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I'm sure some of you know me as the girl who has been knocked up by her married lover. Well today I had a obgyn apointment and she said she is pretty positive I am having twins...:eek: As if my life wasn't complicated enough.

 

What am I supposed to do with twins? I'm single, and although money isn't an issue, my mentality is. I thought "Okay, a baby..." but now TWINS! :rolleyes:

 

She said my HG levels are "through the roof" for someone as far along as I am, and when she did the US, she was pretty sure she saw two in there, but one was slightly behind the other. Unbelievable! I will know more as time goes by.

 

Any advice, suggestions, stories, nightmares??? I was overwhelmed and shocked by the news that I was pregnant, but now I am even double those feelings :confused: This kind of puts all my thoughts and plans into a different perspective now.

 

Why me??? :rolleyes:

 

I'm sure twins are lovely to have, but I feel like I'm too young for two at once. My friend had her twins at 25 and she is now 26 with three babies (had her third baby when the twins were 13 months old). She "seemed" okay, but she's also married and doesn't work. Plus her twins were colicky (sp). I cannot handle one screaming baby let alone two!

 

My mother was with me when I had my apointment and was just as shocked as me. She said we need to sit down and strategize what I will do.

 

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Twins actually make life easier. Not initially but later on. They always have the other as a playfriend. They will be on the same level of development and will be interested in the same books, movies, games, etc.

 

My youngest children are Irish twins. Eleven months apart. The biggest drawback to them being so close in age is that I had to do pregnancy and childbirth TWICE. I would have preferred them to be twins.

 

Congratulations! :bunny::):bunny:

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How far along are you? 1 in 8 pregnancies start off as twins but usually results in one absorbing the other.

I know its morbid to hope for that, but you might be jumping the gun. They thought I was having twins too, but my son got space greedy and absorbed the other.

I still carried enough amniotic fluid for two though :sick:

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How far along are you? 1 in 8 pregnancies start off as twins but usually results in one absorbing the other.

I know its morbid to hope for that, but you might be jumping the gun. They thought I was having twins too, but my son got space greedy and absorbed the other.

I still carried enough amniotic fluid for two though :sick:

 

OMG! How horrifying. Where does the other twin go? I have heard of a mumified twin--is that something of what you are speaking about?

 

I am still in the first trimester, due next fall. She said it was Very hard to tell from the US and it's too early to hear heart beats.

 

When will I be able to know if I am having twins, and when does one hear the baby's first heart beat?

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Do twins run in your family? In MM's family? Has this at all changed your mind in the sense of telling him that he will have two children born into this world? This might be something to think about, especially when it comes to paternity support ($$)..

 

Start saving now for diapers.

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I have twin boys, turned 2 on NYE, my hubby and I got married because I was having twins. We love eachother, but it probably wouldn't have been in the cards in we hadn't had our oops. I know it can be done, but it will be hard, I am not going to blow sunshine up your rear. The first few months were just a blur, they were colicky though, so that made it harder. I will pray for a peaceful little pair for you :). If 2 ends up being the case.

 

All in all though, despite being tired and my life as I knew it completely changing. It has changed in some annoying ways, but mostly GOOD or GREAT ways. 2x the kisses, 2x the smiles, 2x the poop :lmao::eek: Keep your sense of humor at ALL costs. You are going to need it.

 

It sounds like your mom will be on board to help, you are going to need it, especially the first few months, preferably 1st year. That's when things started to get a little easier. At two, they are buddies, but still fight over stuff and whine and throw themselves on the floor. Overall, they play well together and are very good boys.

 

If there is anything you want to know, feel free to PM me or just ask on the thread, I learned as much as I could about having twins when I became PG with them. And I know you are freaking out, I know I was, HCG levels also through the roof, it took my home test about 6 seconds to turn pink. But it will be ok, and it is going to be an adventure you will cherish forever. I hope. ;)

 

Congratulations! :bunny: :bunny: X2!

