Single men outnumber single women =(

[kaylan]

The New, Interactive Singles Map.

 

Ugh...For men in their 20s and 30s, that map makes me feel more than I already do, how much of a challenge itll be to find a high quality chick I click with. Like damn...when you click to see the absolute values, its daunting how much guys outnumber women.

 

And while Im not sure if this data counts gay men and lesbian women...I dont think theres enough of them to shrink those numbers as much as Id like. But I dunno...its just like...wow. Ive always felt finding a great chick was rare...but jeez...now Im wondering when I will ever find someone Id want to date seriously again.

 

Oh wells. Bachelor fo' life lolz.

[Keenly]

Isn't it like 30 single, never been married men for every 1 single, unmarried woman between 18 and 28?

[iris219]

Come down south.

 

There are WAY more single women where I live. When my FI and I go out and I go to bathroom, there is often a woman trying to talk to him when I get back. Alternatively, single men never approach me and when I was single I got approached maybe once every 20x I went out.

 

And it's because there are so many single women and so few single men here.

[Keenly]

Come down south.

 

There are WAY more single women where I live. When my FI and I go out and I go to bathroom, there is often a woman trying to talk to him when I get back. Alternatively, single men never approach me and when I was single I got approached maybe once every 20x I went out.

 

And it's because there are so many single women and so few single men here.

 

Sounds like I should move .

[kaylan]

Come down south.

 

There are WAY more single women where I live. When my FI and I go out and I go to bathroom, there is often a woman trying to talk to him when I get back. Alternatively, single men never approach me and when I was single I got approached maybe once every 20x I went out.

 

And it's because there are so many single women and so few single men here.

As a black man I definitely will not move down south. I have family and friends who live or have lived down there. Dating is much better on the west or east coast if you are minority.They say its like night and day. Theres still a stigma with interracial dating in the south...especially if the pairing is black-white.

Isn't it like 30 single, never been married men for every 1 single, unmarried woman between 18 and 28?

Considering that there are a little more women than men in the US...how the hell do we end up with more single women than men? Dudes must be living double lives.

Edited April 16, 2014 by kaylan

[iris219]

As a black man I definitely will not move down south. I have family and friends who live or have lived down there. Dating is much better on the west or east coast if you are minority.They say its like night and day. Theres still a stigma with interracial dating in the south...especially if you the pairing is black-white.

 

Not true. There is just as much racism in other places. You go to any small town anywhere in the US and you're bound to encounter some.

 

Major southern cities are like any other major city, often liberal and progressive.

 

I live in a smallish town that is also a college town and a tourist town. No one bats an eye when it comes to interracial dating.

[somedude81]

Yeah I'm considering getting out of California if I can't find anybody here. It's extremely frustrating for me.

 

I thought about moving to the south and ringing a Southern belle.

[joystickd]

As a black man I definitely will not move down south. I have family and friends who live or have lived down there. Dating is much better on the west or east coast if you are minority.They say its like night and day. Theres still a stigma with interracial dating in the south...especially if the pairing is black-white.

Considering that there are a little more women than men in the US...how the hell do we end up with more single women than men? Dudes must be living double lives.

Actually as a black man in the south interracial dating isn't that bad. It can be more challenging. I know I deal with older people because of my job and I was surprised the ones that tried to fix me up with women of a different race. You have pockets in place where it is bad.

 

I'll take a town nearby where I live. It had the perception that it was racist against blacks but hell now every girl there wants black men. Their parents go around proudly with their interracial grandkids. It just depends on where you go anywhere can be racist.

[joystickd]

Yeah I'm considering getting out of California if I can't find anybody here. It's extremely frustrating for me.

 

I thought about moving to the south and ringing a Southern belle.

Small towns would be the way to go

[kaylan]

Not true. There is just as much racism in other places. You go to any small town anywhere in the US and you're bound to encounter some.

 

Major southern cities are like any other major city, often liberal and progressive.

 

I live in a smallish town that is also a college town and a tourist town. No one bats an eye when it comes to interracial dating.

Honestly, ill take the numerous first hand experiences of minorities over yours, sorry. While its true that small towns all over the country have racism, and that larger cities are more open and welcoming...dating in the bible belt is a whole lot different for a minority when compared to the coasts. There is definitely a stigma that prevents people from dating folks of a certain background.

 

If you cant speak from the personal experience as a male minority in those areas...then like I said, I have to go with a lot of what Ive been told by people I know.

Actually as a black man in the south interracial dating isn't that bad. It can be more challenging. I know I deal with older people because of my job and I was surprised the ones that tried to fix me up with women of a different race. You have pockets in place where it is bad.

