confusio Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 What is your point of view about nudity in movies and games when you are in a relationship. Do it upset you that your partner see nudity? For example, if there is partial nudity in a movie, or some sex scene without nudity, do you feel uncomfortable looking, do it upset your partner? Im currently in a relationship where it is a big issue, and it really start to annoy me.. I always have to look at the rating of game and movie to make sure that there is nothing wrong. One time when I was playing Mass Effect 2 we got in a big fight because there were some girls (not naked) pole dancing in the background. I had to stop playing that game immediately and never played again. There is this other game I wanted to play, but there is female demons with partial nudity at some point in the game but I am too scared to play and that she find out. We also couldn't watch the social network for the same reasons. For future reference I would like to know women's opinion on this subject. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 My response would be: "Wow, thank you for that gratuitous frontal male nudity..." But I wouldn't care. But I'm a guy. And I'd hope that she wouldn't care either. Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Nudity has nothing to do with sexuality .... you know? Haha, wait - do have some kind of attraction to these naked animations? Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Do it upset you that your partner see nudity? For example, if there is partial nudity in a movie, or some sex scene without nudity, do you feel uncomfortable looking, do it upset your partner? My partner doesn't play computer games so I can't comment on that but I have no problem with nudity in films. I've never felt uncomfortable as it's usually a turn-on. If we're watching together and we're both turned on by it so much the better. Link to post Share on other sites
Linda9999 Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Seems to me that for someone to be THAT insecure in a relationship, there's something else going on. Has she been cheated on? Were her parents super religious? I dunno, stuff like that doesn't bother me at all. FTR I'm a woman Link to post Share on other sites
Cee Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 When I was younger, I would be embarrassed when I saw nudity and sex in a film with a date. But it never occurred to me to be jealous. I'd suggest she watch some movies and tv with gratuitous sex and nudity in them. Preferably stuff geared toward women like Sex in the City. Tell her she should do it as research. Perhaps after doing that for a week or two, she might understand that this type of thing is no more threatening to your relationship than masturbation is. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 It only bothers me now because of the effect that I know it has on my husband, but I used to be okay with that kind of stuff because I thought our sexual relationship was special to him so it wasn't any kind of threat. I do think that there is too much if it in media though, even harder to find clean stuff for the kids to watch. Women's assets are just more and more Sexualized and out of proportion then ever before, even when "clothed." It sounds like you gf doesn't think she is special to you in "that way" is she right? Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 Do it upset you that your partner see nudity? No. The thought has really never occured to me. We also couldn't watch the social network for the same reasons. This is really extreme, IMO, and indicates some kind of underlying issue(s). Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 Hoo boy... I think if a woman can't handle nudity in movies, Daddy must have getting into places where he shouldn't have been. BTW I sat through "I Spit On Your Grave" (the 1978 original and 2010 remake) and didn't feel particularly violated---even during the castration scenes which turn most men into blubbering ninnies. I was rooting for the woman. Link to post Share on other sites
starryeyed12 Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 It's insecurity I think. Lots of women are at all different ages, at some time in their life. There's very high standards of beauty out there and being thrown in your face on a constant basis. Since she probably thinks she doesn't look like the women most men drool over, she feels inadequate (even if you think she's beautiful). She's jealous that you would think of them sexually over her. The obsessiveness sounds like she needs to go to counseling. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 God, do women really do this much controlling of their men? Unless you're five years old, there's no age appropriate issue. Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 You need to put your foot down and play the games you want to play, and tell her she has to deal with it or hit the bricks. Tell her to put her big girl panties on and rate the females in the games. Theres no reason whatsoever that you have to censor basic nudity to an adult. Link to post Share on other sites
