amaysngrace Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 And I'm so heartbroken. He went peacefully in his sleep with all of us around him. I'm so proud of my mother. She knew exactly when to say enough of trying to keep him merely existing and instead of keeping him here for her own selfish reasons she took beautiful care of him until the very end. I am so blessed to have been born to such wonderful parents. Rest in peace Daddy...I love you always... 24 Link to post Share on other sites
underwater2010 Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I will NOT tell that it gets easier. 4 yrs later...there is not a day that goes by that I don't miss him. Just remember that he will be watching over all of you and take peace in that. Check back and let me know when you realize it. There are signs. HUGS!!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 So very, very sorry to hear that, Amay. {{{hugs}}} 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I'm so sorry Grace. Massive hugs to you. Make sure you and your family take good care of yourself during this difficult time, and I hope you can take some consolation from the peaceful nature of his passing. xxx 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 Take care amaysngrace. This was a recent life event for me as well, my mum did the same. I was not so brave. X 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Z Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I am sorry to hear the news. All the best to you and your family, amaysngrace. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 My condolences amaysngrace, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. ***hugz*** 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I'm so sorry amay. Lots of love to you and your family xxx 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I am really sorry for you. For me it is almost 16 years ago that I lost my mom to an illness. It has changed my life and who I am in profound ways. I hope you can look back to great memories. In that way your father will always be with you. It will get better, but as in my case I will always miss her. Be kind to yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 And I'm so heartbroken. He went peacefully in his sleep with all of us around him. I'm so proud of my mother. She knew exactly when to say enough of trying to keep him merely existing and instead of keeping him here for her own selfish reasons she took beautiful care of him until the very end. I am so blessed to have been born to such wonderful parents. Rest in peace Daddy...I love you always... Im sorry for your loss. May your dad rest in peace. People dont die as long as we remember them with love. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Candy_Pants Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 So sorry . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I am so sorry to hear of your loss Amay. He will always be watching out for you, taking care of you xx 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I am sorry to hear that Grace. At least he went surrounded with people that loved him and that he loved. When it's time, that's the best way to go. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LifeGoesOnMan Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I am so sorry for your loss. my condolences go out to you & your family. may he rest in peace 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Allumere Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I could feel the love and respect from your words. Prayers of peace and healing for you and your family as well as for your Dad's journey to a better place. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 My deepest sympathy to you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 So sorry for your loss. I have not experienced this yet, but I can imagine how hard it is. Sending hugs your way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ja123 Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. God bless you all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 amaysngrace , my warmest thoughts are with you. Having also been at my father's bedside when he passed away, I can fully empathise with how you feel. In time, this initial burst of grief will settle and the fond memories will come to the fore. It may not make your loss easier to bear but it will keep him alive in your heart. (((Hugs.))) TM 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 And I'm so heartbroken. He went peacefully in his sleep with all of us around him. I'm so proud of my mother. She knew exactly when to say enough of trying to keep him merely existing and instead of keeping him here for her own selfish reasons she took beautiful care of him until the very end. I am so blessed to have been born to such wonderful parents. Rest in peace Daddy...I love you always... I'm sorry for your loss, deepest sympathies to you and your family. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 It sounds like you had a really healthy relationship with your father and that is a gift. I am deeply saddened for you to lose someone you loved. It is never easy. You and your mother are blessed to have one another. Deepest condolences, Grumps 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Furious Posted March 14, 2014 Share Posted March 14, 2014 So sorry for your loss. The meaning of life is discovered when even though you're gone the love and joy you gave to your loved ones will never pass away. My thoughts and prayers are with you:love: 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted March 15, 2014 Share Posted March 15, 2014 Be gentle unto your self during this loss, sorrow to be shared. Memories to be embraced. My condolences to your family, peace. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted March 17, 2014 Share Posted March 17, 2014 And I'm so heartbroken. He went peacefully in his sleep with all of us around him. I'm so proud of my mother. She knew exactly when to say enough of trying to keep him merely existing and instead of keeping him here for her own selfish reasons she took beautiful care of him until the very end. I am so blessed to have been born to such wonderful parents. Rest in peace Daddy...I love you always... I'm sorry you are going through this [my dad died 3yrs ago as well], i just hope he went peacefully and there were no things left unsaid before it happened [we didn't]. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author amaysngrace Posted March 18, 2014 Author Share Posted March 18, 2014 Thank you everyone for all of your thoughts and prayers. It really is appreciated. The funeral was today and boy am I tired. We had a huge snowstorm through the night and into today but the turnout was impressive. Everything went perfectly. I'm sorry to hear about all the people who have lost a parent on this thread. It's one of those things that unless you live through it you just cannot understand it fully. I did pretty well for the most part but only because I sobbed my heart out when they brought in the casket. Luckily it was before all the people showed up and it was mostly my immediate family. My one sister told me to let it all out and so I did but after that through mass and the rest of the day I was composed so I'm really really glad that I had that much needed cry. I've had plenty of time to prepare for this because my Dad had a massive stroke in October so I knew he wasn't well. He had a lot of health issues and we were all made aware of them a while before that too but luckily I was able to spend my time these past six months telling him and, more importantly, showing him how much he means to me. He even said recently, "I know that you love me" so I have that always. One day he was expressing regret on things he'd have done differently and I was able to tell him not to feel that way about me because for me I always felt loved and accepted by him, which I absolutely did. And as a child isn't that what we want most from our parents? xo 11 Link to post Share on other sites
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