 

I'll take a town nearby where I live. It had the perception that it was racist against blacks but hell now every girl there wants black men. Their parents go around proudly with their interracial grandkids. It just depends on where you go anywhere can be racist.

Hmm ok. Still like I said...Ive heard enough bad things about the south that Id rather just enjoy the liberal north east for what it is. There is just more diversity and openness up here. All Ive seen when going to the south was segregated communities. (much more so than up north) I never dated down that way though, but Im not really planning too.

Edited April 16, 2014 by kaylan

[somedude81]

Small towns would be the way to go

Small towns in the south, or anywhere?

 

I just wonder how I could end up moving to a small town. Wherever I go I'd have to get a job in my field.

[kaylan]

Small towns in the south, or anywhere?

 

I just wonder how I could end up moving to a small town. Wherever I go I'd have to get a job in my field.

Why not give the Northwest a crack?

[joystickd]

Honestly, ill take the numerous first hand experiences of minorities over yours, sorry. While its true that small towns all over the country have racism, and that larger cities are more open and welcoming...dating in the bible belt is a whole lot different for a minority when compared to the coasts. There is definitely a stigma that prevents people from dating folks of a certain background.

 

If you cant speak from the personal experience as a male minority in those areas...then like I said, I have to go with a lot of what Ive been told by people I know.

Hmm ok. Still like I said...Ive heard enough bad things about the south that Id rather just enjoy the liberal north east for what it is. There is just more diversity and openness up here. All Ive seen when going to the south was segregated communities. (much more so than up north) I never dated down that way though, but Im not really planning too.

 

You really haven't experienced the south fully then. There are cities outside of the south more segregated. Most Segregated Cities In America - Business Insider

[joystickd]

Small towns in the south, or anywhere?

 

I just wonder how I could end up moving to a small town. Wherever I go I'd have to get a job in my field.

In the south. Come on you are a guy from California. Mid size to small towns you could get some ladies.

[kaylan]

You really haven't experienced the south fully then. There are cities outside of the south more segregated. Most Segregated Cities In America - Business Insider

Im just saying the dating experiences of people I know who have lived in the south and also on the coasts, all seem to highlight how much better dating life on the coasts were.

 

And joystick, youre in NC...thats not too bad for the south. Though given its location and how the culture has changed over the years, I see it as less southy than Mississippi, Louisiana or Texas (states where my extended family lives)

[somedude81]

Why not give the Northwest a crack?

Yeah I heard some good things about Portland, Oregan. The ratio sitll isn't ideal, but it's a hell of a lot better than Los Angeles and San Francisco.

 

Great for me, is that I have family both in the Bay Area, and in LA county which is why I've lived in both spots. But they really are horrible for men.

[verhrzn]

Uh, I'm pretty sure that map is total BS. I changed the conditions to singles between 25 and 39, and according to that map there are 17 more men in my city than women on average.

 

According to our city demographics from 2010, 49.7% of the population in the city is female, and 50.4% of the state is female. And it makes absolutely no sense that there would be more male singles than females if the demographics are more or less 1-to-1, unless we're claiming there are way more gay women than gay men.

 

And look at New York City on your map! That place is notorious for being single-female-heavy, and yet it claims there are 4 single men in the age group I selected than women.

 

I know it's tempted to blame dating problems on population skews, but this map makes absolutely no sense. The only place I've heard where men significantly outnumber women to the point where dating is difficult is Silicon Valley, and even there people seem to manage just fine.

[joystickd]

Im just saying the dating experiences of people I know who have lived in the south and also on the coasts, all seem to highlight how much better dating life on the coasts were.

 

And joystick, youre in NC...thats not too bad for the south. Though given its location and how the culture has changed over the years, I see it as less southy than Mississippi, Louisiana or Texas (states where my extended family lives)

Like I said it depends on where you go. Most people have a certain perception of the south when the reality is it's not like that.

[kaylan]

Uh, I'm pretty sure that map is total BS. I changed the conditions to singles between 25 and 39, and according to that map there are 17 more men in my city than women on average.

 

According to our city demographics from 2010, 49.7% of the population in the city is female, and 50.4% of the state is female. And it makes absolutely no sense that there would be more male singles than females if the demographics are more or less 1-to-1, unless we're claiming there are way more gay women than gay men.

 

And look at New York City on your map! That place is notorious for being single-female-heavy, and yet it claims there are 4 single men in the age group I selected than women.

 

I know it's tempted to blame dating problems on population skews, but this map makes absolutely no sense. The only place I've heard where men significantly outnumber women to the point where dating is difficult is Silicon Valley, and even there people seem to manage just fine.

