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Old 31st December 2017, 2:36 PM   #61
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Yeah, I see your point but I wish men valued intelligence, loyalty and kindness more than superficial entertaiment
There are men who do, although they are probably not the majority. But then, as they say, you only need one.

I also think that it's a spectrum rather than a binary choice. Most people (of either gender), probably need some degree of physical appearance or "superficial entertainment" to form attraction. But people vary hugely in how much importance they place on it, and how rigid their preferences are.
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Old 31st December 2017, 8:39 PM   #62
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Yeah, I see your point but I wish men valued intelligence, loyalty and kindness more than superficial entertaiment. It also kind of sucks that men are so focused on youth since men are also much less attractive as they age. I find it hard to find men around 40 that are in decent shape and don't look like my dad.
There are plenty of intelligent, loyal, and kind men who also wish women would value those traits more. This isn't an issue exclusive to men only. Those traits will not get you a date with women.

As to men being focused on youth, there are a few reasons for that. Younger women go after older guys. I just turned 39 but I still get women as young as 20 that hit on me. I can only imagine how it is for the really good looking, successful guys around my age. You know, all the guys you ladies go for. When all the traits that many men look for in a woman are possessed mostly by younger ladies, why would they date older ones?

None of us can affect what other people like. There are a couple model types I would love to spend a weekend with but I can't make them wanna hook up with me. Well, ladies can't force men to like things we don't like either.
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Old 31st December 2017, 10:00 PM   #63
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Funny , don't think this one will be mentioned yet but you know what l really , really , love.
A few guys will probly cringe at this one

When l go to use the bathroom and she's got make up and creams and perfumes and body sprays and make up, nail stuff anything and everything - EVERYWHERE !!!!
l love it.
lt's always just so well , girl, feminine .
Always makes me feel like she loves smelling nice and looking nice and looking after herself, just so girlie , love it.

lf l go into the bathroom and there's nothing, just one lonely jar of cream or spray or something, l think wtf , not very girlie.
Go figure.

My ex w and daughter always have the bathroom smothered in there stuff, maybe it's just from that who knows.

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Old 1st January 2018, 11:04 AM   #64
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Yeah, I see your point but I wish men valued intelligence, loyalty and kindness more than superficial entertaiment. It also kind of sucks that men are so focused on youth since men are also much less attractive as they age. I find it hard to find men around 40 that are in decent shape and don't look like my dad.
There is all kinds of smart. Being able to get advanced degrees
or even a BS degree does not mean common sense smart.
Does not guarantee making good decisions, being faithful.
Nor does it mean a woman will handle personal finances well.

It seems women posters use the word intelligence to indicate
at least a 4 year degree and a high paying career.

That form of intelligence does not transfer over to guarantying
a woman will be a good wife. Though it implies that when she
gets divorced her husband will not have to pay support is about
that guarantees.
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Old 1st January 2018, 11:36 AM   #65
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I was watching my favorite gas turbine engine YouTube channel yesterday and the publisher brought in a vintage jet engine expert to help him remove the mid-frame bearing from a J79 (powered the F4 Phantom, among many other military aircraft). The expert was a woman! And she was pretty darned hot! I thought maybe it was a ringer but nah, she was working the specialized tooling like a boss! Now that's attractive, baseball cap and pony tail and all. Like mentioned, intelligence comes in many forms. Keeping tens of thousands of parts flying in formation at the speed of sound takes smarts.

Anyway, happy new year and one more anecdote from the old guy.
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Old 1st January 2018, 11:59 AM   #66
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Given the abundance of people with long lists of unrealistic requirements and expectations of partners on this site, I will I will start my own for 2018.

The list of qualities I am looking for in a woman:
- she has to have a face like a cross between Raquel Welch and Tuesday Weld
- she has to have a body like a yoga instructor but also a bit hippie type
- she has to be into art films -- Fellini, Anotioni, Kurasawa .. none of that chick flick Julia Roberts romantic comedy cr@p
- she has to love the outdoors and trail running in -20 degree weather
- she has to be into skiing

While we are at it, might as well throw in this one..
- she has to be into progressive rock and blues music. none of that Michael Bubble / Harry Connick Jr. cr@p


Happy new year all.
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Old 2nd January 2018, 5:45 AM   #67
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Current Criteria for a Woman Romantically is the following for me in 2018.

