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Old 20th September 2017, 3:04 AM   #1
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Please look at my last thread for the back story ... basically I have not spoken to my sister for a month due to her behaviour after her affair ... she knows I. Am furious with her after she brought the guy into the pub infront of her daughter and me but my niece knew nothing about him

It was awful and I told her I couldn't believe she did that and she told me if I didn't like it to leave ... which I did (after giving the other man a mouthful)

So since then she went on holiday with him and her daughter guessed so she told her she is with a guy but to keep it a secret from her dad .... more secrets to keep ... awful

So she knows I am mad at her, knows why and doesn't confront it with me as she won't like what she hears

My issue now is that today she posted on Facebook how she is ill with tonsillitis!!! I now feel bad, which I believe is the reason she posted as she wants to not confront the problem but make me feel sorry for her

Am I bad ignoring her illness?? Baring in mind that if the OM was down she wouldn't have posted that
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Old 20th September 2017, 3:13 AM   #2
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She probably got it from kissing that guy. It's highly contagious.

If you want to be a good sister send her a box of salt.
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Old 20th September 2017, 3:51 AM   #3
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I can't see why she'd confront you. You know how she feels. She knows how you feel. A confrontation would just be a waste of breath on both your parts. And it sounds like you've done your fair share of having a say anyway.

As you feel so strongly about her choices, just continue as you are. Out of curiosity, if she stays with him long term, will you just write her off?
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Old 20th September 2017, 4:07 AM   #4
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I know when I have been very ill I am not posting it on Facebook

In my heart I know it’s for attention but I still feel guilty for some reason
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Old 20th September 2017, 6:56 AM   #5
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You didn't pass along a contagious illness to her and she has her AP to take care of her, so you have no need to feel guilty.
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Old 20th September 2017, 7:02 AM   #6
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He has gone back to where he lives and not back until Friday so she is by herself ... her daughter and I are not talking to her
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Old 20th September 2017, 7:08 AM   #7
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He has gone back to where he lives and not back until Friday so she is by herself ... her daughter and I are not talking to her
Ah, well. Welcome to adult life as a separated woman then. Millions of people every day contract minor illnesses and deal with it all on their own. She can, too.
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Old 20th September 2017, 7:16 AM   #8
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So I am not wrong???
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Old 20th September 2017, 9:35 AM   #9
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Wow she has actually deleted me from WhatsApp and Facebook
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Old 24th September 2017, 3:32 AM   #10
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We are still not talking .... she really believes it is me who is in the wrong but her treatment of me was disgusting
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Old 27th September 2017, 2:38 AM   #11
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i have a lot of sisters. we fight. our mother's gossip and fight so we come by it genetically.

even in the midst of large, "i'm never speaking to her again" fights, we always declare an cease fire during an illness.

as in, "i detest you, i'm not speaking to you but on the off chance you might die, i want you to know that i hope you get better".

which is what you should have done, imo.

if only on FB(in public). that way you get the cred for being the bigger person.

good luck
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Old 27th September 2017, 2:47 AM   #12
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i have a lot of sisters. we fight. our mother's gossip and fight so we come by it genetically.

even in the midst of large, "i'm never speaking to her again" fights, we always declare an cease fire during an illness.

as in, "i detest you, i'm not speaking to you but on the off chance you might die, i want you to know that i hope you get better".

which is what you should have done, imo.

if only on FB(in public). that way you get the cred for being the bigger person.

good luck
I totally hear what you are saying ... and normally I would do that but I think she made the announcement on Facebook as a passive aggressive way to get me to forget how she has treated me and I have had enough of feeling manipulated by her and had to make a stand

In saying this I feel awful about the whole thing but she is doing exactly what she wants to with no care for anyone but herself
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Old 8th October 2017, 2:01 PM   #13
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So we are still not talking
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Old 8th October 2017, 5:06 PM   #14
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We are still not talking .... she really believes it is me who is in the wrong but her treatment of me was disgusting
Her daughter is not talking to her.
You re not talking to her.

Her posting in facebook is just seeking attention.

Simple math reveals that the negative variable in this equation is your sister, not you or her daughter.
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Old 8th October 2017, 5:35 PM   #15
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you say you are not talking to her, as a triumph for you

but you have not really walked away, or you would not be here asking LS

I see those soppy wall-hangings about sisters being special friends
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