Broom Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 Upfront and forward exchange situation? Link to post Share on other sites
eye of the storm Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 No, but then again, he doesn't have hooker fantasies. When a man offers money for sex, he is telling the woman he considers her a prostitute. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 No, but then again, he doesn't have hooker fantasies. When a man offers money for sex, he is telling the woman he considers her a prostitute. Thank you ^^.. I would feel insulted if he offered me money for sex. I mean, men actually pay for sex all the time. When they date/marry they gotta pay for this and that. But, it's not like a "business transaction" with a prostitute. Men pay for this and that cuz the idea is that a woman sacrifices her education/career to tend to him and their family. So, he's not paying her for her maid/cooking/sexing services. He's paying her cuz he took away her time/ability to earn her own money. I mean, if a woman stops working and/or takes a lower paying job and/or slows down her educational pursuits to tend to him, where will she get the money to buy stuff from? But, now that women work, the lines are a little blurred...and, some men argue that they shouldn't have to pay for this and that. But IMO, problem is that while women now work a lot - most of the duties they had before they worked (i.e. cooking, sex, cleaning, tending to kids) still falls on the woman - on top of her working. So, women get burnt out and blow off proper care of the husband (i.e. sex) and the kids/home (i.e. cooking, cleaning, getting nannies/daycare). So, in sum, when men "pay" and/or do things for women in the context of a RL, it's not with the intent that she's his prostitute. It's done not only in reciprocation of the love and sacrifices she does for him and the family, but cuz he took away her earning potential/ability. If a guy would like to do things for me in a RL, I appreciate it, but I would not lean on him. There's some chicks that milk guys in exchange for sex. I call them the "town ho", the "blue-collar golddigger", and I guess in case of the military "dependas". I am not taking advantage of some guy, would be insulted if he just gave me "cash" for my time, and even in instances where he didn't give me "cash" but wanted to do this/that for me, I'd probably still decline cuz I'm so independent and sometimes that turns off guys. I believe guys don't feel good if they aren't providing/protecting for a woman. My last FWB would just look around the house, my vehicle, etc. to see what he could do for me. I guess he just wanted to reciprocate what I did for him. It was nice, but hard for me to accept cuz I'm always trying to be so independent. I wonder if that turned him off? Link to post Share on other sites
Jesuischarlie Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 No obviously as that would make you a prostitute. I have never expected gifts either,. Link to post Share on other sites
GoldieLox Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 No. I'd probably slap a man if he did that. Are you asking in general Broom, or is this pertaining to your AP? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Broom Posted January 27, 2015 Author Share Posted January 27, 2015 Pertaining. He pretty much laid it out that there would be cash reward and other things if I slept with him. Link to post Share on other sites
GoldieLox Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 And I hope you metaphorically kicked him where it hurts and walked away. What a desperate, pathetic scumbag. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 I've had a woman offer sex as a "reward" for doing a few college projects for her so she could ace the class. She did not deliver. One of many reasons I'd like to invent a time machine to go back and smack my younger self. Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted January 27, 2015 Share Posted January 27, 2015 No, but then again, he doesn't have hooker fantasies. When a man offers money for sex, he is telling the woman he considers her a prostitute. I wouldn't necessarily say this..."hooker fantasies". Depending on where you live it can be relatively easy to secure an escort to fulfill that fantasy on the quiet. I would suspect some men would do this to help swing a situation in their favor. Lots of women would be temped to have sex for money..it just the matter the amount. Lots of single women wont be interested in being a mistress for a married man, or in the case of a specific man they may find him a nice guy but just may not find him all that attractive to be compelled to want to get physical. The MM who has a crush on this OW, if his initial overt flirting failed might be tempted to coerce the woman into an affair with offer of $/gifts especially if she was a bit hard up financially. It wont be a fantasy, more of a guy especially if he wealthy getting what he wants, especially if he is used to getting/buying what he wants and it wont have anything to do with a prostitute fantasy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 I wouldn't necessarily say this..."hooker fantasies". Depending on where you live it can be relatively easy to secure an escort to fulfill that fantasy on the quiet. I would suspect some men would do this to help swing a situation in their favor. Lots of women would be temped to have sex for money..it just the matter the amount. Lots of single women wont be interested in being a mistress for a married man, or in the case of a specific man they may find him a nice guy but just may not find him all that attractive to be compelled to want to get physical. The MM who has a crush on this OW, if his initial overt flirting failed might be tempted to coerce the woman into an affair with offer of $/gifts especially if she was a bit hard up financially. It wont be a fantasy, more of a guy especially if he wealthy getting what he wants, especially if he is used to getting/buying what he wants and it wont have anything to do with a prostitute fantasy. Are we talking fantasy or reality here? Cuz I'm down with role playing... And yeah, while from the outside all these "kept" women appear to be getting some guy to pay their bills, they also might be just another "property" of that guy. Seen that happen too many times. When a guy "buys" you, you're not his woman and/or lover...you're "property" Link to post Share on other sites
eye of the storm Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 the "hooker fantasies" was kinda tongue in cheek. I mean my guy doesn't offer me money for sex because he doesn't act like I am a hooker. I wouldn't necessarily say this..."hooker fantasies". Depending on where you live it can be relatively easy to secure an escort to fulfill that fantasy on the quiet. I would suspect some men would do this to help swing a situation in their favor. Lots of women would be temped to have sex for money..it just the matter the amount. Lots of single women wont be interested in being a mistress for a married man, or in the case of a specific man they may find him a nice guy but just may not find him all that attractive to be compelled to want to get physical. The MM who has a crush on this OW, if his initial overt flirting failed might be tempted to coerce the woman into an affair with offer of $/gifts especially if she was a bit hard up financially. It wont be a fantasy, more of a guy especially if he wealthy getting what he wants, especially if he is used to getting/buying what he wants and it wont have anything to do with a prostitute fantasy. And this describes a many treating a woman like a prostitute. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 Upfront and forward exchange situation? Why would someone do that unless in their mind this is a business situation? In my own experience this did not happen and if it did I would have never spoken to him again. Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Z Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 Pertaining. He pretty much laid it out that there would be cash reward and other things if I slept with him. He wants to be your sugar daddy. Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Z Posted January 28, 2015 Share Posted January 28, 2015 (edited) the "hooker fantasies" was kinda tongue in cheek. I mean my guy doesn't offer me money for sex because he doesn't act like I am a hooker. You are already having sex with him so that statement doesn't make much sense. Men generally pay for sex with women who won't otherwise go to bed with them. I have a sugar baby because I want to be with a woman who is out of my league in the dating world. Is that an insult? Okay, if you want to be insulted then be insulted. Your choice. But I don't see it that way. She knows I adore her from the top of her head to the tips of her pretty little toes. Edited January 28, 2015 by Robert Z 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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