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Thank you :)

 

I didn't pay attention to how fast the test turned to say I'm pregnant...I waited ten minutes because I was nervous.

 

WWIU, as far as I know, twins do not run in my family, but his brother and SIL just had twins last year.

 

Yeah, I need to sleep on this one. My mom said I will need a helper (She must think I make mega millions).

 

Whether I tell wonder boy or not, he will be useless either way. And he wouldn't be able to help support the children, especially since his own wife might be pregnant, plus he has to take financial responsibility for HER kid...:rolleyes:

 

He can't afford six people on his salary.

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Six? He's going to be supporting the kids, and you as well? Are you expecting him to pay you support? Don't mean that question bitchy or anything, just wondering where six came into play.

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Thank you :)

 

I didn't pay attention to how fast the test turned to say I'm pregnant...I waited ten minutes because I was nervous.

 

WWIU, as far as I know, twins do not run in my family, but his brother and SIL just had twins last year.

 

Yeah, I need to sleep on this one. My mom said I will need a helper (She must think I make mega millions).

 

Whether I tell wonder boy or not, he will be useless either way. And he wouldn't be able to help support the children, especially since his own wife might be pregnant, plus he has to take financial responsibility for HER kid...:rolleyes:

 

He can't afford six people on his salary.

 

Had you recently gone off BC, or are you over 30? Either of those things are factors in having twins. I was 31 and my BC had gotten really screwed up, missing pills and making them up, I had been on the same kind for years w/o a problem. We just weren't careful enough. :o

 

I am sorry you are in such a screwed up spot w/ the father. And as far as support goes, he should really have thought about that before creating all these kids shouldn't he? He will afford whatever he has to afford to help take care of business, the law provides for that. I am sorry, I should probably read some of your back threads and see exactly what the deal is with all of that before I say something stupid. I'll go do that.

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I'm sure some of you know me as the girl who has been knocked up by her married lover. Well today I had a obgyn apointment and she said she is pretty positive I am having twins...:eek: As if my life wasn't complicated enough.

 

What am I supposed to do with twins? I'm single, and although money isn't an issue, my mentality is. I thought "Okay, a baby..." but now TWINS! :rolleyes:

 

She said my HG levels are "through the roof" for someone as far along as I am, and when she did the US, she was pretty sure she saw two in there, but one was slightly behind the other. Unbelievable! I will know more as time goes by.

 

Any advice, suggestions, stories, nightmares??? I was overwhelmed and shocked by the news that I was pregnant, but now I am even double those feelings :confused: This kind of puts all my thoughts and plans into a different perspective now.

 

Why me??? :rolleyes:

 

I'm sure twins are lovely to have, but I feel like I'm too young for two at once. My friend had her twins at 25 and she is now 26 with three babies (had her third baby when the twins were 13 months old). She "seemed" okay, but she's also married and doesn't work. Plus her twins were colicky (sp). I cannot handle one screaming baby let alone two!

 

My mother was with me when I had my apointment and was just as shocked as me. She said we need to sit down and strategize what I will do.

 

:)

 

my dr thought the same thing with this pregnancy and my levels were high also. So far we only found one with all the ultrasounds. I had the first one at 8wks 2 days and only seen one and another for genetic testing since i had a history of miscarriage at 13wks and another one at 18wks 5days. We only seen one and it was healthy baby girl we will name Kensley Faith. I had already picked out a boy and girl name just in case it was. I would feel very blessed cause having one is a miracle but to have two would be amazing!! God doesn't give us what we can't handle. I think it would be neat to have twins . Good luck hope it all works out!!

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My youngest was a fraternal twin. Unfortunately, I lost one at about week 8. But God knew what I could handle, cause she is hell on wheels, just like her momma.:lmao:

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It isn't as weird as it sounds when one twin absorbs the other. It usually happens when they are still very under developed. The other one.....just becomes part of the stronger one. It sounded to me when they explained it like it happens typically when the cells are splitting and becoming two babies, one set of split cells is just unstable and gets absorbed into the development of the other. Its pretty common. Otherwise there would be alot more sets of twins running around.

