http://www.loveshack.org/forums/ Having issues with a friend? Get it off your chest! en Fri, 20 Nov 2009 23:58:07 GMT vBulletin 15 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/images/red/misc/rss.jpg http://www.loveshack.org/forums/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210516&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 23:57:10 GMT ya so latey iv just be spending time with what i thoght was the one for me...but thats not so...at all... not a big fan of her....anyway i stoped... ya so latey iv just be spending time with what i thoght was the one for me...but thats not so...at all... not a big fan of her....anyway i stoped hang out with my buddys just to be with her and now that im not seeing her anymore im having a hard time hookin up with them and makin other friends...i just feel like iv got no one to call up on and hang out with....and im never called on to do stuff with...and its depressing to think about...and i dont ever think about stuped stuff like this...its just not who i am...can anyone relate and or gone throgh this??? ]]> Friendship moosegreen http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210516 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210388&goto=newpost Thu, 19 Nov 2009 23:28:20 GMT I have been thinking about asking out one of my 'friends' recently, but the problem is that if she says no (I don't mind, i would be gutted, but i would regret it forever if i didn't at least try) the last thing i want to do is destroy the friendship. I would much rather have her as just a friend than not have her around at all.

So realistically, can a friendship be maintained if one person tries to advance the relationship but gets shot down? If there is a chance then i don't want to really risk it. ]]> Friendship LonelyGuy85 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210388 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210308&goto=newpost Thu, 19 Nov 2009 02:54:46 GMT Hi everyone, I need some advice. I have a friend at work that I have known for about 15 months. I'm 31, she is 34. We go to lunch when our schedules work out and occasionally text or call each other. Recently she has started suggesting things that we could do together and last month she mentioned she would like to come out to my house sometime. So a couple weeks later I decided to invite her to my house for a movie on 11/14. She told me that her weekends were pretty full (she has 2 kids) until about Christmas but she would like to come over sometime. I sort of thought she may have been politely hinting the opposite, but then she calls yesterday evening and tells me her original plans with the kids are probably not going to happen this weekend so she'd like to come over on Saturday for a few hours.

And that leads me to my question. I was extremely introverted when I was a kid and only in the last few years have I started opening up to people. I have a pretty decent sense of humor (at least that's what I'm told), but I'm not so great with conversations (after a short time I usually draw a blank and am not sure what to say/do). I value our friendship so I don't want her to feel like she wasted her time coming all this way to see me (I live an hour away), so I was wondering what should I do to make sure she has fun when/if she comes?

Thanks. ]]> Friendship Revec http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210308 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210306&goto=newpost Thu, 19 Nov 2009 02:21:32 GMT Hi everyone.

First, before I start explaining, I'd really appreciate it if those viewing this could just read this whole lot through. It's a long story but since this is getting to the point where it's taking over my life..I really need your help! Thanks.

The situation:

One year ago, I met a girl. We started out as being relatively good friends. I talked to her and she begun talking to me a lot over msn messenger and such. At parties we often got quite close. She usually seemed quite interested in me..until I brought it up. One day, after many many hints and signals, I asked her if anything meant more (the way she generally was with me, and different things she said). She said at first 'maybe' but she wasn't sure. So we agreed to try for something. At the same time, another guy was on the scene (my best friend) and he liked her aswell - and she was letting him have a chance at having her. After I got annoyed at this, often throwing a little bit of bad language at her etc, she told me she just wanted to be friends. I didn't take it well. I was very upset and resulted in getting upset and annoyed at her. However, time passed. We didn't speak for about 2 months at one point - until she finally said she missed me as a friend. So at this point, I took friendship as a last resort and I really wanted it. However, the whole thing repeated itself again. On holiday last summer, she got very close to me, feeling my arms, legs and everything! I was convinced that this meant something. It was the first time we'd seen each other for 2 months properly. But in the morning, i asked her, and she said it meant nothing and that she was drunk. I got frustrated once again.

Which brings us to today...... Through my frustration at her, and occasional verbal abuse (of which she also gave me some aswell, such as sendng me texts to get psychiatric help (when she was drunk)) etc, I've managed to get her saying to me that she doesn't want to be bothered with somone who annoys and insults her, and to this day it is the biggest thing I regret in the entire world. She won't talk to me. She won't speak to me anymore. I've cried so many times over this it's rediculous. I try to man up about it but tbh I feel like she was my first real love. I mean I'd never want anyone else except her in my life. I love her so dearly that I'd rather be friends with her than not have her at all in my life.

Guys...What do I do? I want to talk to her again :( Get things back to normal. Then again, is it finally time for me to erase her out of my life? Can someone please give me a detailed routine of how to get this girl out of my head, or get her to be the same as before with me?

Please :( ]]> Friendship AlexanderT http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210306