I am looking to settle down so if this relationship goes beyond 8 weeks Here is wear I am at. No heavy expectations other than getting together and after 2 months or BF/GF or brake up

Single/Widowed/Divorced.

Separated-There needs to be a timeframe of Divorce Finality for me to really invest in her. There will be no bio kids between us or living together until that haopens. At best she would be a friend.

Sex-this is tricky. It depends on how we groove. Birth Control on both sides whenever it happens.

At this time in my life at age 46. I don't think I want kids. It could change. Depending on how the Woman and I really click. If she has on kid at home fine. I don't know if I could do the 3 to 5 kids. I don't think I could handle that. Unless they were all out of the house.

Her Age Range. 27 to 54 loose range. A tighter fit would be 33 to 49.

Ethnicity-Does not matter. Gong by my pattern. Mixed/Caucasian/Black.

Work-Hopefully she makes good money for her self. Healthcare is stable.

Dress wise. I love women that are more on the Bohemian/Hippie side.

Height- 5'5 to 5'9, but does it really matter

Weight-In fit shape. She can be a little heavy or lithe.

Hair colour-Love Red Heads/Brunet/Brown/Blonde in that order. Long hair that can be tied up is a turn on as well.

Spiritually minded.

Eye colour- no preference.

Personality-Soft and kind/humours/affectionate/Playfull. Sharp and quick witted.

Now my prefernce is mutable. One can't get all those factors.

If had to use a character in the movies or an actress. I would say Sara Jessica Parker from Sex in the City. Not so much her character. More like her real life persona is the type of woman I gravitiate to. Actress Kate Walsh/Susan Sarandon.

Bottom line a woman that also is willing to do the leg work with me as well.
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Old 2nd January 2018, 6:33 AM   #68
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There is all kinds of smart. Being able to get advanced degrees
or even a BS degree does not mean common sense smart.
Does not guarantee making good decisions, being faithful.
Nor does it mean a woman will handle personal finances well.

It seems women posters use the word intelligence to indicate
at least a 4 year degree and a high paying career.

That form of intelligence does not transfer over to guarantying
a woman will be a good wife. Though it implies that when she
gets divorced her husband will not have to pay support is about
that guarantees.

And when a woman DOES have those good qualities, 1) If she isn't young, thin and hot, an average educated guy will not be interested. 2) If she's educated and got good life skills, she probably wants someone on a similar level. Not a guy wanting to be mothered.
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Old 2nd January 2018, 6:34 AM   #69
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Given the abundance of people with long lists of unrealistic requirements and expectations of partners on this site, I will I will start my own for 2018.

The list of qualities I am looking for in a woman:
- she has to have a face like a cross between Raquel Welch and Tuesday Weld
- she has to have a body like a yoga instructor but also a bit hippie type
- she has to be into art films -- Fellini, Anotioni, Kurasawa .. none of that chick flick Julia Roberts romantic comedy cr@p
- she has to love the outdoors and trail running in -20 degree weather
- she has to be into skiing

While we are at it, might as well throw in this one..
- she has to be into progressive rock and blues music. none of that Michael Bubble / Harry Connick Jr. cr@p


Happy new year all.



Good luck with that list jjgitties. What % chance do you think you stand of finding it in a woman that wants to be with you?
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Old 2nd January 2018, 7:17 AM   #70
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Good luck with that list jjgitties. What % chance do you think you stand of finding it in a woman that wants to be with you?
Ok but he seems to have forgotten he is still married, unless he got a divorce over the holidays of course.
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Old 2nd January 2018, 12:07 PM   #71
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There is all kinds of smart. Being able to get advanced degrees
or even a BS degree does not mean common sense smart.
Does not guarantee making good decisions, being faithful.
Nor does it mean a woman will handle personal finances well.

It seems women posters use the word intelligence to indicate
at least a 4 year degree and a high paying career.

That form of intelligence does not transfer over to guarantying
a woman will be a good wife. Though it implies that when she
gets divorced her husband will not have to pay support is about
that guarantees.
My oldest is drop dead gorgeous ( could be a twin to a well known model), is extremely intelligent, creative, independent, hardworking and loyal to a fault.

She would also be, and she has said this herself, a terrible candidate for a romantic relationship. She would drive her partner away because for all her wonderful qualities, the dynamics that make romantic relationships work elude her.
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