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Old 25th November 2009, 11:55 AM   #1
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Falling for an escort!

Um? Where to start?

I have been seing an escort for over 6 months. We’ve grown to like each other and we seem to really get on. We talk about personal issues/things and I am going xmas shopping with her in a couple of weeks.
Problem is I think I am starting to fall for her. I am not sure if she feels the same and she recently told me that she is leaving this job so I doubt I will see her again. What do I do? Shall I tell her how I feel or just let her go?

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Old 25th November 2009, 11:58 AM   #2
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Does she still charge you for sack time?
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Old 25th November 2009, 11:59 AM   #3
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You should show her how you feel instead of telling her. But if you've been paying her to spend time with you chances are it is not going to work out. good luck!
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Old 26th November 2009, 7:49 AM   #4
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Does she still charge you for sack time?
What do you mean?
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Old 26th November 2009, 9:56 AM   #5
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What do you mean?

GT meant.. does she charge you to have sex with her.. still?
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Old 26th November 2009, 10:22 AM   #6
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Does she still charge you for sack time?
That is the vital question here.
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Old 26th November 2009, 11:32 AM   #7
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Agree with the others, plus, do you buy her things? Are you fairly successful, and make great money, relative to most people? She may be looking for a sugar daddy.
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Old 26th November 2009, 11:52 AM   #8
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If you have to pay her every single time you see her, chances are she's in it for the money only... But, if you're seeing her outside the realm of her 'job' and going shopping with her, and she doesn't ask for money, then maybe she has feelings for you..Either way, don't get your hopes up.

Best thing to do now is ASK her outright how she feels about you and is there a chance she'll date you in a normal setting (no money involved). You'll have your answer.
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Old 26th November 2009, 2:50 PM   #9
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I recommend watching Steven Soderbergh's The Girlfriend Experience. It's on Netflix Instant Watch and should give you good insight to the fact that this woman is a whore who does not care about you.
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Old 26th November 2009, 5:06 PM   #10
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Like others have asked, does she expect you to pay her for her time? If she really likes you, she wouldn't take your money. But then, it's not like a girl like this has any decent set of morals otherwise she wouldn't be working as a prostitute right? Personally, I would not get emotionally involved with a woman like this. You will likely get hurt, and she is probably only interested in your money and therefore strings you along by pretending to really be into you. Think about all the other guys like you she is seeing, who have similar feelings for her. That's a messed up romance, if it ever were to get off the ground. Not worth the confusion and pain.
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Old 26th November 2009, 5:45 PM   #11
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What do I do? Shall I tell her how I feel or just let her go?
I can't see that you have anything to LOSE by telling her that you've started to develop feelings for her.

Will you be paying for her time when you guys go Xmas shopping? Cos that would be (another) tell, right there.
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I can't see that you have anything to LOSE by telling her that you've started to develop feelings for her.

Will you be paying for her time when you guys go Xmas shopping? Cos that would be (another) tell, right there.
No I am not paying her for going xmas shopping. It was her idea and she said she wouldn't charge me!
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Old 27th November 2009, 6:51 AM   #13
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GT meant.. does she charge you to have sex with her.. still?
Yes. She had too so she can pay for the room she rents ect.
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Old 27th November 2009, 9:06 AM   #14
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Just tell her. If you don't then once she's gone you'll probably always regret it, and think what may have been.
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Old 27th November 2009, 9:09 AM   #15
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Yes. She had too so she can pay for the room she rents ect.
as you're paying to see her (albeit not paying to go shopping, but all other times) you need to be aware that she is providing you with a service. that doesnt just mean the sex, alot of people go to escourts for the company and conversation.

What I mean is she is very agreeable to you, you have a nice time together, you think that she likes you back. that could just means she's very good at her job.
You need to be very careful that you're not mistaking business for pleasure and sincerity of emotion.

as you are falling for her, you dont really have any other choice than to say how you feel. there is a possibility that she really does genuinely like you too, but she wouldnt say because it would not be deemed to be 'professional' and also, she may have just put you in the 'nice client' pigeon-hole.

You certainly cant carry on paying to have sex with someone you genuinely like and expect to keep your sanity.

Also, if you did both end up having a relationship, be aware that your feelings towards her profession may change (even if she isnt doing it anymore). I'm sure you're a very tolerant person, I just dont know that many people could handle being with someone who has had sex with people for money, albeit now or in the past. I'm not judging her, I'm just saying thats how people can be.
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