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Old 7th July 2017, 12:23 AM   #1
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My bf and I broke up in March of this year. This marks my now 4th relationship and we've remained occasional. Though, I missed him a lot and it devastated when he explained that he wasn't in love with me anymore and wanted to explore.

Sometimes (whenever I have time), I secretly visit his workplace and stay there for about 20 minutes. I already know his work schedule and his favorite hobbies. Other times I've gone to the library because I know when he goes there too. I've been careful not to get caught by him.

However, yesterday his manager saw me and I quickly left. He knows me because I've been introduced to him a couple times. I'm guessing he must have told my ex bf right? I just can't stop thinking about him and wish it would all go back to normal, that he will one day come back and say he loves me again.
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Old 7th July 2017, 12:26 AM   #2
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Since he works at a campus cafeteria, I think if he asks me about it, I was thinking of saying that a friend left something there and I was going to get it. Or will he think I'm making it up?
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Old 7th July 2017, 1:40 PM   #3
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Why are you stalking him? Time to move on.
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Old 7th July 2017, 1:46 PM   #4
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My bf and I broke up in March of this year. This marks my now 4th relationship and we've remained occasional. Though, I missed him a lot and it devastated when he explained that he wasn't in love with me anymore and wanted to explore.

Sometimes (whenever I have time), I secretly visit his workplace and stay there for about 20 minutes. I already know his work schedule and his favorite hobbies. Other times I've gone to the library because I know when he goes there too. I've been careful not to get caught by him.

However, yesterday his manager saw me and I quickly left. He knows me because I've been introduced to him a couple times. I'm guessing he must have told my ex bf right? I just can't stop thinking about him and wish it would all go back to normal, that he will one day come back and say he loves me again.
This is your heads up/come to Jesus moment that you have crossed over into the "crazy EX"/bunny boiler category. If the manager does say something to the Ex BF, your chances of reconciliation will be zero . . . instead of the current almost none.

It's hard to come back and tell someone they love them when they've had to slap and RO on them.
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Old 7th July 2017, 1:49 PM   #5
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Getting caught was a risk you took when you decided to follow him / show up where he'd be. Now that you have experienced the embarrassment of getting caught, hopefully it will cure you of repeating the stalking.


Your EX has moved on. He's not coming back. You have to accept that & move forward in your own life.
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Old 7th July 2017, 1:53 PM   #6
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Since he works at a campus cafeteria, I think if he asks me about it, I was thinking of saying that a friend left something there and I was going to get it. Or will he think I'm making it up?
Oh, Paleeze . . .
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Old 7th July 2017, 1:59 PM   #7
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Why are you stalking him? Time to move on.
I really though I had the best relationship ever with him, to the point it felt as if we've known each other for the longest.
We would talked about forming a family in the near future. I'm already 25 years old and most of my friends already have a child.

Now I feel so alone. I had it all with him. I've been trying to stop thinking of him but can't. I know. I don't want to sound like a stalker. I've never followed a guy's whereabouts before but with him, he made me feel so different.
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Old 7th July 2017, 2:02 PM   #8
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Your EX has moved on. He's not coming back. You have to accept that & move forward in your own life.
I know. It's just that it's been a long while since I ever had a happy and great relationship without any arguments. It was the best and when he broke up suddenly, I didn't see that coming.
I feel soooo lost at this moment. The idea that he likes someone else or started loving some other girls is killing me. So far, nothing indicates that it's because of someone else but that would hurt me.

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Old 7th July 2017, 2:05 PM   #9
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As long as you continue to stalk him, knowing it's over and he's not coming back, you are preventing a guy who could really love you from entering your life. It's time to make your peace with the break up and move on the way your ex has. I doubt his boss mentioned seeing you.
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Find things to do to keep yourself busy & make yourself happy. As you right the ship that is your life, things will settle down & you will be free to love again. Now that you know what a good relationship looks & feels like you can create another one.
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Old 7th July 2017, 2:08 PM   #11
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devastated when he explained that he wasn't in love with me anymore and wanted to explore.
Let go, he isn't in love with you anymore. He broke up with you and has moved on. You have to do the same. Stalking him isn't healthy and all it's doing is keeping your feelings alive and preventing you from moving on.

If you can't do this on your own please seek counseling so you can heal in a healthy way and find a great guy when the timing is right for you.
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Old 7th July 2017, 2:10 PM   #12
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there are many more fish in the sea.

You do not have to explain why you were at a cafeteria.

If he asks, respond with it is nice we are having weather.

You do need to move on.

So many ways to meet these days with online dating and you can ask a guy out. this is not the 1950s.

You will meet someone. work on yourself and find something that you like to do. exercise helps me.

Good luck, things will get better.
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Old 8th July 2017, 7:58 AM   #13
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I really though I had the best relationship ever with him, to the point it felt as if we've known each other for the longest.
We would talked about forming a family in the near future. I'm already 25 years old and most of my friends already have a child.

Now I feel so alone. I had it all with him. I've been trying to stop thinking of him but can't. I know. I don't want to sound like a stalker. I've never followed a guy's whereabouts before but with him, he made me feel so different.
Grow up. Grow a pair. Stop being a sheep. Who cares what your friends do? What do you wanna do?
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Old 8th July 2017, 1:11 PM   #14
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Your stalking him is just going to make him think you're a creep. You have to accept reality -- and the reality is that while you thought he was the right one for you, he KNEW you were not the right one for him, and the fact that you're stalking him and not healthy enough mentally to just let go and move on tells me he was right. You are not hoping to avoid him like you say. You are hoping he'll see you and reunite. That is not going to happen. You need to accept reality and move on.
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You might be lucky this time and get away but don't do this again.
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