Swan89 Posted August 23, 2016 Share Posted August 23, 2016 (edited) It goes like this: Previously hurt> Trust issues/fear of intimacy> Less emotionally available Emotional unavailability in new romance> Backfires, rejection Rejection> Being emotionally available to compensate (too much) in either current or another new romance > Rejection for being too nice> Hurt again Repeat Anyone ever dealt with this situation? Edited August 23, 2016 by Swan89 Link to post Share on other sites
Wave Rider Posted August 25, 2016 Share Posted August 25, 2016 Yes. I think it has a lot to do with the partners you choose and the responses you elicit from them. Repetition compulsion causes us to re-create past traumas, so you may be attracted to people who can't ever give you what you need and who will inevitably hurt you. And sometimes people have a big "reject me" sign on their forehead, which may also be a repetition compulsion. Link to post Share on other sites
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