Didn't mean to freak you out, just telling you it is too soon to start planning for twin just yet. By the time I was 13 weeks, they could find only one where as before the amount of amniotic fluid and hormone levels had been indicating two.

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Thank you :)

 

I didn't pay attention to how fast the test turned to say I'm pregnant...I waited ten minutes because I was nervous.

 

WWIU, as far as I know, twins do not run in my family, but his brother and SIL just had twins last year.

 

Yeah, I need to sleep on this one. My mom said I will need a helper (She must think I make mega millions).

 

Whether I tell wonder boy or not, he will be useless either way. And he wouldn't be able to help support the children, especially since his own wife might be pregnant, plus he has to take financial responsibility for HER kid...:rolleyes:

 

He can't afford six people on his salary.

 

Just wondering but why do you say he has to take responsibility for "HER" kid and then you insert the :rolleyes:? Isn't that HIS kid too? Are you talking about the fact that he has to support a child he might be having with his wife?

 

And big newsflash for you but he has NO CHOICE about it. He HAS to help support these twins. It's the law. You didn't conceive them on your own.

 

Good luck to you.

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boy, G, you're getting all kinds of interesting surprises these past several weeks! But I think you'll do just find with twins – my uncle and I were talking about how he is the only one in the family with a set of twins, and while it was hard raising them, it was also really nice because his girls always had each other to play with/be with. And that their relationship is really strong because of the twin factor.

 

I think God gives mothers the necessary graces to cope with the surprises that come along with parenting, and throws in a lot of happy stuff on top, even though it may not seem like it at the time.

 

you might also think of it this way: If you ever considered having more than one child, you only have to deal with pregnancy once with twins!

 

congratulations on this exciting (!) news, and best of luck to you,

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When will I be able to know if I am having twins, and when does one hear the baby's first heart beat?

 

The fetus' heart starts beating 22 days after conception, but you can't hear it on the doppler instrument until around 9-10 weeks. I didn't actually "hear" my baby's heartbeat until my 3rd or 4th OB appointment, after 2 ultrasounds.

 

My oldest sister had twins - it was heartbreaking to see her struggle through a difficult pregnancy and then her babies were born 3 months premature, which is a higher risk with twins I've gathered.

 

They were tiny when they were born, and both of them had to be rushed out of state to a specialist when their retinas detattched, which is a huge risk with all premies.

 

One of them went through the operation successfully, the other suffers from progressive loss of sight and will be completely blind by the time she goes through puberty.

 

They are 4 now, and super tiny. Luckily my oldest sis work only part-time as a teacher, 3 half days a week, so she was able to invest LOADS of time working one on one with her daughters to help them cope with their special needs.

 

She did rely on friends and family a lot for help. Her H works full time. But her story was a sad one to witness.

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Twins or no twins just be prepared for your life to go through some changes. You have alot on your plate. Good luck.

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Okay, let me try to answer every one...

 

Six people = Wife, Step child, their baby (if wife is pregnant), himself, so that's four, and then my one or two babies equals six. I can take care of myself :)

 

As for the :rolleyes: face for the child, that's his step-son from his wife's first marriage. He has a father whom he is close to and who his wife doesn't ask child support from. Instead, she marries MM who has a decent job (in her world) and who she knew would support her and her son so that she can sit on her a** all day and do nothing (premadonna :rolleyes:).

 

No birth control for me. Used to be, but not in almost a year. As for twins, I will know more once it's clearer on the US. My mother said her levels were very high in four out of her five pregnancies, and we were all onesies! So maybe this is hereditary.

