LoveShack.org Community Forums

Reload this Page LoveShack.org Community Forums > General > General Relationship Discussion

why do some women prefer dating people beneath them?


General Relationship Discussion Everything else under the sun. Not sure where to post? This is the place!

Old 18th July 2007, 7:44 PM   #1
Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Posts: 29
why do some women prefer dating people beneath them?

i've had two ex-girlfriends leave me for guys who were working dead-end jobs and really didn't have the same goals as these "women."

both of these girls had told me they had been in terrible relationships before me and it seems like they both reverted back to these types of relationships.

what boggles my mind is that i had a lot in common with them and we wanted the same things (or so i thought). one even admitted to me that she had stayed in a previous marriage because she thought she could fix her husband and said she had always dated fixer-uppers in the past.

someone (particularly the women) help me understand this!
supertouch is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 18th July 2007, 7:53 PM   #2
Established Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2006
Posts: 4,426
Sometimes people in terrible relationships tend to stay in terrible relationships.

Sometimes people who date beneathe them have low self-esteem, confidence or just like to feel surperior. Maybe some feel that's the best they can do or had bad experiences with people above them.
IpAncA is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 18th July 2007, 8:56 PM   #3
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2007
Posts: 598
Maybe the reason they wanted to be with these men didn't have anything to do with thier class. A vast amount of men pair with women below financially below them and no one thinks anything of it.
McFadden is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 18th July 2007, 9:04 PM   #4
Established Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Posts: 556
Maybe those guys made them feel secure, and the class thing is secondary.

Women want someone who fits within their social structure, but may still choose the ones that don't fit within their social structure if they feel secure and loved by them first and foremost.
squeak is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 18th July 2007, 9:56 PM   #5
Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Posts: 130
Quote:
Originally Posted by supertouch View Post
i've had two ex-girlfriends leave me for guys who were working dead-end jobs and really didn't have the same goals as these "women."

both of these girls had told me they had been in terrible relationships before me and it seems like they both reverted back to these types of relationships.

what boggles my mind is that i had a lot in common with them and we wanted the same things (or so i thought). one even admitted to me that she had stayed in a previous marriage because she thought she could fix her husband and said she had always dated fixer-uppers in the past.

someone (particularly the women) help me understand this!
Well, a job really doesn't make a person. These men were 1. better looking than you and 2. possibly treated them very well and 3. had charm and your exes found them loveable and not snobs regarding occupation like you have!
Turquoise Waters is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 18th July 2007, 10:48 PM   #6
Established Member
 
monkey00's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2003
Location: NY
Posts: 2,427
You're asking a similar question here as to: Why do people stay in relationships with people who've cheated.

All in all i think there are more similarities between the former than not.
monkey00 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 18th July 2007, 11:55 PM   #7
Established Member
 
Tyra's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: A Place You'll Never Imagine
Posts: 302
I don't know why women go for men like that.I would have stayed with you if you and I have the same goals in life.You know.Your two ex's must have low self-esteem, and just want to take care of their man the full 100%. NOT ME!!!!!!!!!! A good relationship is 50-50.
Tyra is offline   Reply With Quote
 

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

 

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Do women prefer a guy with muscles ? Internet Junkie Physical Fitness, Health & Weight Management 29 10th May 2007 9:30 PM
What do women prefer? ps123 Dating 9 1st November 2004 10:37 PM
Re: who do i prefer men or women? Tony T Archive 3 9th March 2001 8:17 PM

 

All times are GMT -4. The time now is 5:20 PM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.


Copyright © 1997-2013 LoveShack.org. All Rights Reserved.