Originally Posted by mikeylo
How old are your kids ?
If you think about it, no wonder you guys are divorced?
You need to tell him to be polite to kids and not use words that are directed towards you in a mean way.Its going to get worse if you dont stop it now.
Kids are very little, pre-schoolers.
Yes, his insensitive actions and words were what caused lots of troubles in our relationship.
I was also responsible for half of our problems in our relationship.
I used to hold grudge secretly against offensive things he did or said, while he was clueless. I know that was not the right thing for me to do.
About the incident with my daughter, I think he was apologizing to her when I came in, but he was also trying to end the topic quickly because of my appearance. I did not ask what happened. I was trying to soothe my daughter and did not want to make my ex uncomfortable considering our fragile relationship. So I was just guessing and trying to figure out whether I was being overly sensitive.
In general, he is a nice person, hard-working, smart and willing to improve.
By the way, I am trying to get us back together. I am working on improving myself and also evaluating him. On his side, he knows I want to get back together. He has said no. But that does not bother me too much. For one thing, if we don't back together, there are still other ways of life. For another thing, people change minds. I just have a gut feeling that we will get back together. (Although I might be wrong. If I can predict future, I would be buying stocks right now.)
Anyway, thank you guys for insight and advice. I am going through a tough time emotionally, in general, fully of self-doubt and confusion. Any advice is highly appreciated.