<*Guest*> Posted September 21, 2006 Share Posted September 21, 2006 Hi there, Tidbits - I had a mutual break with a guy about a month and a half ago. Haven't chatted since (NC thing). Situation - I have a myspace account that has a tracker code in it. Issue - I noticed that two weeks after our break-up two regular IP's have been on my site everyday. The first one has been there previously but lately has been visiting everyday for about 3 or 4 visists throughout the day. The second IP is every day, once. I originally thought that the one IP, the most frequent of the two, was the ex boyfriend because the IP matched an email he sent me. First, I don't understand why he is watching me when he couldn't see us being together? Second, I can't understand the second IP's reason for frequency. I remember the ex telling me that his (girl) best friend was jealous and would watch my site when we were together. So, naturally I thought the second one was her. The weird thing is that, WE ARE BROKEN UP. Why would she still be monitoring me? I have nothing to do with this man anymore. Am I being cyber stalked? Further, both my ex and this woman are monitoring my two closet friends as well now. The ex visits one more than the other, and the girl visits the other one more than the one my ex does. Things are weird! I know the ex has the most frequent IP for sure now, since he is away for a while and now the one IP has disappeared. I'm not sure if he will come back to my site when he get's back, but his behavior indicates he will. The second IP is still constant and I don't know why. What does she want with me? Has anyone got any informaiton or advice or ideas as to what the hell is going on? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 21, 2006 Share Posted September 21, 2006 I know the ex has the most frequent IP for sure now' date=' since he is away for a while and now the one IP has disappeared. [/quote'] So... Just how is it that you know your ex is away for a while ??? I don't think hitting a public webpage is stalking... He is most likley seeing what you are up to.. it happens.. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted September 21, 2006 Share Posted September 21, 2006 i agree with art, as usual. looking at a webpage isn't what I would call stalking, because the behavior has to affect the way you live your life -- with incessant phone calls/hangups, or following you around, or watching your house, or harassing friends and family. IMO preoccupation becomes stalking when your behavior starts to infringe on a person's ability to freely live their life without fear. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted September 21, 2006 Share Posted September 21, 2006 So... Just how is it that you know your ex is away for a while ??? yeah....... and can't you block him from seeing your page? or at least most of it? Link to post Share on other sites
LaughMachine Posted September 21, 2006 Share Posted September 21, 2006 jw but how do you have a myspace tracker?? where did you get it Link to post Share on other sites
napoleandynamite Posted September 22, 2006 Share Posted September 22, 2006 yeah...tell me more about the myspace tracker! I have a myspace as well! In regards to your questions, he probably isn't stalking you~nor is dangerous. Probably just wants to see what you're up to and misses you a little bit. But on a more general note...it doesn't hurt to be cautious, as you never know with anybody. Just keep your wits about you is all. But no need to worry about this man specifically. I'm guessing he is harmless. If he does do anything else, then start to worry. Link to post Share on other sites
<*Guest*> Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 Hi Everyone, This has gotten even more disturbing. The girl friend of his in the original post has joined him on his business trip, literally a VACATION to relax for her. He has been there for the past week and the day SHE arrives, the hotel information of where they are staying has now shown up on my tracker while he is working. SHE IS ON VACATION and she goes to the business center of the hotel to look at me??? Not even he had looked and he is the one I dated! I have marked my profile private because this is beyond disturbing now. I don't know what to do. I know that my ex looks at my site, and I am okay with that and truthfully it makes me feel a little better knowing that he is thinking about me too. Marking myself private blocks him though, but I can't stand her meddling and retorting to my blogs. Link to post Share on other sites
Jane Doe Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 Unfortunately, when you have public sites like that, these things are going to happen. Even if she's with him, she may be very insecure and is checking to make sure you're not having anything to do with him. I don't think what she's doing is "stalking" but it's creepy nevertheless. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 You seem to know an awful lot about them.. where they are.. what they are doing .. what hotel they are in Are you sure you aren't stalking them ? I'm thinking you are spending too much time thinking about this.. Let it go.. Link to post Share on other sites
Jane Doe Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 Art Critic, a good site meter will easily tell you things such as this. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 Art Critic, a good site meter will easily tell you things such as this. No site meter will tell her that they are on vacation.. She knows too much about his whereabouts.. She mentioned in her original post that he is away for a while.. How does she know these things.. One thing is for sure.. people do emotional things during a breakup.. hitting a public webpage is not stalking Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 SHE IS ON VACATION and she goes to the business center of the hotel to look at me??? How do you know SHE is on vacation and it was her hitting your page ? You mentioned earlier that HE was out of town or away.. you now mention HER.. How do you know these things ? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 How do you know these things ? My thoughts exactly and I'm wondering why you're knowing ALL that goes on with them. Maybe if you spent less time focussing on them you'll feel happier. Honestly, if you're so concerned about being stalked online, get rid of your webpage or myspace account and contact those who you know through emails. Then maybe in time, open up another webpage and only give to those you trust and have nothing to do with your ex and this girl. Link to post Share on other sites
