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If you can. I quit. One day I just deleted my entire collection. I was a king and "go to" guy in the porn market trade. Even made a few vids myself. All 3000-something vids, gone. And I tried to make a comeback, with a data recovery program, but my dumbass overwritten the files.

So that's that.

 

If you want to be able to perform for a girl. Leave the porn alone. Because you'll be ramming her, or she would be blowing you, and you'd still not get hard enough. And if you do, it's half-assed and for all of 20 seconds.

 

This is not ED. ED is when you have blood flow problems. If you are still getting random hardons and morning wood, then there is nothing wrong with you--it's mental.

It ****ed with me for a while. If you do not believe it is in the brain try this (if you can).

Try to masturbate without porn. Just touching yourself. If you cannot there is something wrong.

Say a girl is giving you a handjob or blowjob and you aren't getting very hard. You know what you can do? (If she agrees of course)

Use your camera on your phone to record while she's doing it. Bet you'd get hard. Because it's like watching porn. You need that 'angle'.

This can destroy your sex life.

 

Give up porn. And if you have to release, try to without porn. It will take a while but at least you will be able to recover.

I havent masturbated since like what, 3 weeks? I can admit. I was definitely an addict. And it doesn't help that I have a kink either. But I'll win in the end.

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If you can. I quit. One day I just deleted my entire collection. I was a king and "go to" guy in the porn market trade. Even made a few vids myself. All 3000-something vids, gone. And I tried to make a comeback, with a data recovery program, but my dumbass overwritten the files.

So that's that.

 

If you want to be able to perform for a girl. Leave the porn alone. Because you'll be ramming her, or she would be blowing you, and you'd still not get hard enough. And if you do, it's half-assed and for all of 20 seconds.

 

This is not ED. ED is when you have blood flow problems. If you are still getting random hardons and morning wood, then there is nothing wrong with you--it's mental.

It ****ed with me for a while. If you do not believe it is in the brain try this (if you can).

Try to masturbate without porn. Just touching yourself. If you cannot there is something wrong.

Say a girl is giving you a handjob or blowjob and you aren't getting very hard. You know what you can do? (If she agrees of course)

Use your camera on your phone to record while she's doing it. Bet you'd get hard. Because it's like watching porn. You need that 'angle'.

This can destroy your sex life.

 

Give up porn. And if you have to release, try to without porn. It will take a while but at least you will be able to recover.

I havent masturbated since like what, 3 weeks? I can admit. I was definitely an addict. And it doesn't help that I have a kink either. But I'll win in the end.

 

I've been off porn and masturbation for a week now. It's tough ****.

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It's not the porn. It's the addiction to the porn. Porn in and of itself is not the problem. You addiction to it is the problem.

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True, agree. The porn is the "vehicle" for the addiction. Just as alcohol, drugs, shopping, sex, love can be the same... They all are just the choice of behavior to fuel the addiction. To provide that high, that rush of chemicals to the brain, that provide you with the "comfort" you need. You get hooked, because without that feeling, you are "lost", anxious, unable to deal with the real issues at hand. The deep issues that you must get help for. If you can't do it cold turkey. If you can, that's great! But realize you may have a set back. True addiction very hard to overcome. Must need support, counseling, maybe rehab, a program to follow. To rewire the brain, get thru withdrawal, and change your thought process, behaviors.

 

Not easy, but with hard work, commitment, yes, it can be done. If you love YOURSELF, love others in your life, can truly see how addiction will only harm you and your life, admit you have a problem, deal with the emotional issues that led to the initial choice to begin the addiction, do the work to rewire your brain and thinking, get your brain chemistry back to a healthy place...

 

Live your life in a healthy way! It's up to YOU, and only you. Or deal with the consequences... This is life! And it can be either manageable, or not. Each person's individual choice.

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If you can. I quit. One day I just deleted my entire collection. I was a king and "go to" guy in the porn market trade. Even made a few vids myself. All 3000-something vids, gone. And I tried to make a comeback, with a data recovery program, but my dumbass overwritten the files.

So that's that.

 

If you want to be able to perform for a girl. Leave the porn alone. Because you'll be ramming her, or she would be blowing you, and you'd still not get hard enough. And if you do, it's half-assed and for all of 20 seconds.

 

This is not ED. ED is when you have blood flow problems. If you are still getting random hardons and morning wood, then there is nothing wrong with you--it's mental.

It ****ed with me for a while. If you do not believe it is in the brain try this (if you can).

Try to masturbate without porn. Just touching yourself. If you cannot there is something wrong.

Say a girl is giving you a handjob or blowjob and you aren't getting very hard. You know what you can do? (If she agrees of course)

Use your camera on your phone to record while she's doing it. Bet you'd get hard. Because it's like watching porn. You need that 'angle'.

This can destroy your sex life.

 

Give up porn. And if you have to release, try to without porn. It will take a while but at least you will be able to recover.

