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Old 2nd December 2009, 9:51 PM   #1
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"I don't want any presents this year"

Can someone out there please tell me why people pull this crap at Christmas time? (or birthday time?)

I swear to God, virtually everyone in my immediate family has pulled this stunt at holiday time one year or another -- except me. I still can't figure out why people do this.

If you don't have any money for presents for other people, or you just don't want to spend anything on them, or if you are unimpressed with the presents people give YOU every year, or you are just trying to get out of the family holiday gathering because you can't stand being around the family for a couple hours... just be honest and SAY SO, instead of pulling this "I don't want any presents" game. Jesus.
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Old 2nd December 2009, 10:25 PM   #2
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...or maybe the usual present-givers are broke this year, and you'd rather not put that kind of pressure on them.
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Old 3rd December 2009, 8:30 AM   #3
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ha! good question, same here =] your not alone!!
last year i gave my mom a sephora give card, and she screamed at me.
i have no idea what i am doing for ppl this year!! ughhhh =/ ppl just love to make things so hard.
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Old 3rd December 2009, 8:46 AM   #4
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"I don't want any presents this year".


Or any year, for that matter.....

Because I'm Buddhist, and Buddhists don't celebrate Christmas as a festival.

I am also absolutely completely and entirely boracic*, and can't afford cards, let a lone gifts.
so any gifts received would make me feel very guilty about being able to reciprocate.

Taking gifts is somewhat hypocritical of me, too....

But I'll join in the fun and games, and have a bit of a knees-up!

is that better?

(*Boracic = Boracic Lint - skint.
It's cockney rhyming slang. Very British....)
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Old 3rd December 2009, 8:57 AM   #5
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Why should they?

You'd rather them be impolite, and offend the other person?

Great idea.
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Old 3rd December 2009, 9:19 AM   #6
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[B]I'm Buddhist, and Buddhists don't celebrate Christmas as a festival.
I'm an atheist but I still celebrate Christmas because, for me, it transends religious differences. And I want a train-set
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Old 3rd December 2009, 11:22 AM   #7
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I swear to God, virtually everyone in my immediate family has pulled this stunt at holiday time one year or another -- except me. I still can't figure out why people do this.
My folks have said the same thing. Now retired, they’re on a fixed income and what little money they had saved in their nest egg is drying up just like everyone else’s 401Ks. Not to mention now being on Medicare with mounting hospital bills due to my mother’s terminal cancer. They’re proud people, and are aware that things are tight for EVERYONE... so to receive gifts knowing they can’t afford to return them makes them feel just awful.

But you know what??... screw the presents. When you’re not a wide-eyed child anymore, you realize that being with family, friends and the people you love is what the holidays are really about. So, rather than embarrass anyone with a present who can’t afford to exchange, I’m spending all my money hosting the Christmas party for everyone this year. Nothing makes a big, loud, trailer-trash family happier than LOTS of food and double-dosed jello shots!

Grandma got runover by a raindeer...

I’ve told everyone “no presents”, too. Just bring yourself. For me, the best gift in the world is a crowded house and lots of laughter... and having my Mom around for just one more year. Maybe I’m just getting old and sentimental, but to me, some of the best things in life you just can’t buy.
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Old 3rd December 2009, 11:37 AM   #8
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I've grown to resent the present-giving tradition myself. It puts so much
pressure on people to reach into their wallets all at once, especially if they have a large family. For anyone who's struggling financially, it's all the worse, and they end up feeling guilty about not being able to give as much. (I had a couple of years like that, and it just seemed to shine a spotlight on the fact that my business wasn't doing well.)

A solution I came up with to alleviate some of that pressure was to suggest to my sister that we exchange our gifts in July.....One less person to buy for in December, and it's kinda fun to get and give in the middle of the summer..............

I still prefer that people don't buy me gifts, however. I've really got all the "stuff" I'm ever going to need, and I don't have the space for anymore
bric-a-brac or knick-knacks. My Dad feels the same way, I like the line he came up with, "if I can't eat it, or drink it, please don't give it to me......."

all this being said, however,...."Santa, all I want is a Red Rider BB Gun...."
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I'm not sure I understand why you are offended or upset if people don't want gifts.

I'm one of those people. I honestly would rather just spend time with friends and family over the holidays, eating and drinking and being merry, without all the gift-giving unless it's for children. I much prefer Thanksgiving to Christmas for that reason - it's the people that matter, not the presents.

I always buy gifts because I know I'll receive them, but I wish people would do something small, like cookies or a bottle of wine, instead of making it all into such a big deal.

It's a religious holiday, right? So why are we so material about it?!
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Old 3rd December 2009, 11:55 AM   #10
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I don't know how much more direct people can be, than saying "I don't want presents". If someone said to you "I don't want to eat sushi", would you look for an underlying meaning to it?

Why not just honour their request?
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As long as I've got booze and nice food for Christmas, I'm fine. I really don't care about getting presents.
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Old 3rd December 2009, 1:03 PM   #12
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On one of my previous birthdays I sent out invitations that read:

"Please, no presents........just presence......."


( I think my friends were secretly happy that they didn't have to run out and shop)
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On one of my previous birthdays I sent out invitations that read:

"Please, no presents........just presence......."


( I think my friends were secretly happy that they didn't have to run out and shop)
At our wedding, we insisted there would be no gifts, that if people felt the need to gift, to donate the money towards one of two charities.

Not everyone wants gifts.
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At our wedding, we insisted there would be no gifts, that if people felt the need to gift, to donate the money towards one of two charities.

Not everyone wants gifts.



I think that's very classy.Especially in times of economic uncertainty for so many, I think it's great to "let people off the hook".

I went to a wedding like that several years ago, and that made me respect the couple all the more.Kudos to you and your H.
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I think that's very classy.Especially in times of economic uncertainty for so many, I think it's great to "let people off the hook".

I went to a wedding like that several years ago, and that made me respect the couple all the more.Kudos to you and your H.
Thanks. We neither wanted or needed the gifts, so why not have people put the money towards something meaningful. And it's true that people are usually relieved that they don't have to have anxiety attacks, over what to get others.

It was pretty nice of you to let your friends off the hook, too.
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