at least a month to six weeks to see any improvement. Unfortunately, there is no overnight long term treatment.
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Old 7th November 2017, 7:37 AM   #17
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Have u tried knitting or other creative project? Making some with my hands is very fulfilling. You can go at your own pace so there is no Pressure and you have something u made with your own hands in front of you.
I also find it very meditative to do.
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Old 7th November 2017, 12:09 PM   #18
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Meditation is a good place to start. The 'Stop, Breathe & Think' app is very good and easy way to start meditation.

Another good way of improving your self confidence is visualization and try to get yourself out a negative thinking cycle. For example one small thing goes wrong at the start of the day and you then think you will have a terrible day. Try to think positive - it will take time and at the start you might not see or feel any progress, but perceive and you will see and feel them.

These techniques take time to work so you need to try any new technique for at least a month to six weeks to see any improvement. Unfortunately, there is no overnight long term treatment.

Wait.... There's an app for meditation?? Now that's just silly!!
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Old 11th November 2017, 11:01 PM   #19
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I am kind of in the same situation...
I was feeling lonely...
I just turned to God...
I'm not talking about reading the Bible... (but you can for yourself)...
I'm talking about knowing that you're never alone..
That there is someone who loves you no matter what...
That God's love is always there...
That you can always talk to God...
I know life can be hard...
No one is perfect... I am not...
I dont think anyone is...
But you are here for a reason and everybody's life is important and has meaning...
Everyone has God no matter what...
Self help books are okay to read too, but true understanding yourself comes from within...
When you understand your path with God...
I'm still searching for mine...
You're never alone hun..

Tame care.. 💝
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Old 11th November 2017, 11:08 PM   #20
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I have to know Cookies... can you give an example of "fake it til you make it"
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Old 12th November 2017, 3:55 AM   #21
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Oh Cookies, I am SO proud of you! You are practising a deeper and more honest exploration of yourself than anybody i know. I have really seen you take some big steps in the last few months (i've been watching and taking notes), i am always here!

I particularly like the advice of the first book (religious, but why not give it a try? No one can disprove that a higher power does noe exist), and the advise about exercise (endorphins and weight-lifting). I think the Universe brought some angels to your thread.

And about being 'good at something', my advise is to start pratising these healthy habits to life your spirits and your fine self.

Something i will add is that diet (what you eat day to day, as opposed to an actual "diet"), is really important.

For instance, i feel most clear when i eat no wheat, no saturated fat (butter, cheese etc)), and stick to a clean, healthy diet - white meat (fish, chicken), vegetables, fruit and lots of water. Vegie sticks, nuts for snacks.

Seriously, when your liver is healthy, you're happy!

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Habibiti: quick question.. Although i have prayed to God myself and had "faith" at various time, i'm wondering how you know the above statement to be true? Asking out of curiosity really 😊
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Old 13th November 2017, 8:39 PM   #22
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I think self confidence ebbs and flows during our lives. Success breeds confidence just as failure can diminish it. I agree with exercise and getting physically healthy as a great starting point, then taking stock in exactly who you are, what you want out of life, and enacting a plan to get there. When you start seeing results, your confidence will build.

I seem to recall you're rather young, and you should feel great that you're thinking about this right now. I am somebody who spent my twenties carrying on in a manner that I think was disingenuous to myself, and I wasted a lot of time. You have a lot of life to live, and I think the prognosis is excellent for somebody who is not afraid to look at their weaknesses and improve. Good luck!
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Old 14th November 2017, 9:25 AM   #23
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Weight lifting did more for my self-esteem than anything else in my life. I would beat myself up in my head all day, thinking I'm a loser who can't do anything right, only to go to the gym and lift two hundred pounds off the floor. It was such a bold, tangible reminder that YES, I can accomplish things if I try.

How is your job? Are your managers good about feedback? What about your coworkers? One of the weirdest confidence boosters I ever experienced was hearing that the interns in our office---kids in or straight out of college, all with perfect hair and makeup and looking like Chanel models---describing me as "so cool" and "way too smart".

As you get older, you realize so many things you cared so much about are trivial and silly. Confidence isn't about looking great, although that helps. Confidence comes from knowing what you want, getting it, and not putting up with any BS in your way. Think about the successes you've had in life. What have you done for yourself and how did you do it? How do you achieve your goals?
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