joseb Posted July 18, 2015 Share Posted July 18, 2015 ive noticed a lot of threads lately where porn has been an issue It got me reading up on it at sites like yourbrainonporn While I feel like I am in no way a porn addict, since I've been single for 6 months I was probably starting to use it a bit more than is healthy. So i decided to go a month without porn just to see. I'm 10 days in now and so far it's been pretty easy It could be all in my head(!) but I feel like my moods are better (I wasn't depressed or anything). I also notice myself noticing girls more and even making cold approaches. All in all it's been an easy and positive experience so far, and I might continue indefinitely after the month. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Clarence_Boddicker Posted July 18, 2015 Share Posted July 18, 2015 OK, so are you still ejaculating at least once a day? Use it or lose it... Link to post Share on other sites
Dreamworld Posted July 18, 2015 Share Posted July 18, 2015 I have been reading up on it a lot too, after I had my own experience with a guy who couldn't perform, possibly because of porn use. I think guys who have been alone for awhile and with certain personality traits (introverted, not good at approaching people in general) tend to be easier targets to it too. Thanks for sharing. Not every person makes the connection and/or get the will enough to try quitting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted July 18, 2015 Share Posted July 18, 2015 While I have been a semi-regular user of porn in the past few years where I watched it once or twice a week, I stopped watching it for a while now (at least over a year). I simply lost all interest in it since it was the same thing over and over again. Trust me, OP. You won't miss it. I doubt it taught me anything about sex anyway. Just a lot of anal and just shoving the penis in the vagina. Like, I know I am sexually clueless but even I can figure that out and anal is way too painful to attempt without her approval. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Dreamworld Posted July 18, 2015 Share Posted July 18, 2015 While I have been a semi-regular user of porn in the past few years where I watched it once or twice a week, I stopped watching it for a while now (at least over a year). I simply lost all interest in it since it was the same thing over and over again. Trust me, OP. You won't miss it. I doubt it taught me anything about sex anyway. Just a lot of anal and just shoving the penis in the vagina. Like, I know I am sexually clueless but even I can figure that out and anal is way too painful to attempt without her approval. Unfortunately there are those who get hooked and keep looking for more and hardcore stuff to reach that high and anal and penis into vagina porn doesnt do it for them anymore. Their brain gets conditioned to more and more unrealistic levels of stimulation. fortunately I have read that if you just stop watching it for awhile it is easier than one would think to get back to normal. the problem is that many dont/cant take that step to stop. cool for you guys that it worked for you. Link to post Share on other sites
IronZ Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 For me I think it kind of helps in some ways. It makes me less stressed out and I feel more relaxed in social situations if I haven't deprived myself for a long time. I try not to do it too often (like everyday) but I don't see how once in a while is really a bad thing, especially if you've been single and alone for a while like I have. Link to post Share on other sites
Dreamworld Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 For me I think it kind of helps in some ways. It makes me less stressed out and I feel more relaxed in social situations if I haven't deprived myself for a long time. I try not to do it too often (like everyday) but I don't see how once in a while is really a bad thing, especially if you've been single and alone for a while like I have. Me too. Sometimes you just gotta let it out. But I think when it becomes a problem in cultivating a normal relationship you need to start making changes. I wonder what is a healthy amount anyway. Once or twice a week? Once a month? Doesnt matter as long as sex with a person doesnt become a problem? I have a very high libido so I can manage both every day, but I dont end up doing it every day. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 Me too. Sometimes you just gotta let it out. But I think when it becomes a problem in cultivating a normal relationship you need to start making changes. I wonder what is a healthy amount anyway. Once or twice a week? Once a month? Doesnt matter as long as sex with a person doesnt become a problem? I have a very high libido so I can manage both every day, but I dont end up doing it every day. I think it's very different for men and women. I manage both every day too but I don't think most guys could over the long haul. Link to post Share on other sites
Dreamworld Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 I think it's very different for men and women. I manage both every day too but I don't think most guys could over the long haul. Yeah. Which is probably why we read so much about porn causing problems for guys way more than for women. p.i.e.d and what not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author joseb Posted July 19, 2015 Author Share Posted July 19, 2015 For me I think it kind of helps in some ways. It makes me less stressed out and I feel more relaxed in social situations if I haven't deprived myself for a long time. I try not to do it too often (like everyday) but I don't see how once in a while is really a bad thing, especially if you've been single and alone for a while like I have. Actually, if you read up on the effects of porn on the brain, social anxiety is one of the common symptoms of porn overuse. And this is probably worst in young single guys with little relationship experience. To make things clear. I have given up using porn. I have not given up Knocking one out when I feel the urge. Personally I don't think it's healthy or necessary to stop that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Krieger Posted July 21, 2015 Share Posted July 21, 2015 good for you Op . As for me giving porn up is hard but trying to give it up. My deal is I do right when I get home to help me relax and then I get all ADD and hyper focus on porn and lose track of time when i need to be getting on my homework or studying. I just need to think of something to help me relax other than porn . Link to post Share on other sites
