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Um? Where to start?

 

I have been seing an escort for over 6 months. We’ve grown to like each other and we seem to really get on. We talk about personal issues/things and I am going xmas shopping with her in a couple of weeks.

Problem is I think I am starting to fall for her. I am not sure if she feels the same and she recently told me that she is leaving this job so I doubt I will see her again. What do I do? Shall I tell her how I feel or just let her go?

 

HELP!!!

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You should show her how you feel instead of telling her. But if you've been paying her to spend time with you chances are it is not going to work out. good luck!

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Agree with the others, plus, do you buy her things? Are you fairly successful, and make great money, relative to most people? She may be looking for a sugar daddy.

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If you have to pay her every single time you see her, chances are she's in it for the money only... But, if you're seeing her outside the realm of her 'job' and going shopping with her, and she doesn't ask for money, then maybe she has feelings for you..Either way, don't get your hopes up.

 

Best thing to do now is ASK her outright how she feels about you and is there a chance she'll date you in a normal setting (no money involved). You'll have your answer.

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I recommend watching Steven Soderbergh's The Girlfriend Experience. It's on Netflix Instant Watch and should give you good insight to the fact that this woman is a whore who does not care about you.

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Midnight Rider

Like others have asked, does she expect you to pay her for her time? If she really likes you, she wouldn't take your money. But then, it's not like a girl like this has any decent set of morals otherwise she wouldn't be working as a prostitute right? Personally, I would not get emotionally involved with a woman like this. You will likely get hurt, and she is probably only interested in your money and therefore strings you along by pretending to really be into you. Think about all the other guys like you she is seeing, who have similar feelings for her. That's a messed up romance, if it ever were to get off the ground. Not worth the confusion and pain.

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What do I do? Shall I tell her how I feel or just let her go?

I can't see that you have anything to LOSE by telling her that you've started to develop feelings for her.

 

Will you be paying for her time when you guys go Xmas shopping? Cos that would be (another) tell, right there.

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I can't see that you have anything to LOSE by telling her that you've started to develop feelings for her.

 

Will you be paying for her time when you guys go Xmas shopping? Cos that would be (another) tell, right there.

 

No I am not paying her for going xmas shopping. It was her idea and she said she wouldn't charge me!

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Yes. She had too so she can pay for the room she rents ect.

 

as you're paying to see her (albeit not paying to go shopping, but all other times) you need to be aware that she is providing you with a service. that doesnt just mean the sex, alot of people go to escourts for the company and conversation.

 

What I mean is she is very agreeable to you, you have a nice time together, you think that she likes you back. that could just means she's very good at her job.

You need to be very careful that you're not mistaking business for pleasure and sincerity of emotion.

 

as you are falling for her, you dont really have any other choice than to say how you feel. there is a possibility that she really does genuinely like you too, but she wouldnt say because it would not be deemed to be 'professional' and also, she may have just put you in the 'nice client' pigeon-hole.

 

You certainly cant carry on paying to have sex with someone you genuinely like and expect to keep your sanity.

 

Also, if you did both end up having a relationship, be aware that your feelings towards her profession may change (even if she isnt doing it anymore). I'm sure you're a very tolerant person, I just dont know that many people could handle being with someone who has had sex with people for money, albeit now or in the past. I'm not judging her, I'm just saying thats how people can be.

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You are getting the girlfriend treatment, not a girlfriend. If she charges for the sex, then you have an arrangement not a relationship. Honestly, I don't think I would tell her how I felt in your position. I would be afraid that she would use that against me in order to get more money.

 

When she stops charging you and stops hooking in general, then you can talk relationship. Until then, don't mix business with pleasure.

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I was supposed to see her yesterday but I text her and said sorry I couldn't see her.

 

She's texted me twice asking if I'm ok.

 

I didn't mention before that she texts me quite a lot and tells me things like about her daughters birthday and stuff like that. I suppose she could be doing this to prompt me to go and see her but if thats the case why try so hard?

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I was supposed to see her yesterday but I text her and said sorry I couldn't see her.

 

She's texted me twice asking if I'm ok.

 

I didn't mention before that she texts me quite a lot and tells me things like about her daughters birthday and stuff like that. I suppose she could be doing this to prompt me to go and see her but if thats the case why try so hard?

 

i dont think anyone is saying for definate that she's just treating you as a good customer, but we dont know much about it and obviously sometimes it does happen where the customer thinks there is more to it than just a business deal and there isnt.

 

Every situation is different, but going into a relationship with someone who you have always paid for sex with i imagine is even more difficult than trying to have a relationship with your FB.

 

theres really no reason why she wouldnt genuinely like you, but its an unusual situation which is very difficult to comment on as i'm sure most people on here havent exactly been in your shoes. we're just advising you to be careful.

 

just tell her and see what happens, at least you'll know then :)

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I was supposed to see her yesterday but I text her and said sorry I couldn't see her.

 

She's texted me twice asking if I'm ok.

 

I didn't mention before that she texts me quite a lot and tells me things like about her daughters birthday and stuff like that. I suppose she could be doing this to prompt me to go and see her but if thats the case why try so hard?

 

 

If you honestly think she has something for you.. just test her.. tell her that you're OK.. and if she wants to get together again with you.. she wouldn't charge you... for sex..etc.. see what she'll say...

 

My bet is that she probably likes you very much.. but wouldn't date you for free... she probably knows you're hooked.. and she can get a lot of 'bacon' out of you... IMO.

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She's text me twice this morning (Sunday)

 

She's asked me to text her just to let her know that I am ok because she is worried about me and she said she misses me.

 

Is this for real or what. I am really confussed!

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She's text me twice this morning (Sunday)

 

She's asked me to text her just to let her know that I am ok because she is worried about me and she said she misses me.

 

Is this for real or what. I am really confussed!

 

 

Nothing confusing about it.. she's worried about you.. (she's probably sensing you're already head over heels) and she just wants to know how you are..

 

You should text her back saying you're fine.. not to worry about you.

 

Why aren't you answering her.. is it because you just want to see her worrying about you... and get more text messages... don't read too much into this.. if you keep ignoring her.. she will stop soon... trust me.. :o

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LucreziaBorgia

I would answer with "I really like you and want to be with you, but I can't pay you anymore."

 

I suspect you won't hear from her again.

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I would answer with "I really like you and want to be with you, but I can't pay you anymore."

 

I suspect you won't hear from her again.

 

good answer!

 

try this and see what happens. its non-commital regarding your feelings. it would be interesting to see what she says.

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I would answer with "I really like you and want to be with you, but I can't pay you anymore."

 

I suspect you won't hear from her again.

 

I agree with this also. And don't be feeling shy or embarrassed to tell her you do not want to pay her.

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Thanks for all the advice.

 

I saw her today and she knew something was up with me so I told her. She has recently got back with her ex so we’ve agreed on just being friends.

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