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Why do people think prostitutes are bad?

 

 

I know there is far more to life than beauty... but being able to have sex with a truly beautiful looking women, is something that many guys will never be able to do, without paying for it.

What is wrong with having a huge, overwhelming urge to have sex with a women, who is physically atttractive? It is a normal urge - and some guys simply are not attractive enough, or lack the personal attributes, in order to EVER have sex with a very attractve women.

In addition to being of service to men who simply can never get a very hot girl - hookers also serve young men, who want sex. Sex is natural. What about the men who lack the spcial skills to have rehular sex? Masturbating to a magazine for months on end may not cut it.

 

A lot of hookers have terrible lives and are addicted to drug. I feel terrible for ANY person who is suffering, and wish them the best.... -> but many have good lives and make quiet good money. They are unskilled at other things, and make more money by providing horny men with sex when they want it.

Perhaps they are skilled at other things, but CHOSE prostitution as the easiest and most desirable way to make cash?

 

I am not advocating girls become hookers. I would much rather women educate themselves and get skills that enable them to work. However, there is a much needed place for hookers! I think the world would be a worse place without ANY hookers - some men would be MUCH HAPPIER with them....

.. I just don't think men who can never have sex with a gorgeous girl, should be denied this huge urge,, that is very strong in some men. On the other hand, I think the industry can give terrible outcomes for many of the girls......

Why not make there enough hookers for needy men, without having excessive amounts, that run around on drugs and leading a bad life?

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Having once worked amongst them due to where my shop was located, I never saw them as bad. I felt sorry for them, mostly, mainly due to the evidence of drug abuse and the look in their eyes when mine and theirs happened to meet.

 

I would surmise the 'bad' generally comes from two places:

 

One, a lot of johns are married and seeing a prostitute is a combination of cheating, if undisclosed, and potential exposure to STD's for the spouse.

 

Two, in most places here in the US, prostitution is illegal and people, in general, view most illegal things as 'bad'.

 

During the seven or so years I worked amongst them, it would have been no problem relieving myself of my virginity for two hour's wages. There was, and is, no shortage. Most of the activity escapes law enforcement.

 

I do have a funny anecdote about my best friend catching a male hooker with a female client next to his business, but that's off-topic. In our world, anything can happen :D

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Of course, some idiots ruin it for everyone; truly ugly men who casn never otherwise sleep with beautiful women, want to be able to fulfill their fantasies...... Fair enough to me..... and yet, cheating spouses make the whole business sound like bad news...

 

 

 

This is is a serious topic of discusion for me. I don't think it is an ideal life choice, for a long term career! However, sometimes depsarate financial reasons call for it - and very ugly men deserve to be able to have sex with a beautiful women. Why should it be something they should only DREAM about every night? Why not pay a girl who NEEDS THE CASH badly, to give a guy something he craves so desperately, yet cannot otherwise get?

 

Guys who can have sex with cute girls, should take the time to consider what it would be like, for a person to be truly ugly and unable to ever sleep with an attractive person. Not once in their entire life. How would you like it, if you could not have sex with an attractive person EVER?

 

... I just think there is genuine need, for people to be able to have sex with gorgeous women if they want.

I just try not to judge people. How do WE know that a hooker is not intelligent, with a great personality, and the ability to get a good job if they could/wanted to?

I know drug abuse is rampant among them... it is a way for people with low sills, to get quick cash, without spending years getting a degree, or other courses or qualifications.

I am in that predicament - mental illness, and lazyness, saw me having no skills or prior work experience in my 20's, and I often felt bad that I had no money, and no degree by then.

Instead of prostitution, my parents offered me a second chance at life; instead of being out on the street, with no skills or job, they sais until I get my life in order, i can live in their flat, seeing as they live overseas anyway.

I have to say, though - without my parents help, I would be living in a squalid, once room flat, probably share the room with several other people, in filthy conditions - and have to work a dead end job, and NEVER be able to afford to get better qualifications.

 

Just saying. Prostitution can be a way out for many women. What if a women, who screwed up their life, wanted a second shot, and the ONLY way they could afford a course to better their skills and chances in life, was to be a hooker?

Of course it is not ideal!!!! It is a terrible thing to subject yourself to.. but is IS needed, for SOME women who want to better themselves, but have no means to get better skills or get a degree? And the ugly men who deserve sex ONCe in their lifetime, from an attractive women?

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. How do WE know that a hooker is not intelligent, with a great personality, and the ability to get a good job if they could/wanted to?

I know drug abuse is rampant among them... it is a way for people with low sills, to get quick cash, without spending years getting a degree, or other courses or qualifications.

