http://www.loveshack.org/forums/ Debunking the old-ball-and-chain stereotype one couple at a time. en Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:26:42 GMT vBulletin 15 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/images/red/misc/rss.jpg http://www.loveshack.org/forums/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210459&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:29:48 GMT Do you keep in touch with your ex? Does your spouse know? Do you tell you spouse about the level of contact with you ex? my husband has an... Do you keep in touch with your ex?

Does your spouse know?

Do you tell you spouse about the level of contact with you ex?

my husband has an ex on the east coast. Out of the blue she wrote him and he wrote her back. I don't have a problem with this what I do have a problem with is that he kept it from me. He kept the letters in his car. made the phone call from work and never mentioned to me once that she contacted him.

I accidently found the letter on the floor of his car. I got mad and he made me out to be crazy.

I know I am not in a good mood right now but I don;t think it negates my feeling that at least it should been brought up. thoughts? ]]> hotgurl http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210459 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210457&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:14:24 GMT I found this forum through a search and thought it might help me cope. I have been married to my wife for over 20 years and last night she put a... I found this forum through a search and thought it might help me cope.

I have been married to my wife for over 20 years and last night she put a note on my pillow telling me that she had some unpeasant things that she wanted to talk to me about. What struck me as odd was that I was awake and in another room yet she never bothered to come in.

Im 47 and she is 52. Neither of us are really attractive but I still love her and find her attractive in my eyes.

When I asked her what was up she dropped a bomb on me and told me she did not love me anymore and has not loved me for quite some time and I should have noticed this. She then asked me for divorce.

I could not sleep at all and stayed up the entire night in agony. She refuses to talk about it and tells me her dicision is final.

First thing I did was call our only Son, he is 20. He came over and tried to talk to her and she gave him the same nonsense. She said it with a blank look on her face and with little to no emotion. It's like she was possesed by something. I was devestated.

Financially we are OK. Our home is paid for and we were both working towards retirement 2-5 years. Now this is all gone as we will have to both work for the rest of our lives with maybe no retirement in either of our future.

I asked her if she was cheating on me and she said no. This just defies logic for me. We argue sometimes but I have never laid a hand on her. I don't know what to make of it.

I have made a few obersvations below which may have something to do with it.

She stoped sleeping in our bed when my Son moved out two years ago. She took his old room. Her excuse: I snore.

She is taking medication for an anyurism so I wonder if this may affect her.

Her father passed away a few months ago so this may have something to do with it.

We did recently come back from our own 2 week vacation and I thought we had a good time together. Im stumped where this is coming from. We did have an argument the night before because I went to sleep with her in her bed and woke her up. This really made her mad and me as well. She basically kicked me out of her bed.

For the longest time I noticed that she never says I love you unless I say it first. She also no longer likes sex I guess as I always initiate it and she doesnt. We have sex maybe once a month if lucky. She tells me she has no interest in sex. It's almost like I have to beg for it to get it.

I just do not know what to do. She woke up this morning and went to work like nothing was the matter. I gave her a letter to try to iron things out and she reluctantly took it with her. Tomorrow I go to work and won't really see her until four days from now. Not sure how Im going to cope at work.

This is hard because I work nights and she works days. I also work Sat and Sun when she is off so we rarely see each other.

Im just a mess now and do not know what to do. It is still sinking in. How long will this pain last? Any advise or suggestions would be appreciated. ]]> g450 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210457 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210375&goto=newpost Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:23:04 GMT I absolutly LOVE my husband! He is the nicest, strongest, most thoughtful, sexually yummy, smartest, most huggable, funnest, geekiest, sexiest, and... I absolutly LOVE my husband! He is the nicest, strongest, most thoughtful, sexually yummy, smartest, most huggable, funnest, geekiest, sexiest, and upmost bestest friend I have ever known :) And he's gonna get it tonight! :love: ]]> wife http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210375 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210327&goto=newpost Thu, 19 Nov 2009 10:03:41 GMT I would like to know from you guys, who have been married for many years, since you were young. Was it worth giving up on everything that a... I would like to know from you guys, who have been married for many years, since you were young.

Was it worth giving up on everything that a single's life has to offer to be with that one person?

(PS: Please say how old you were when you engaged and for how long you've been married) :bunny: ]]> heysenberg http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210327