PandorasBox Posted November 17, 2010 Share Posted November 17, 2010 If someone had a big effect on your life, lets say in a not so good way, and you weren't treated all that great causing you emotional pain etc. You grow up to be an adult and you take those issues from the past out on the person you're with. Shouldn't you address those issues with the person who caused them to begin with and not punish the person you are with now for another persons choices? I'm not saying if you address those issues with the person that hurt you to begin with, that you are trying to change the past, because you can't and they can't either. But should'nt you tell the person how they made you feel, and how its had an effect on their life today? (Yes they need to learn to deal with it now in a positive light etc) But couldn't that at least be like some form of closure? Link to post Share on other sites
Author PandorasBox Posted November 17, 2010 Author Share Posted November 17, 2010 Oh come on now, people have advice on porn, sexless marriages, infidelity etc, but not this? Umm yeah ok! Link to post Share on other sites
Kendrick Posted November 18, 2010 Share Posted November 18, 2010 I've always believed its best to talk to the person who wronged you. You're right, its not about changing anything really, its just about getting it off your chest. Perhaps that person didn't know how they made you feel at one point. I think that is the problem with alot of people these days, they take their frustrations out on the people who care about them, instead of addressing the proper people that caused them hurt etc. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted November 18, 2010 Share Posted November 18, 2010 (edited) Oh come on now, people have advice on porn, sexless marriages, infidelity etc, but not this? Umm yeah ok! Its because they know all about porn, sexless marriages and infidelity, its the easy questions no one can answer. And if its not about those three main subjects, well its just not good enough. :laugh: But IMO, yeah people should talk to the person(s) who caused them some kind of pain. If they are punishing the person who didn't cause them pain, then that person needs to rethink why they are with them. As far as it being closure, I guess it could be form of closure for that person. Edited November 18, 2010 by JackJack Link to post Share on other sites
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