 

Actually, I've heard of women putting themselves through university with money earned from prostitution.

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I'm all for legalizing prostitution for a number of reasons. Doesn't mean I respect their occupation, same as not having any respect for telemarketers.

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It's legal here in NZ. Much more regulated, they pay tax, and the incidence of crime and violent attacks on prostitutes seems to have dropped off significantly.

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There is less of a difference between being physically f*cked for money, and mentally f*cked for money than a lot of people are willing to admit.

 

Legalize prostitution, and do something about making the education system accessible to people - preferably allowing people to live a life independent of CitiGroup and similar vultures, who own many people's souls, due to insane student debt.

 

I would not be surprised that A LOT of young women in the US become prostitutes / escorts in order to actually pay for a quality education. Not my choice, but it certainly has merits.

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People like to believe good things happen to good people, and so they reason that bad things must happen to bad people.

 

So they see sex workers, drug addicts and homeless people being in a bad state and so assume they are bad people.

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Because they are doing honestly what many do discreetly and that gets people in a frenzy. It is one of the most honest professions in the world when you think about it.

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What is wrong with having a huge, overwhelming urge to have sex with a women, who is physically atttractive?

 

There is nothing wrong with that. What IS wrong, is when you actively support e.g. human trafficking by buying your services from sex workers how have been forced into the trade, or engage with drug addicts who are in extremely vulnerable positions. At that point, your own urge to have sex with an attractive person should be put aside against a consideration of the moral landscape that you are participating in. Yes, there are many prostitutes who do it out of their own choice - but the fact remains that there are lots of prostitutes on the streets who are not in that category, and there are lots of buyers who either a) don't know the difference, or b) don't care.

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There is nothing wrong with that. What IS wrong, is when you actively support e.g. human trafficking by buying your services from sex workers how have been forced into the trade, or engage with drug addicts who are in extremely vulnerable positions. At that point, your own urge to have sex with an attractive person should be put aside against a consideration of the moral landscape that you are participating in. Yes, there are many prostitutes who do it out of their own choice - but the fact remains that there are lots of prostitutes on the streets who are not in that category, and there are lots of buyers who either a) don't know the difference, or b) don't care.

 

I am 100% against people being forced into it but legalizing it would actually help remedy that situation. You can't stop it so bring it out into the open and put under the eye of people who can stop abuses.

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Human trafficking is still a problem in places where prostitution is legal. Look into the countries that have the highest instance of it and then compare it to where prostitution is legal for a clearer idea of how prevalent it remains.

 

I don't look down on prostitutes. I look down on anyone who seeks to purchase another person's body for intimate use. Sex may be a natural urge but sex with someone who looks a particular way is not. That combined with the willingness to purchase a person speaks to a grotesque level of self serving entitlement. :sick:

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I am 100% against people being forced into it but legalizing it would actually help remedy that situation. You can't stop it so bring it out into the open and put under the eye of people who can stop abuses.

 

In theory that makes sense but like sally4sara said, the experiences of Amsterdam, for example, suggest that this isn't the case in practice (i.e. human trafficking has not been reduced there). I don't know what the experience has been in other places where it's been legalised. Do you know of specific examples where trafficking has decreased as a result of legalisation?

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Human trafficking is still a problem in places where prostitution is legal. Look into the countries that have the highest instance of it and then compare it to where prostitution is legal for a clearer idea of how prevalent it remains.

You'd be surprised how much prostitution goes on in "regular" homes, even in countries where prostitution is legalized.

 

Legalization probably does little to reduce human trafficking, but ideally it should give the women involved more legal protection against exploitation; and that is certainly not a bad thing. To think that we could solve socio-economic problems by means of legislation (or lack thereof) is naive, to say the least.

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Because they are doing honestly what many do discreetly and that gets people in a frenzy. It is one of the most honest professions in the world when you think about it.

 

It's rare in capitalist societies that one does not pay for sex one way or another. When I think of my first marriage the costs were enormous, both financial and emotional. And the sex mediocre at best! At least with a sex worker the transaction is clean, you don't have to spend months courting her by doing every little thing she might use against you as a reason not to have sex with you had you not done it, you don't have to pay thousands of pounds into a joint account each month to finance her compulsive shopping habit to put her in a good mood and then spend months after the sex being grateful for the 15 minutes of physical release you'd long forgotten about!

 

At least my current wife enjoys sex as much as I do and does not regard it as currency to buy herself power or goods or self esteem. We can enjoy sex for its own sake, for the physical pleasures and the intimacy it brings but from speaking to other men and from what I've read this is very rare. Women are so often brought up not to enjoy sex and to regard it as a commodity to sell (through marriage) or to exchange within marriage. At least sex workers are honest about what they do.

