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Old 5th February 2018, 8:49 AM   #46
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Yeah , thanks sc , that's what really concerns me.
And so far , it's been pretty disheartening. Few steps forward but right when l think there's head way, back she goes.
Kinda get the feeling l'll still be getting tested in 5yrs time.
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Old 5th February 2018, 9:57 AM   #47
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Kinda get the feeling l'll still be getting tested in 5yrs time.
Chicken and egg. Is she like this because of all the previous drama or did the drama come from the fact she's like this? I wouldn't invest any more time trying to find out...

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Old 5th February 2018, 5:57 PM   #48
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Tbh lucky l think it's 50 50 , 1/2 the ex's abuse and 1/2 her nature .
But then she's still got her 2 kids and the divorce stuff going on too.

SC might've had a good idea, maybe she could get back in touch later on if she feels more ready.
lf l was around then , who knows.
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Old 5th February 2018, 6:01 PM   #49
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she just doesn't trust it or me or men and it'll probably take some guy yrs to get past it with her.

l just can't take that kinda gamble right now or spend years dealing with more head issues.
Soooo, unfortunately l've decided l can't go there.
That's a bummer . She must have been really hurt.
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Old 5th February 2018, 7:55 PM   #50
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Tbh lucky l think it's 50 50 , 1/2 the ex's abuse and 1/2 her nature .
But then she's still got her 2 kids and the divorce stuff going on too.

SC might've had a good idea, maybe she could get back in touch later on if she feels more ready.
lf l was around then , who knows.
Yea donít burn a bridge. You never know what the future holds.

TBH though, I burn bridges all the time lol.
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Old 7th February 2018, 1:19 AM   #51
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That's a bummer . She must have been really hurt.
Yeah and thanks CO. at first l thought it was mainly a cultural thing and she'd just brush off any talk of the ex in any detail. l knew there was more to ex though but in any depth was gonna take time.
Sadly all that turned out far far worse than l was suspecting too. She's gonna need a lottttta time, l don't really hold much hope tbh.
lf she'd let me in we could get somehwere but l don't think she's gonna even be capable of that for a lonnggg time.
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Old 8th February 2018, 7:42 AM   #52
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And then again , not that l can preach anyway.

l was only expecting a bit of chit chat from a date site , that's why l joined.
ln all honesty l still have my own ex stuff to work through anyway it hasn't been very long for me either.
And totally separate to this situation admittedly l've been having relapses right through it myself too.

l also noticed myself comparing and stuff a lot too , that's def' not fair .

Maybe it's just as well for now.
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