Author joseb Posted July 22, 2015 Author Share Posted July 22, 2015 Hi Krieger I reckon you need to go cold turkey if you want to give up. Otherwise it's like anything addictive. You are right, you need to do something else when the "urge" strikes you. It could be anything, listening to music, checking out a normal website (not Facebook or similar) doing some push-ups, or even some study. It's especially worthwhile to give it up if it's eating into time you should be using studying. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Nikki Sahagin Posted July 29, 2015 Share Posted July 29, 2015 wow congratulations guys! What a good effort! I personally am making a similar decision to give up porn, at least for a while. I'm in a relationship and have been watching porn since I was 11 years old. I've never been a porn addict but I watch fairly often and have a high libido so tend to have sex/masturbate every day/every other day. I began noticing a few weird things happening in my real life from porn: * I would rather use porn that sleep with my partner * I began to feel my partner was boring in bed compared to porn * I began to feel a sort of hatred/distrust of men because of porns titles being so vulgar and also all the links to cheating/one night stands on porn sites * I began to look at my body and my partners body differently When I don't use porn, I'm all about my partner. When I use porn, I sometimes find real sex....can't compare (?) So I've decided to stop watching and if I do watch, only to watch cartoon/anime which is completely 100% unrealistic anyway. I haven't spoken to my partner about it (he isn't a big porn person, he only watches now and then and have no reason to disbelieve him) but I am just doing this both for me AND for my relationship. Porn can be harmless but also very damaging. It's a bit like fast food. Now and then it won't hurt. But all the time, so convenient, so in your face, so hard to avoid, it slowly changes the way you think about sex and can turn many people into sex monsters or simply sexually impotent zombies. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted August 4, 2015 Share Posted August 4, 2015 I'm always happy to see people waking up from the destructive daze of porn. I find it very sad how many men have experienced a crippling effect from porn overuse and addiction in approaching women, dating, romance, love, and sex. Let's all wake up from The Matrix and start living in The Real World!! Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted August 4, 2015 Share Posted August 4, 2015 Yeah once you go a few days without fapping, your body gets used to it and you don't feel the urge so much. Plus when you go a really long time, then finally let it out, it's amazing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author joseb Posted August 4, 2015 Author Share Posted August 4, 2015 I personally am making a similar decision to give up porn, at least for a while. I'm in a relationship and have been watching porn since I was 11 years old. Cool Nikki, interesting to hear that it can have a pretty negative effects on women too - mostly we hear about guys porn use. Let me know how it goes! So I'm closing in on a month - got about 4 days to go I think. I reckon I will stay porn free for the future. I really don't miss it. I feel more relaxed about things in general, and more positive. I have more time for doing stuff like improving my spanish. I find myself checking out girls a lot more, and initiating conversations (not necessarily trying to seduce them, but that too!) 3 Link to post Share on other sites
SycamoreCircle Posted August 4, 2015 Share Posted August 4, 2015 I'm laying off, too. Thanks for your post. It's nice to know other guys out there feel its effects and are doing something about it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mathematics Posted August 4, 2015 Share Posted August 4, 2015 (edited) Been tempted to try this but I would worry that premature ejaculation would kick in! Edited August 4, 2015 by Mathematics 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author joseb Posted August 4, 2015 Author Share Posted August 4, 2015 Been tempted to try this but I would worry that premature ejaculation would kick in! You don't need to give up masturbation. Just porn masturbation Seems like a lot of people think it's impossible without porn 1 Link to post Share on other sites
InnerStrength Posted August 19, 2015 Share Posted August 19, 2015 FWIW, i watched this "behind the scenes* documentary one time. It was all about the girls in the porn industry. Who they really were, what their lives were really like, how the actually felt about sex, etc... it was really eye opening how these girls actually detested the things they were asked to do and how competitive it all was in the porn industry. I guess girls have no choice but to continue doing more and more depraved things just to get jobs. These girls seemed so broken down mentally, physically, and emotionally. It was kind of depressing to watch. After that, every time i tried to watch porn, it was like " she's not really enjoying that...she's probably in a lot of pain... that's someones daughter..." just really couldn't ever get into it after that. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Mathematics Posted August 20, 2015 Share Posted August 20, 2015 You don't need to give up masturbation. Just porn masturbation Seems like a lot of people think it's impossible without porn Well I am trying. Now at day 5. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Yummm Posted August 20, 2015 Share Posted August 20, 2015 I'm quite suprised that some people find it hard to not watch porn, it's really interesting! Obviously there was a phase that I used to watch porn alot, but it was never hard to stop watching that $hit and be creative Link to post Share on other sites
Author joseb Posted August 20, 2015 Author Share Posted August 20, 2015 Well I am trying. Now at day 5. Good stuff. Im still staying away. 5 weeks i think, not really counting anymore. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mathematics Posted August 20, 2015 Share Posted August 20, 2015 Good stuff. Im still staying away. 5 weeks i think, not really counting anymore. You inspire me. Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted September 4, 2015 Share Posted September 4, 2015 I'm on a similar kick. Went through a divorce and definitely found I was falling into old habits of overuse of porn. I went 3 weeks without anything, and I found my whole mind was more awake and aware. Much easier to hold a conversation and be social. Although I am a bit worried my many years of overuse of porn has left a lasting impression. Started dating a girl and I've noticed that I'm struggling to get off. No issues getting up or turned on, but just have some kind of mind block when it comes to getting off. This is the total opposite problem I had before with a lot of porn use where I was a one minute master way too often. I'm probably at a month and a half without porn and I'm really not feeling like looking for it at all anymore. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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