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It's rare in capitalist societies that one does not pay for sex one way or another. When I think of my first marriage the costs were enormous, both financial and emotional. And the sex mediocre at best! At least with a sex worker the transaction is clean, you don't have to spend months courting her by doing every little thing she might use against you as a reason not to have sex with you had you not done it, you don't have to pay thousands of pounds into a joint account each month to finance her compulsive shopping habit to put her in a good mood and then spend months after the sex being grateful for the 15 minutes of physical release you'd long forgotten about!

 

At least my current wife enjoys sex as much as I do and does not regard it as currency to buy herself power or goods or self esteem. We can enjoy sex for its own sake, for the physical pleasures and the intimacy it brings but from speaking to other men and from what I've read this is very rare. Women are so often brought up not to enjoy sex and to regard it as a commodity to sell (through marriage) or to exchange within marriage. At least sex workers are honest about what they do.

 

Yup. What is the difference between a prostitute and a gold digger? At least prostitutes are honest.

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OMG, Leigh! Will you stop including "truly beautiful" and all that with your thoughts on prostitutes?

 

I promise you that the percentage of men who buy sex from pros so they can experience sex with a "gorgeous" woman is miniscule.

 

Most men are drawn to having sex with prostitutes for completely different reasons than the chance to have sex with a profoundly beautiful woman.

 

AND, the majority of the millions of prostitutes are NOT gorgeous women, either.

 

Furthermore, being "gorgeous" is not equal to being a good sexual partner. Beauty is the bait, but a "gorgeous" woman has a good chance of being a complete dud in bed.

 

Where are you getting these ideas?

 

I think you are simply projecting your unbalanced value on looks upon the rest of the world, and you're way off base.

 

And, for the record, I don't think lowly of hookers, though the profession certainly attracts more than its share of damaged individuals, for whom I feel compassion. If the hookers are happy with themselves and their lives, more power to them.

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While perhaps there are some prostitutes who approach the 'pretty woman' standard of beauty from the movie, none I ever have encountered did, though they were confined to street prostitutes. Still, a dollar a minute wasn't a bad wage back in the 70's and 80's, tax free. From the few I talked with, it appeared the main lure was the clear and unambiguous terms of sexual satisfaction which drove the interactions, with appearance being a secondary hook. Clarity. That in and of itself isn't bad, IMO, but other nuances attended which colored people's perceptions, even those of the johns. I guess that's why they (the LEO's of the time) called it a 'vice'.

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Prostitutes are bad people. They have paid sex with any man who will pay, including married men and men in a committed relationship. That makes them accomplises to infidelity. Most customers of prostitutes are married men. So let's not whitewash a profession that enables widespread infidelity and cheating. The men who the OP is claiming to be "helped" by prostitutes is a very small percentage of their clientele. Most customers are cheating on their wives, and prostitutes enable them to do that and don't care that the men are married.

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Most customers of prostitutes are married men. So let's not whitewash a profession that enables widespread infidelity and cheating.

By extension, most married men are bad people. Why would you marry one then?

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Prostitutes are bad people.

 

Matthew 7:1-6

 

“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye. …"

 

Matthew 21:31.

 

"I tell you the truth, the tax collectors and the prostitutes are entering the

kingdom of God ahead of you."

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Rather than saying hookers are BAd - why not look at society and the government, and the way human nature has shaped things - There are people WITH degrees.... people who ARe decent - that HAVE to resort to prostitution, because often, PEOPLE CANNOT AFFORD to live!

Society has dictated that some people need to resort to prostitution, in order to survive.

 

Who the hell are you, to tell a person they are bad, for doing the ONLY thing they can do, to survive?! !! WHAT, are tyou dumb enough to think people should STARVE to death, rather than resort to prostitution?

Why are people bad, if they cannot feed themselves or survive, and have to resort to prostitution?

....so, they are supposed to just starve to death? THAT IS WHAT IT IS LIKE FOR PEOPLE, in FIRST WORLD COUNTRIES.

... Some people , MANY people, actually NEED to resort to being a hooker! Seriously, if they couldjust go and get educated easily enough, and get a " respectable" job, THEY WOULD!

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By extension' date=' most married men are bad people. Why would you marry one then?[/quote']

Most married men don't go to prostitutes, but the married men who visit prostitutes are bad people. They are dishonest and deceptive to their wives, and are breaking their vows while expecting their wife to uphold her vows, and putting their wife at risk of contracting an STD, possibly an uncurable one. At the time of marriage, the wife had no idea her husband was going to do this, obviously, or there would have been no marriage.

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