I havent masturbated since like what, 3 weeks? I can admit. I was definitely an addict. And it doesn't help that I have a kink either. But I'll win in the end.

 

Thank you for this post. Thank you so much. I appreciate to see a guy writing this. My ex and I partly broke up because he was addicted to porn and masturbation and couldn't perform IRL. Unfortunately he chose to blame it on me instead of trying to overcome his addiction.

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Sometimes what some fail to realize is that you can watch porn once and that can snowball effect. What happens when you are not getting a girlfriend/boyfriend? You're not having luck dating? You haven't been even touched in weeks? You'll go in your head saying, let me relieve myself. And it could become a habit. You could say to yourself,

I don't mind being alone as long as I got this vids. And then, you'll start to do it more to just be happy. Or as a defense against depression and stress.

 

I'm not saying masturbation and porn is evil. They are fun. But I was telling myself the same things--how nothing will be wrong. Etc. etc.

 

Don't edge either. And for the good of yourself, if you have a GF, don't do it all together.

Don't masturbate frequently. At least save the orgasm for her. Lol

 

When you give up the porn you'll also look at women a but differently. Not as sexual objects. That's not completely though. Because even though I quit, I'll still end up

lusting here and there.

Trust me. Give yourself gaps. Try for 90 days. See what happens. What have you got to lose?

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I guess most people don't realize that this can be a serious issue.

Some are more likely to get addicted than others.

 

About the looking at women differently...absolutely true. My ex wanted me to parade around looking like a hoochie all the time. Which means: He preferred a lot of make up, very long hair, short skirts or tight pants skigh high heels, tits all over the place, super long red nails..

 

All of these things can be absolutely beautifull, but alltogether they made me feel like I was just there to show myself, as if I have nothing else to do then be pretty and strut around...

 

He used to say that all men like that look, and the ones that say they don't are lying. At first when I didn't know about the addiction I blieved it, but later, also I grew older and more mature, I realized that was BS.

 

That's what porn addiction can do to a man.

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Yup I almost did the same thing. But I look at beauty differently. So it wasn't to a severity as your case. I just became an extreme freak. My drive was overbearing. My kink is that I have a foot fetish also. So when first meeting a woman I immediately would take a glance at her feet. If it was even a minor flaw within them (and I mean minor) my mind would already be made up.

 

But I wised up quickly. Realized what I was becoming--and being hypocritical to add. Now I look at personality first. A personality and good heart is much sexier than a guy can realize.

 

But yeah, your guy was lying. Lol

I mean, I couldn't even bring my woman through that; getting dolled up every single day. If my woman likes to walk around in sweats and T's, casual stuff, I would not mind. Dolling up should be for special occasions really.

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Porn addiction is the fastest growing addiction in the world.

 

Interesting side note: Not that it is any surprise, but they found mountains of porn in Saddam Hussein's palaces after they raided them, along with tons of it at Osama Bin Laden's hideout.

 

Anyhow, I suggest EVERYONE avoid ALL porn. Nothing good comes from porn.

 

The only possible positive of watching people have sex on video, would be educational sex videos, made in extremely good taste, with full respect for the woman, and with an educational tone throughout.

 

But having said that, I have seen such videos (sex videos with an educational premise), and honestly, I'm not even real hip to those type videos. They are a bit too much like porn. I think people can generally figure out how to 'have sex' on their own, or else, they probably shouldn't be having sex!

 

 

But yes, porn becomes an addiction in so many cases. I have been addicted myself. Haven't watched porn in 2 years now (go me!!). You can do it if you put your mind to it.

 

 

Just say no to porn. There is so much more in life. Porn is a waste of time and brain space. And, your sex life will vastly improve (and become much more natural and authentic), once you tell porn to take a hike.

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Just say no to porn. There is so much more in life. Porn is a waste of time and brain space. And, your sex life will vastly improve (and become much more natural and authentic), once you tell porn to take a hike.

 

That is a bit of a straw man. For many of us, porn is what you use when you can't have real sex. I've never used porn as an option to sex, just an option to pure fantasy. Us men are highly visual, you know. ;)

 

I don't like probably 90% of the stuff out there. It is way to extreme for me. And some of it is disturbing. But I do find a selection of videos that do the job. As with anything, I think if used in moderation is can be fine. The trick is to realize when things are going too far. And it would seem that a large percentage of the population has a problem moderating this behavior. But a lot of that could just be a matter of public awareness. Just as with most drugs, when a new addiction or danger emerges, it takes time for people to recognize the problem.

 

The other thing seems to be constantly increasing the level of kink. It is no wonder people get desensitized with all of the hard stuff out there. I try to stick with natural sex scenes - things that I would do... but of course I would do them much much better. :rolleyes:

 

I also noticed over the years that there are things I thought I wanted to do, but when I am with a flesh and blood woman, I really don't want to do them. It might seem exciting in a video or in the imagination but doesn't feel right in real life. I guess that is the difference between porn sex and real sex.

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Porn is fake. period.