JohnM Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 Get a grip and have words. You're not allowed to play mass effect, truly ridiculous. You see more evocative things at the bus stop. She needs to get over this and fast because the world is a very sexual place. Who cares if there is a sex scene in a film let alone cg breasts on show, its a part of society and she needs to not be so ridiculous with her views on nudity and sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 I'm not repressed that way. It's a movie. I only get prudish in live situations and won't go to live sex shows, strip clubs or any kind of swinging thing with a SO. There was a short time when recreational drug use led to some uncharacteristic orgy sex but it wasn't fulfilling in reality--it was only exciting in fantasy. That was a long time ago and I haven't used that "substance" in 15 years. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 I'm not repressed that way. It's a movie. I only get prudish in live situations and won't go to live sex shows, strip clubs or any kind of swinging thing with a SO. There was a short time when recreational drug use led to some uncharacteristic orgy sex but it wasn't fulfilling in reality--it was only exciting in fantasy. That was a long time ago and I haven't used that "substance" in 15 years. It often seems that the promise of unconnected sex (I.e. Porn etc.) is more exciting then the actual unconnected NSA sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusio Posted March 17, 2011 Author Share Posted March 17, 2011 Thank you for all the reply. She is insecure, and its a bit my fault as I didnt stand my ground on the issues when we first start going out, and it got worst with time. The worst is that I am not doing anything to make her insecure, I never even tough of another girl, and I'm telling her that she is pretty all the time. I don't think this relationship will last much longer, but I am trying to re-learn what is acceptable in "healty" relationship and what is not. When I am going to get out of this relationship, I am going to be a bit messed up with all that insecurity and control issues that she had. I dont want it to affect my future relationship. Someone mentioned that nudity is as harmless of masturbation, but masturbation is her biggest fear. To her it would be the same thing as cheating. But that another issue... Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 This is indeed extreme. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 Get out of the relationship - like yesterday. Neither of you are necessarily wrong, but you are clearly wrong for each other. She sounds like an emotional black hole, and that sort of thing can destroy you. Link to post Share on other sites
TouchedByViolet Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 She sounds like a control freak... Gross Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 Thank you for all the reply. She is insecure, and its a bit my fault as I didnt stand my ground on the issues when we first start going out, and it got worst with time. The worst is that I am not doing anything to make her insecure, I never even tough of another girl, and I'm telling her that she is pretty all the time. I don't think this relationship will last much longer, but I am trying to re-learn what is acceptable in "healty" relationship and what is not. When I am going to get out of this relationship, I am going to be a bit messed up with all that insecurity and control issues that she had. I dont want it to affect my future relationship. Someone mentioned that nudity is as harmless of masturbation, but masturbation is her biggest fear. To her it would be the same thing as cheating. But that another issue...Get out now, if she's that controlling! If she's already started the process of isolating you from your friends and family, even worse. Ditch her sorry arse now. Link to post Share on other sites
Hopeless_Romantico Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 It sounds like you are a little kid and the lady you speak of is your mother controlling the content of games or movies you view or play. Either how, are either or both of you very religious or something? Link to post Share on other sites
O'Malley Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 Having read your previous posts, your girlfriend's behavior is highly controlling and damaging, and it's going to continue to get worse until you break off from her completely. You've stated that you've backed off from ending things because you hate confrontations, but you must be consistent in your actions when you end this relationship. Do not cave into any pleas or threats (this includes her threats of self harm). If she refuses to leave, you can look into eviction procedures in your area or you can take the (somewhat risky, depending on local laws) step of packing up her things, changing the locks on your condo, and calling her mother to come and pick her and her possessions up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusio Posted March 17, 2011 Author Share Posted March 17, 2011 I'm in the process of breaking up with her, I have been hesitating about it for a very long time but now I know for a fact that its the only solution. I do feel like when I was a little boy and I was not allowed to watch Terminator 2. I really need to man up and do it. I have this phobia of looking like a jerk to people, but the truth is that the more I wait the more it will be damaging to her. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 You're worried about her when she's controlling what pajamas you should wear? Don't you see how much damage she's already done to you? Link to post Share on other sites
Cee Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 Someone mentioned that nudity is as harmless of masturbation, but masturbation is her biggest fear. To her it would be the same thing as cheating. But that another issue... Wow, your girlfriend needs a counselor. This is beyond, beyond. I bet she'd hate that you are posting on this thread with the mentions of NSA sex, porn and so forth. Hopefully in the break up, you can impress upon her that she needs some help. But it's not your responsibility to "save her." She's got to figure this out on her own. Link to post Share on other sites
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