Guest Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 do not talk with them call them anything u deserve better these creeps will make u laugh and open up then steal important things from u do not let your guard down at any time please if u have been hurt really bad by them go directly to NC Link to post Share on other sites
whatwentwrong19 Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 They will never change that's for sure. Now I'm not a woman but in my case I was the victim yet I notice a few people will still think it's funny. Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 They will never change that's for sure. Now I'm not a woman but in my case I was the victim yet I notice a few people will still think it's funny. You right. People find it hard to believe that women can be abusers also Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 Unfortunately there are a whole host of reasons why women seek out abusive relationships. And most of them are not easily summarized on a message board. As long as there is low self-esteem, codependency, lack of will power, do-nothingism, and crazy making behavior, there will be abusive relationships. Abuse a feedback loop, not something that can be understood if isolated from the relationship system in which it occurs. But point taken. Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 Abuse a feedback loop, not something that can be understood if isolated from the relationship system in which it occurs. Please explain Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 I'm loathe to answer that question because I think that you're fishing for a debate . I've been in a series of different abusive relationships. The last one culminated in state prison time for the man who abused me because he tried to kill someone in front of me. But I am accountable for the crazymaking behaviors that I engaged in. IMO, there are two people involved, and the roles are never as black and white as people would like to believe. In fact, by acknowledging my own negative patterns, I've grown out of them and have been able to establish my first relationship that has become abuse free. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 It was like....there was something broken inside of me that made me irresistably attracted to abusive men. When I attended to the broken parts of myself, I stopped being attracted to abusive men. Go figure. Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted December 13, 2006 Share Posted December 13, 2006 wasnt fishing for a debate. Was looking for your train of thought. Thought you were saying the abuse was a direct action of the relationship Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted December 13, 2006 Share Posted December 13, 2006 wasnt fishing for a debate. Was looking for your train of thought. Thought you were saying the abuse was a direct action of the relationship Just look up abusive realtionships and such on the internet. Lots of discussions can be made about abusive realtionships which has in the past led to heated debates. I think I know what she is talking about but I'm not 100% sure. Link to post Share on other sites
bonehead Posted December 13, 2006 Share Posted December 13, 2006 I got what she was saying in her second post. And it makes sense. Some people are attracted to the abusive type, and there is a reason for it. Once that reason is addressed they normally are able to break that cycle. Link to post Share on other sites
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