Yeah Im not sure about the map. Also, like I said, I dunno if they are counting homosexual men and women or not. And do remember, the numbers are for every 1000 singles. So im thinking its not terrible in larger places, but the pickings get slim is less populated areas.

 

I dunno whether to believe the stats or not. Seems believable given my suburban locale. The numbers didnt seem wrong for my area...but I dunno.

[RedRobin]

This map more or less lines up with my experience. The East coast weighing in with lots more women... and the West coast weighing in with lots more men.

My experience in FL was apparently not an anomaly either. Lots more men there... Seattle, WA and Portland, OR... two more places on my map of ideal locations. Not only for the demographics but also for the lifestyle and politics.

 

Oh, and Kaylan... having lived in Atlanta for awhile... it is pretty darned progressive. Even in a state where as recently as 2000 they elected a governor who wanted to put the confederate insignia back on the flag(!!).

 

What sucks, and I hear you on this... step one toe outside the relative 'safety net' of the big city... and it's Deliverance time.... and lots of confederate flags flying over boiled peanut stands and proudly displayed on pickup trucks. On a bad day, you just don't need to be reminded of that shyte...

 

Just like I don't like being reminded that Southern Baptists need their wives to be submissive, or else. It permeates the culture in some unexpected ways. No offense.... there are places down there that have a LONNNNNGGGG way to go. Absolutely.

 

 

Edited: I miss real boiled peanuts, and azaleas, daffodils and dogwood trees. Something else the South has... especially this time of year.

[mammasita]

Look on the bright side Kaylan - there are a TON of single women aged 50-65 everywhere RAWR

[thefooloftheyear]

This map more or less lines up with my experience. The East coast weighing in with lots more women... and the West coast weighing in with lots more men.

My experience in FL was apparently not an anomaly either. Lots more men there... Seattle, WA and Portland, OR... two more places on my map of ideal locations. Not only for the demographics but also for the lifestyle and politics.

 

Oh, and Kaylan... having lived in Atlanta for awhile... it is pretty darned progressive. Even in a state where as recently as 2000 they elected a governor who wanted to put the confederate insignia back on the flag(!!).

 

What sucks, and I hear you on this... step one toe outside the relative 'safety net' of the big city... and it's Deliverance time.... and lots of confederate flags flying over boiled peanut stands and proudly displayed on pickup trucks. On a bad day, you just don't need to be reminded of that shyte...

 

Just like I don't like being reminded that Southern Baptists need their wives to be submissive, or else. It permeates the culture in some unexpected ways. No offense.... there are places down there that have a LONNNNNGGGG way to go. Absolutely.

 

 

Edited: I miss real boiled peanuts, and azaleas, daffodils and dogwood trees. Something else the South has... especially this time of year.

 

Don't forget to put the "porn star laying on the beach" mudflaps and the hanging testicles on the rear bumper for the full effect...

 

TFY

[Radu]

The New, Interactive Singles Map.

 

Ugh...For men in their 20s and 30s, that map makes me feel more than I already do, how much of a challenge itll be to find a high quality chick I click with. Like damn...when you click to see the absolute values, its daunting how much guys outnumber women.

 

And while Im not sure if this data counts gay men and lesbian women...I dont think theres enough of them to shrink those numbers as much as Id like. But I dunno...its just like...wow. Ive always felt finding a great chick was rare...but jeez...now Im wondering when I will ever find someone Id want to date seriously again.

 

Oh wells. Bachelor fo' life lolz.

From what i looked at it, the map shows where there is more than parity between the genders.

 

2 problems with this.

1 - let's take Reno, 17 men it says; that is 1017 men for every 1000 women.

A guy who has his **** together will always take from the number of women first, with the absolute losers last, who will most likely not be 'provided' with any women.

I'm not sure if this is enough to skew the way the genders act.

Maybe if it was a ratio of 2:1 .... definitely.

2 - the data probably comes from online sites, and i honestly doubt that 1 account = 1 person.

Ppl might have multiple accounts, they might lie, or one gender might be more desperate than another in a certain area.

 

It's an interesting map, but that's about it.

[iris219]

You guys are really stereotyping the south.

 

As someone who lives in and grew up in the south, in a small town, I can definitively say I almost never see confederate flags and I've never seen those mudflap things. I don't even think that's a southern stereotype!

 

I know only one person who has some prejudice towards black people and he's from NJ. The only person I know who's adamantly against interracial dating is from Washington, DC.

[KaliLove]

Yeah I'm considering getting out of California if I can't find anybody here. It's extremely frustrating for me.

 

I thought about moving to the south and ringing a Southern belle.

 

I'm in California too..it's TERRIBLE for single people, male and female.