<*Guest*> Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 I understand the counter-analysis. I think that is great and it is constructive. I am sorry I did not state this earlier. I am recently broken up and thus still aware of the agenda that was set for the next few months. The trip that is in effect, is one that was to include me. I obviously knew of this trip well in advance since I was originally incorporated into it. I did not know that she was to be taking my spot however. How I know she has gone is through mutual friends discussing how excited this woman was to be going. Shock to me, yes, did I show it, no - I came here. I have many 'real' friends that I share photos with via myspace (as I am sure many others do). It is easier than emailing 30 people when all they have to do is look for themselves. I did originally remove my myspace and even tried an entirely new (created) email account to post under with a fake alias and posted myself in NewZealand with celebrity pictures. However, this woman has been sifting through my friends to track me down - thus how she has found me yet again! I know it is a public space and that this is a reprecussion of it being so. But, seriously, how the heck do I not know that this woman isn't sitting outside my apartment complex at night? Or following me to work? etc... the obsessive compulsive behavior she has in regards to studying me is a serial trait, is it not? I am just concerned for safety reasons, wondering if perhaps any of you have found yourself or heard of someone with an obsessive quality like this, and if it has lead to future destruction. I hope this clear's it up. I don't monitor her - I have no interest to. I don't monitor my ex either. I have a tracker code attached to myspace and yes it does provide highly detailed information. I also am a network administrator so I have all kinds of goodies that you could only imagine. It's a scary world out there in the virtual world and we know a heck of a lot about you. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
britchick Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 Perhaps she originally found out that he was looking at your myspace account by having a snoop through his computer and now she's keeping an eye out for him posting anything on there. She's obviously feeling jealous and insecure. I'd just ignore it, at some point they are both going to get bored as long as you don't react. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 It's probably just habit - ie he's used to checking your myspace account from when the two of you are an item, and it's become part of his computer using routine. That and nosiness. If he were hacking into your email account, that would be a different matter altogether. As others have said, though, myspace is a public page. If you the idea of particular people checking your myspace page out makes you uncomfortable (and I can totally understand that, which is why I'd never have one) it's probably an idea to get rid of it. Or restrict access to friends, if such a thing is possible. Link to post Share on other sites
Jane Doe Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 If your friends are giving this woman information about you, I think you need to do a little analysis of your friends and question their motives for doing this. Link to post Share on other sites
LaughMachine Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 This thread is titled " am I being stalk " Yet at the end of your previous post, it says " we know alot about you...thanks " I find that funny Well any who can you fill me in on some of these " goodies" jk I would like to see who is looking at myspace, and all it says is the city. Now please can you answer my question and tell me where I can find my away around that ? No it has nothing to do with an ex. My ex doesn't have a myspace. I am awfully curious about WHO looks at my page like a 100 times a day Link to post Share on other sites
Jane Doe Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 You can install a site meter on your website. sitemeter.com is a good one to try, plus it's free. Link to post Share on other sites
<*Guest*> Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 If your friends are giving this woman information about you, I think you need to do a little analysis of your friends and question their motives for doing this. One step ahead here.... I already checked with the friends to ensure that my information does not get presented to her. This information about the trip was in passing conversation standing in a starbucks lineup. The friends did not react, but did mention to me later. As for the site tracker. It is through the establishment I work for. We have an appdev department that constructs codes. I had a appdev genius create it after brainstorming. It is being used as a trial version currently, and I am the genuie pig to test it. Sorry, but when it hits the market I will be sure to tell you all. It might be pricey to start. It tracks the usual, ip, location, date time stamp, pages visited etc that you can get with a free tracker. It goes a step further by tracking the clicks on the site to indicate just what was looked at (including blogs of myspace), tracks pictures being saved to hard disk, and it tracks the MAC address attached to the PC so that even if the IP changes because it is a DHCP assigned address, the user still is reported with the new IP. Exit and entrance pages, referrers are also tracked. The best part is that it is a non-java script that allows higher access to being codified in websites. We are working on installing it in picture files so we can trace where kiddie porn is being sent to catch the bad guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Jane Doe Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 Sounds great! Let us know when it's on the market! Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 re: Guest: " I also am a network administrator so I have all kinds of goodies that you could only imagine. It's a scary world out there in the virtual world and we know a heck of a lot about you." Yes -and now, after hearing all that, , it just got a lot scarier. -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
the_alchemyst Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 I also am a network administrator so I have all kinds of goodies that you could only imagine. It's a scary world out there in the virtual world and we know a heck of a lot about you. Thanks Then use your goodies to solve your "stalking" problem. People like you are ridiculous. Link to post Share on other sites
<*Guest*> Posted September 25, 2006 Share Posted September 25, 2006 People like you are ridiculous. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I will tolerate yours. Just remember, people like 'us' protect your children. People like 'us' help keep you safe from terror threats. People like 'us' keep tabs on criminals. People like 'us' influence the administration to keep the internet open to all, for that people like 'you' can post your own uncensored thoughts on a forum such as this. After all, what is being done here is more or less like the NSA that the U.S. already has. Or for Canadians the CSE. Now it's just available to the public in a variety of forms. I also think you missed the point Alchemyst. I was seeking behavioral association and patterns regarding the cyber-monitoring, not how to find out if they are (I thought that was already clear that I knew this, but I appologize if it was not). Link to post Share on other sites
the_alchemyst Posted September 26, 2006 Share Posted September 26, 2006 Oh, I meant nothing in regards to your line of work. I meant people with your personality. That's all. Link to post Share on other sites
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