skittlesnd Posted May 27, 2003 Share Posted May 27, 2003 My boyfriend has a porn problem. He needs help it has got so bad he stills it from stores and then lies and to me about it. It is pulling are relationship apart. He don't think he has a problem and its not like I'm not here to give it to him.We see each other every day. p.s where can i get him some help Link to post Share on other sites
stewh Posted May 27, 2003 Share Posted May 27, 2003 Help him by dumping him and getting some one who only wants you. Then he will decide on what he cares about most. Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted May 27, 2003 Share Posted May 27, 2003 Couselors! -yes Meanwhile, read up on this addiction on the net. Link to post Share on other sites
Author skittlesnd Posted May 27, 2003 Author Share Posted May 27, 2003 I love him so much and I told him how I feel about it and it seem like every time I say something to him it stops until I need to use his comp then I find it. It makes me sick. I have told him before when he can get over porn he can have me and he dose for a little bit. Then its the same thing all over. I don't under stand i give him everything he could want. Link to post Share on other sites
sadman Posted June 3, 2003 Share Posted June 3, 2003 Wow, this situation is really bad for you. This guy needs help and you need to find a person who can fulfill their fantasies with you, not a computer. I would tell this guy that you deserve better and dump his ass immediately. Link to post Share on other sites
natura Posted June 3, 2003 Share Posted June 3, 2003 This appears to be a problem of yours and not a problem of his. Has he acknowledged a problem? Does he realize how it is hurting your relationship? If so, how? If he wants help, then he needs to take an initiative. He should be emailing this message asking for help and not you! Link to post Share on other sites
Lashae Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 I have a similar problem; I guess my question is how does one know when it is truly an addiction? As of 3 weeks ago today, I discovered that my husband has been looking at porn virtually every other day for 3.5 years. He viewed this material before then from time to time when a friend had it for free or something, but it was 3.5 years ago that we purchased our computer. He is a miserly 35 year old individual and no financial records prove that he is any less miserly with porn. In fact, he says he would never pay for it or have his name associated with it. My therapist says he is an addict. Of course, he says he is not. I check his records at work and he does not appear to be dumb enough to risk his job over it. He has not looked at porn in 3 weeks; I know only because he has spent the majority of the time with me and our two kids. He has not even been in the computer room since I found out. He says that it is no big deal to him and that he has no desire to do it again. He said that because we looked at it together in the past, he did not think it was a big deal while he was doing it either. One of his excuses is that it is easily accessible and idle time is the devil's playground. Now that he knows it has devastated me, he appears to be doing everything within his power to spend more time with me. During the time he was looking, we still had intercourse 2-4 times per week, so I never thought anything could possibly be going on. The thing that bothers me most is that when I first caught him, he said he had only done it about 5 times since last September. However, after further research, I discovered he had done it five times that week. It seems as though his turn-around is to good to be true. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
tanita Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 maybe i do not get the point here but what is the problem if a guy views porn?? i mean my bf does it and sometimes we do it together.to all the girls out there:what is the problem if your guy views porn,as long as he tells u about it ? please let me know! Link to post Share on other sites
Bill Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 skittlesnd: Leave him, date me. Problem solved. Link to post Share on other sites
Lashae Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 Tanita, I tend to agree with you to some extent. The problem is with the last part of your reply, "as long as he tells you about it". It did not; In fact, he went to extremes to hide it even though he admits that he did not think I would care because we had done it together in the past. I have a problem with the dishonesty. Lashae Link to post Share on other sites
Gray Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 Wow, there are some fickle lovers on here. I'd hate to be dating Bill or stweh. The moment theres trouble they're out of there! Now thats love for ya. Treat it like any addiction. He's lying, he's stealing. Talk to, tell him how its affecting you. Get him to seek help. If that doesn't work, then bring others in on an intervention. Or maybe you don't love him, then let him deal with it himself. Link to post Share on other sites
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