In the majority of all porn, the women fake orgasms, and they don't enjoy it. It's so easy to see that it gets annoying to watch. ugh...

 

I agree with like fairy, 1000 likes for your post. It's all true.

 

I do understand that some men need use of porn to visualize when no woman around, also no problem.

 

But just like in all addictions...people don't realize what it does to them when they get addicted.

 

It scares me to see in my surrounding how the women are trying to look more and more like dolls. No one can deny that comes from all the fakeness and the looks in porn, and porn like video clips nowadays...

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As with anything, I think if used in moderation is can be fine.

 

The trick is to realize when things are going too far.

 

And it would seem that a large percentage of the population has a problem moderating this behavior.

 

But a lot of that could just be a matter of public awareness. Just as with most drugs, when a new addiction or danger emerges, it takes time for people to recognize the problem.

 

 

You make great points and I agree. Yes, it WOULD seem that a large and may I say increasingly growing percentage of the population has a problem moderating this behavior, and other addictive behaviors.

 

Why is that? Because Americans are not longer farmers out toiling in the fields. They are lumps on couches with too much time on their hands, a flagging sense of self esteem, and inclined towards addiction.

 

The porn genie is out of the bottle, porn is widespread on every conceivable form of media.

 

The only way for the porn 'genie' to get back into the bottle would be for the government to step in and ban it - such as is the case in China and other countries.

 

But that goes against the ideals of freedom that we have in the USA. So I don't see that happening here anytime soon.

 

So yes, I agree is it a matter of public awareness.

 

I read that porn sales

 

make more money than all money

 

made from every professional sports league COMBINED. That is a mind staggering multi, multi-billions of dollars.

 

Porn is king at the moment, and will probably stay that way for some time.

 

For all these reasons, I just say "No" to porn now. And that's actually a really good feeling, I might add. :) I don't feel superior to others. I just feel better with porn out of my life. The proof is in the pudding, that is to say, how you feel, when you remove an element of something from your life.

 

If it helps at all, think of the people in the porn, and the reasons they are making porn.

 

Need of easy money, sex addiction, exhibitionism, drug addiction, or mental impairment/self esteem issues, are the reasons they are in porn. Can you imagine famous people you really admire and respect in this world making porn?

 

Bill Gates? Margaret Thatcher? Oprah? Martin Luther King? Gandi? Winston Churchill? Mother Teresa? George Washington Carver? George Washington? Ben Franklin? Marie Curie? Thomas Jefferson? Eleanor Roosevelt?

Nope! :laugh:

 

So why is that?

 

You don't make porn for altruistic reasons such as you would to commit your life's work to research for curing muscular dystrophy or cerebral palsy.

 

There is a dysfunctional component to porn for both the participants and for the viewer. And I try to remove dysfunction from my life as I can.

 

Anyhow, to each his own. My view is porn is a negative energy in this world and therefore I don't support it.

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Can you imagine famous people you really admire and respect in this world making porn?

 

Bill Gates? Margaret Thatcher? Oprah?

 

 

Now there's a threesome I never imagined! I would watch it.

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Now there's a threesome I never imagined! I would watch it.

 

I don't think I would have shared that with everyone Robert :laugh::p

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You don't make porn for altruistic reasons such as you would to commit your life's work to research for curing muscular dystrophy or cerebral palsy.

 

There is a dysfunctional component to porn for both the participants and for the viewer. And I try to remove dysfunction from my life as I can.

 

Anyhow, to each his own. My view is porn is a negative energy in this world and therefore I don't support it.

 

TLF, with men you go for the penis, not the conscience. :laugh: Desensitization of the brain and the inability to get an erection is a pretty good motivator to quit porn.

 

 

As for negative energy, I definitely feel that with a lot of stuff out there. More times than I care to remember, I've clicked on a video and couldn't unclick it fast enough.

 

 

I guess us older guys are more immune to the problem because we weren't saturated in porn at a young age when the brain is more easily affected. Today, we see boys disappearing into their bedroom to masturbate for ten or more years! It is shocking to see the number of threads started by men in their mid twenties who have never been on a date. And no wonder when you've been whacking it in a dark room since age 12.

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I tell guys women aren't going to fall into your lap. It's many ways to get laid out there.

 

As for the industry, it's barely an industry anymore. Porn is more like a trade. You can make a sick amount of income doing porn. As a couple or as yourself. Just look at Clips4Sale. Most are everyday kind of people doing those. The trick in starting your own store or business is you need to frequently upgrade. Because your videos could be leaked out easily.

 

And honestly ever since I quit, I have cared less about anxiety and rejection. I mean if I could go back I would do things differently, but I am glad I got all that stuff out of my system.

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Girl: So who are you? What you do? Whats your sign?

Me: You ask so many questions. I am a Scorpio. Perceptive and intelligent. Can I ask one?

Girl: Shoot it from the hip baby!

Me: Are we going to bed?

 

 

:laugh: Your sig almost made me spit coffee all over my computer! :mad:

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