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I know what I'm thinking can sound crazy but he caused this anger. My ideas (well with the help of my gal friends) consists of these following things:

 

1) Spread rumors and make many believe that he's into teenage (underaged) girls, in other words a pervert or simply let people know he has an STD (frame him)

 

2) Ruined his credit card or bank account

 

3) Pay a computer hacker and ruin his reputation by pretending to be him

 

4) Report him to cops and tell them he'd been stalking me or that he hit me

 

Many would say just moving on is the only way but aren't you angry and hurt so much that hurting them in return will give you satisfaction?

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Beyond the obvious immaturity of some of these suggestions, some of them are also downright illegal. Filing a false police report? Good luck. Jacking up his credit card and bank account? Classy. Hire someone to pretend to be him? Also possibly illegal (depending on what's done there, it could be libel if he can prove it's financially damaged him).

 

He cheated on you. I can understand this is emotionally devastating. I understand you must feel like, "This was happening under my nose, and now everybody is probably looking at me, either pitying me or wondering how I couldn't see it. Now everybody knows that my boyfriend wanted to be with somebody else while he was with me. Apparently I wasn't good enough for him."

 

You know what's even worse than that? Going to court over that jackass. Let your anger go and find other constructive things to do with your time other than indulging in revenge fantasies.

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I agree completely with the above poster. When my husband cheated I spent maybe two days thinking up all sorts of really horrible, immature scenarios to get back at him. But in the end, I was never serious about doing any of them. I'm 46, not 12.

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1) Spread rumors and make many believe that he's into teenage (underaged) girls, in other words a pervert or simply let people know he has an STD (frame him)

 

2) Ruined his credit card or bank account

 

3) Pay a computer hacker and ruin his reputation by pretending to be him

 

4) Report him to cops and tell them he'd been stalking me or that he hit me

 

Do any of that. And you're WAY worse than your ex boyfriend no matter what he did.

 

Women like you shouldn't be having boyfriends. like EVER. Stay single, I feel sorry for whoever the next poor sucker is who happens to meet you.

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On a long enough timeframe, I think that everybody has run into someone who didn't belong in a relationship. My first relationship was just bad. He treated me poorly the whole way through. I think it's natural to entertain thoughts of revenge. Oh Lord, I entertained the fantasy of keying up his car, but mostly I was waiting for his next girlfriend to realize what a chump he was and dump his sorry butt. But I never ACTED on it, nor did I seriously think about doing it. It was just a passing thought that gave me a laugh and I moved on.

 

Someday I hope you will eventually come to terms with what has happened and let it go. That you will not care one way or the other if this guy is dead or alive. Hatred isn't the opposite of love - ambivalence is.

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Thinking of revenge is one thing, doing it is another.

 

Best revenge? Live well. Let go of the anger and hate you feel towards him, thinking of ways to 'get him and ruin his life' is NOT going to make you feel better, even more so when you get caught. Falsifying and setting him up for kiddie porn, or ruining his reputation for life could land YOU in jail and a restraining order.

 

If you try to ruin his life, it makes you just look bad, actually worse, to lower yourself to his standards. Plus, him cheating on you was selfish and all, but you intentionally trying to RUIN him like what you described in your post, well, it makes you just look cruel and mean to mess with him like that.

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ok first off - I was stalked and beaten by an ex-bf for about 3 months before I finally took him to court to press charges. That shiz is serious, so don't even joke about it.

 

Causing him legal troubles/spreading rumors will only make him angry and likely to retaliate.

 

The best course of action is something passive aggressive that will shatter his ego. Nothing will even the score like taking his confidence down a few levels, or you could dismantle his social circle.

 

If you are feeling especially evil - I would recommend sleeping with his best friend, or one of his close buddies, someone he sees all the time. It will piss him off for sure.

 

Either that or make yourself seen with a guy who is everything he is not - in better shape, dressed better, nicer car..........yes its superficial, but guys will sometimes sweat when they see that you've "traded up"

 

Personally, I am against revenge - but when the hurt cuts that deep -do something to bring you peace, just a LITTLE something

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I know what I'm thinking can sound crazy but he caused this anger. My ideas (well with the help of my gal friends) consists of these following things:

 

1) Spread rumors and make many believe that he's into teenage (underaged) girls, in other words a pervert or simply let people know he has an STD (frame him)

 

2) Ruined his credit card or bank account

 

3) Pay a computer hacker and ruin his reputation by pretending to be him

 

4) Report him to cops and tell them he'd been stalking me or that he hit me

 

Many would say just moving on is the only way but aren't you angry and hurt so much that hurting them in return will give you satisfaction?

 

All of these are very criminal, if you want some revenge which isn't going to be healthy anyways, whatever happened to egging something?

 

I don't purport it to be the best idea but I did once egg someone's truck that really deserved it. It was also minus 20 out so just imagine scraping egg off of a windshield. (I was much younger, this wasn't last year or anything). To be honest I kept picturing him coming out and being all pissed off and not able to do anything about it. I felt much better afterward.