 

My obgyn is trying to monitor me very closely because of family history, and the fact that my levels are high, and that I had an abortion several years ago and had a bit of a post-problem with internally. She said she is very suprised I conceived so easily and quickly this time considering. So now I look at this pregnancy as sort of a miracle :) She wants me in every month and do an US every time I go (is that normal?). I also have a tilted uterus, not sure if that means anything, but my mother does as well and she had no difficulties with any of her five deliveries. Actually, mom had minimal contractions and very easy deliveries--so maybe I will benefit from this tilted uterus thing :)

 

As for MM providing me with support, this will be an issue. He doesn't know yet, and I have been undecided about whether or not I'll tell him I am expecting, given the very twisted and complicated situation. Especially if his wife is pregnant--this is not so cool, and I know he wouldn't be able to support five or six humans at once (but is that for me to be concerned about anyway?). My mother and sister really think he should pay for his consequences but see if I can arrange so that visitation is minimal, and that my babies go no where near his wife--if that's possible. Well, right now he's recovering from injuries and I havent seen or spoken to him.

 

Yeah, life's great!!! ;)

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If he gets visitation, you cannot prevent his wife from being there. The only way that could happen is if she is proven to be a threat to your child, and I doubt that will happen.

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That's why it's best if she doesn't tell him.. and keep the baby all to herself...

 

When I had my daughter, I had 'unknown father' on all the papers at the hospital... it worked for me..

 

I didn't want my child to be swung (sp) all over .. plus I didn't trust him to take good care of her...

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Well, if the Mrs. did in fact cause his injuries, then that will be my reason to keep my baby(ies) away from her. I think the courts will more than likely approve that.

 

Also, I doubt she'd want his other kids around her given the ugly situation. So if I do tell him, and I request this, I think he would be okay with that. I cannot see him arguing with me about this. Just like I doubt she'd want her son within two feet of me, or if she is pregnant, I doubt she'd want their baby to play with my baby(ies).

 

Well, one day at a time :rolleyes:

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Congrats (possibly?). My mom is an identical twin. My grandma had them when she was 16 yrs old. Then she had my aunt at 18. So, she had 3 little ones at the young age of 18. And this was back in the 40's when all the fancy baby things like disposable diapers didn't exist yet. But she managed.

 

Of course your in a bit of shock. You are still trying to get used to the fact your pregnant. And now this. You probably are feeling overwhelmed. But, you have plenty of time to prepare once it's confirmed. As always, I wish you the best. =^-^=

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I rarely agree with Lizzie, but have to for sure on this one.

 

If you want to control who's going to be in your child(ren)'s life/lives, then your best bet is to NOT involve MM in any fashion.

 

Otherwise, you GIVE UP an amount of that control.

 

It really is that simple.

 

And the bottom line is that you need to MAKE UP YOUR MIND on involving him or not. Make a gameplan...and then stick to it. Waffling on your choices will just leave you with no plan at all.

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oh - if you are having tow and plan on not telling MM I would have a rethink. By 24 weeks you will be HUGE. By 28 you will probably look full term.

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Well, if the Mrs. did in fact cause his injuries, then that will be my reason to keep my baby(ies) away from her. I think the courts will more than likely approve that.

 

Also, I doubt she'd want his other kids around her given the ugly situation. So if I do tell him, and I request this, I think he would be okay with that. I cannot see him arguing with me about this. Just like I doubt she'd want her son within two feet of me, or if she is pregnant, I doubt she'd want their baby to play with my baby(ies).

 

Well, one day at a time :rolleyes:

 

Geezzz WHY GO THROUGH ALL THIS MESS... really... just keep this secret to yourself.. period... :rolleyes::rolleyes:

 

I'm shaking my head in disbelief here.. I just can't believe why you would put yourself and YOUR CHILD through all this brouhaha... why would you want to argue with him or the judge... really... :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

 

You sound like you're 14 years old... sooo juvenile.. but yet soon to be a mother... I feel sorry for your child.. honestly.. I do. You don't seem to be able to take responsible decisions for your life and to stick to them.. for your own sake and your child's..

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