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Old 11th January 2015, 1:22 PM   #1
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hi, i'm alphamale & i'm an alcoholic...

my drinking got out of control. just spent 40 days in rehab. i quit smoking too. and i am off benzos also. have to start AA meetings soon.

anyone have any comments or advice?
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Old 11th January 2015, 1:34 PM   #2
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my drinking got out of control. just spent 40 days in rehab. i quit smoking too. and i am off benzos also. have to start AA meetings soon.

anyone have any comments or advice?
Congrats alpha!

Welcome! Get to a meeting today! (It's all about today) - and ask someone in your meeting to sponsor you. Someone who has been doing the steps.

Share today with the group and tell them you need a sponsor now - to take you through your step work.

Are you doing counseling?
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Old 11th January 2015, 1:43 PM   #3
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my drinking got out of control. just spent 40 days in rehab. i quit smoking too. and i am off benzos also. have to start AA meetings soon.

anyone have any comments or advice?
Congratulations, and very well done by admitting this and bringing it into the open.
I have great admiration for you and wish you every success in your resolve to live life differently.

You are, and always will be, an alcoholic.
But with your will, and much support, you will be an alcoholic who doesn't drink.

Never say "I quit drinking/smoking."

Say "I DON'T drink/I DON'T smoke."

That reinforces your resolve and states it like it is.

Never be afraid to admit if you slip up.
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Old 11th January 2015, 1:46 PM   #4
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my drinking got out of control. just spent 40 days in rehab. i quit smoking too. and i am off benzos also. have to start AA meetings soon.

anyone have any comments or advice?
Congrats buddy. Any life improvements that benefits your health is a good thing. Can imagine how hard it's been for you..

I need to quit smoking too, so you're inspiring me.

Find yourself a good sponsor, my best friend has been sober 20+ years now, still goes to AA meeting and still speaks to her sponsor too.
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my drinking got out of control. just spent 40 days in rehab. i quit smoking too. and i am off benzos also. have to start AA meetings soon.

anyone have any comments or advice?
Well done and good luck with your recovery.

How are you feeling after rehab?
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Old 11th January 2015, 3:53 PM   #7
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my drinking got out of control. just spent 40 days in rehab. i quit smoking too. and i am off benzos also. have to start AA meetings soon.

anyone have any comments or advice?
Just some (((hugs))) to you and congratulations, keep up the good work- as I'm sure you already know it's hard and it's very easy to go back- keep your guard up.
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Old 11th January 2015, 3:56 PM   #8
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Congrats buddy. Any life improvements that benefits your health is a good thing. Can imagine how hard it's been for you..

I need to quit smoking too, so you're inspiring me.

Find yourself a good sponsor, my best friend has been sober 20+ years now, still goes to AA meeting and still speaks to her sponsor too.
Maybe we should check in too (for smoking) ...not sure about you, but I am a B when quitting smoking (have been though this several times before) and it would save my family a lot of heartache
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Hi I'm Art_Critic and I'm an alcoholic, I have been sober since June 28th 1987.

No comments or advice, just hugs Alpha and congrats on wanting to quit.
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Old 11th January 2015, 6:30 PM   #10
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Hi Alphamale.

The first step of getting past a problem is admitting that there is one. They are some big brave moves you've taken and you should be very proud of yourself.

I'm proud of you. XO
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Comments: Sorry to hear things got out of hand for you, Alpha. I hope it didn't end up costing you more than maybe some embarrassment and disruption. But glad to know you're making the changes you need to make.

Advice: I don't have much advice to offer, except maybe to make your relationships with friends and family one of your highest priorities. They will support you, and you'll be more likely to resist temptation knowing they care for you and rely on you.
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Congratulations!

My only "advice" is stick to your program. You can't do this alone. Take it one day at a time and never be afraid to ask for the help.

Good luck!
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Old 11th January 2015, 10:52 PM   #14
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Hi Alpha!
Remember that alcohol never solves any problems. In most cases it creates even more of them. Find someone who you can rely on to be there to talk when you need an ear. Don't try to do it on your own. It's not weakness to ask for help.
You've taken the first step and admitted you are an alcoholic!
Attend your AA meetings and find a good friend to help you in the rough times. There are many here on LS that will listen to you.
Good to hear from you, Alpha!
Not many left from the old timers.
Hang in there and be kind to yourself!
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Old 12th January 2015, 12:13 PM   #15
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Congrats buddy. Any life improvements that benefits your health is a good thing. Can imagine how hard it's been for you..

I need to quit smoking too, so you're inspiring me.

Find yourself a good sponsor, my best friend has been sober 20+ years now, still goes to AA meeting and still speaks to her sponsor too.
i don't even miss cigarets anymore

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Just some (((hugs))) to you and congratulations, keep up the good work- as I'm sure you already know it's hard and it's very easy to go back- keep your guard up.
thanx

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Hi I'm Art_Critic and I'm an alcoholic, I have been sober since June 28th 1987.

No comments or advice, just hugs Alpha and congrats on wanting to quit.
thanx

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Hi Alphamale.

The first step of getting past a problem is admitting that there is one. They are some big brave moves you've taken and you should be very proud of yourself.

I'm proud of you. XO
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Comments: Sorry to hear things got out of hand for you, Alpha. I hope it didn't end up costing you more than maybe some embarrassment and disruption. But glad to know you're making the changes you need to make.

Advice: I don't have much advice to offer, except maybe to make your relationships with friends and family one of your highest priorities. They will support you, and you'll be more likely to resist temptation knowing they care for you and rely on you.
yeah family comes 1st

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Hi Alpha!
Remember that alcohol never solves any problems. In most cases it creates even more of them. Find someone who you can rely on to be there to talk when you need an ear. Don't try to do it on your own. It's not weakness to ask for help.
You've taken the first step and admitted you are an alcoholic!
Attend your AA meetings and find a good friend to help you in the rough times. There are many here on LS that will listen to you.
Good to hear from you, Alpha!
Not many left from the old timers.
Hang in there and be kind to yourself!
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