 

Truth be told, I felt better doing something annoying and immature and a little teeny bit shocking that was totaly anonymous.

 

You want to take out all of the pins, just knock down one of the ones in the back.

 

For God's sakes don't sleep with his friend.:sick: It may slam his head into a wall but you will not feel right at all!

 

My husband cheated too and I don't condone physical violence but he did ask me if there was anything that would help me feel better. I told him yes that I wanted to slap his face. (Clearly not a healthy angry moment, I was also having post-partum). So he said okay and I pretended to hit him with the right and he flinched and ducked while I smoked him clean across with the left. I gotta say that although my rational brain wants to clamp that down there is something in my "feeling brain" that still gets a kick out of seeing him think he was so smart to get away with his cheating, fail when it comes to getting a slap in the face.:eek:

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I don't know why everyone thinks that revenge is not "healthy." It is some cheap therapy and highly excellent.

 

I would not sleep with his friend. He might not care and then it just looks ridiculous. With some of the other things, I think a guy gains status when his leaving causes a woman to go bananas. It has a way of coming across as extremely amusing and also complimentary to him. You might just end up feeling very embarrassed.

 

So, I don't know, maybe go around telling everyone a lie about him is pretty good. The underage girls or STD though, I don't think that's going to hurt his reputation and might even help it. More like saying he has a teensy dick or wears pink panties, or calls out "Mom!" when he comes.

 

All I've done is face slap. Careful there though, that is really a courtesy he grants you. I don't know many guys I could really beat up.

 

If you do something to him, let us know what you did. :laugh:

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Well there are few things you can do:

1) If he asks his stuff back that was at your place just say you dont know where they are and get rid of the stuff immediately trash it or burn it.

2) Never ask for anything back that belongs to you unless it is very important.

3) Take everything that reminds you of him and get rid of it. Everything. Clothes he purchased. Delete all the pictures you have of him.

4) Using MS word make a poster that says Beast on the loose. Instead of a beast picture put his picture. Make 100 copies of the poster and throw it around his block.

5) Buy a few gay porn magazines and mail it to his neighbors with his name on it.

6) In your facebook / myspace status message say "On a date right now"

7) The only thing that will hurt him the most is to show him that you are a more happier and successful person than he is.

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5) Buy a few gay porn magazines and mail it to his neighbors with his name on it.

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:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

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ok first off - I was stalked and beaten by an ex-bf for about 3 months before I finally took him to court to press charges. That shiz is serious, so don't even joke about it.

 

Causing him legal troubles/spreading rumors will only make him angry and likely to retaliate.

 

The best course of action is something passive aggressive that will shatter his ego. Nothing will even the score like taking his confidence down a few levels, or you could dismantle his social circle.

 

If you are feeling especially evil - I would recommend sleeping with his best friend, or one of his close buddies, someone he sees all the time. It will piss him off for sure.

 

Either that or make yourself seen with a guy who is everything he is not - in better shape, dressed better, nicer car..........yes its superficial, but guys will sometimes sweat when they see that you've "traded up"

 

Personally, I am against revenge - but when the hurt cuts that deep -do something to bring you peace, just a LITTLE something

 

Sleeping with his friends just makes the girl look like a slut. It will harm her more than him. Ditto being known as a gold-digger. Most other things will just make you look like a bunny-boiler. Scorned women going ape is such a cliche that you just look stupid if you do it - yet another mad Glenn Close type from Fatal Attraction.

 

Truth is best - if he cheated, just tell everyone and take the high ground. A dignified response will get you more credit.

 

"When you go to take revenge, dig two graves."

 

"The best revenge is living well."

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Not that I condone revenge behaviour any more... but when I wanted revenge on an ex-bf who left me for someone he KNEW I hated, I got all his information and signed up for every magazine from things I KNEW he hated and had them all sent to his house. I wrote his cell # on all my money and spent it freely, I made his social security number public knowledge on the internet.

 

Was it all wrong and immature? Yes. I also had my old futon that him and his friend broke dumped in one of his precious flower beds while he was away with the National Guard for the weekend. He had a cop sent over to my apartment for that one. I played dumb. I even apologized to the cop that my ex wasted his time when it could have been spent on better things.

 

I was 22 and stupid. I am now 27 and stupid, but I like to think I've learned a little bit since then. Like don't do dumb revenge ****.

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Not that I condone revenge behaviour any more... but when I wanted revenge on an ex-bf who left me for someone he KNEW I hated, I got all his information and signed up for every magazine from things I KNEW he hated and had them all sent to his house. I wrote his cell # on all my money and spent it freely, I made his social security number public knowledge on the internet.

 

Holycrap.

 

Was it all wrong and immature? Yes. I also had my old futon that him and his friend broke dumped in one of his precious flower beds while he was away with the National Guard for the weekend. He had a cop sent over to my apartment for that one. I played dumb. I even apologized to the cop that my ex wasted his time when it could have been spent on better things.

 

I was 22 and stupid. I am now 27 and stupid, but I like to think I've learned a little bit since then. Like don't do dumb revenge ****.

 

 

:lmao::lmao::lmao:Blahaha

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