AvaRose312 Posted May 29, 2011 Share Posted May 29, 2011 Hi everyone, I'm new to this forum, i just stumbled accross it recently and found you give great advice so I thought I'd give it a try The problem I have is with a friend of mine. He lives about 8 hours away from me, and I met him when he was over for the holidays. We instantly hit it off, and started chatting regularly online after he had left. The conversations were always flirty, and later he told me he had a crush on me. I was a bit weary though because he seemed like a bit of a player, with many girls persuing him. Anyway a few months later he came down again to visit family, and after a drunken night out we ended up sleeping together :s Afterwards he said that he was glad that we had because he had wanted to since he met me, and that it would stop us from wondering what it would be like. However I wasn't too happy about it myself, and felt foolish for allowing it to happen, and a bit used since i don't usually do anything like that when I'm not dating the person. I reacted by distancing myself and acting quite strangely towards him when he would talk to me online. After a while I ended up apologising and he said I had freaked him out a bit Anyway, to get to the point! We basically stopped talking until recently, with him telling me he misses talking to me and being extra friendly again. I am going to be in his town in a few weeks but I'm not sure if I should tell him or not. He has told me numerous times to let him know if I'm ever in the area so I know that he wouldn't mind seeing me, I just don't know if it will be with the hope of me sleeping with him again? I've never been in a situation like this before, so I'm not sure if he actually values my friendship or just thinks of me as a potential hookup? Sorry for the essay! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted May 30, 2011 Share Posted May 30, 2011 Get together with him, go for dinner or see a movie..Don't hop into bed and have sex. THAT is your boundry and make it clear to him that you don't intend on making this into an FWB thing. Be honest and sincere. Link to post Share on other sites
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