http://www.loveshack.org/forums/ en Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:05:09 GMT vBulletin 15 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/images/red/misc/rss.jpg http://www.loveshack.org/forums/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210474&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 18:21:23 GMT We've been dating for 4 years and we are currently engaged. Through this time she's had trouble with 2 men. I truly believe she never actually cheated on me with those 2 though I did catch her talking sexually to one (about 6 months ago) and she kissed the other guy at the start of our relationship 4 years ago.

Then about a month ago a man I'm going to call Tod began coming into the place she works to get a drink every day. She claims he kind of likes her and frequently asks her out. She also claims she tells me a lot just to tease me which I can see because I can be overprotective.

Then last night we were in bed and I tried to get me some and she was not willing as she had not been for about a week. Then I started asking her questions and I eventually coerced out of her that she was "sexually frustrated" and I can't be rough with her because I love her. She asked me if it was okay if we ever thought about other people and that's when I began agreeing with everything she said to coerce what I thought she was hiding.

Well it eventually came out. She went to dinner and a movie with Tod 3 nights ago when she said she was going out with her best friend. I was not at home that night as I stayed at a friends house. She claims they came home and began making out in the driveway and he tried many advances sexually but she kept "turning him down." She says he was really rough (she likes that I guess) and she felt like maybe he would rape her so she felt almost like kicking. Why would you need to "kick" in a car? She said nothing at all happened.

After we talked I told her it was okay because I didn't know what to think. I even told her she could see him again because I wasn't sure HOW to get as angry as I wanted to get.

Before going to sleep we messed around and she was "different." Cleaner if you understand what I'm saying.

Someone help ]]> Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy Josh87 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210474 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210466&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:22:06 GMT I am not sure what to make of this or what to do. But I have been seeing this guy for a couple months now. And I will admit he has a sketchy past,... I am not sure what to make of this or what to do. But I have been seeing this guy for a couple months now. And I will admit he has a sketchy past, but I wanted to give him a chance because I like him and he seems like a nice guy. His past includes being a drug addict and alcoholic and he also told me a sex addict. But it is weird though because I do not see him like that.

Anyways, I have seen a couple text messages on his phone to another girl saying things such as i miss you, i thought we would have been together and if we were together we would have so much fun.

When i asked him about the girl (i did not directly ask about the messages)...he said I think she has a crush on me. I asked him do you want to be with her and he said no.

So, I dunno what to think or what to do ? Even if he does not want to be with her, why would he send her these types of messages? ]]> Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy lsb http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210466 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210454&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 15:42:24 GMT I have been dating this girl for over 2 months and everything is great all the time except for one thing. She tells me she can be a very jealous... I have been dating this girl for over 2 months and everything is great all the time except for one thing. She tells me she can be a very jealous person, which is fine as I've made sure she's had nothing to be jealous about, however I've always agreed with the notion of "treat others the way you'd like to be treated" and from time to time she'll bring up this guy who she's had some history with in the past. They've dated in highschool and tried again as recently as last year to start dating again but it only lasted 2 weeks as she said he was too annoying. The thing is that I don't know if I should be worried when they exchange "I miss you" every now and then and every time she goes out to visit her friends in the place he's living in currently ( ~9 hours drive) he offers for her to stay at his house. He also says things like "i'm expecting 5 dates with you over christmas" and things like that.

Maybe I'm being irrational or whatever.. but I'd like some insight from the outside. I know I've only been dating her for 2-3 months but I feel a lot of positive feelings for this girl, she seems to show them back, but I don't want to get myself F'ed over. I'm also hesitant to bring things like this up since we've only dated a couple of months. Any suggestions ? ]]> Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy curious911 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210454 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210448&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 15:07:10 GMT Howdy, I'm not sure what this all means. There is this girl who keeps on contacting me. She has written on my facebook wall almost every day for the last few weeks, most of them unprompted. Each post always ending with "xoxoxoxoxox" or "loveeeeee youuuuuu"

She is the ex of one of my best friends, and he was crying for weeks after she dumped him for another guy. She's still with this guy it seems, but lately she's been contacting me non stop with those sorts of messages. I don't think he knows about her posts. I'm not really sure what to make of all it. I think my friend feels bad that she keeps doing this, judging from his statuses and comments etc. I've been told she's trouble. The problem is that I think I have started to develop feelings for her. She was there for me (one of the only ones) during a recent hard time. She really helped support me, and I guess I'm just a sucker.

Next time I see her we will all be under the influence of alcohol. I'm worried what would happen if we did hook up. I'm not sure if my friend would take to it nicely. But alas I really have been having trouble getting her out of my head. ]]> Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy Eclypse http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210448 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210427&goto=newpost Fri, 20 Nov 2009 07:26:52 GMT Hello all, I'm new to LS, anyways heres my story:

My GF and I have been together for 7 months and are extremely happy together, she'll be moving in with me this coming June. Last year we went out for a month and broke it off due to a big family issue involving one of her ex's being in a gang. What led up to us going out was her breaking up with her ex after realizing he was cheating on her. Leading up to the weeks before they broke up me and her were getting close, me becoming a good friend of hers very quickly, I fell for her quickly but didn't act on it until after they broke up out of respect for her. Anyways, after they broke up me and her got together, we hit it off great and everything was going great or so I thought. She recently told me during this time she had an emotional affair with her gangster ex, the one that very recently at the time cheated on her, telling him she wanted him (not physically) and that she missed him.

This continued for 2 weeks until she decided to she actually wanted me and cut him off. Then the break up happened a week later. We got back together 2 more times, I broke it off the 2nd time, the third time being now, which is when she told me this. I was hurt, it may have been only a month during that time but it was still a lie and she betrayed my trust during that time.

She apologized profusely after telling me, allowed me to vent, but got mad after I told her I couldn't trust her 100% for a bit due to this. She told me she's completely changed since then and hasn't done anything to me since and she wishes she could change the past. She says I should fully trust her (even though she says she has trust issues due to multiple exs cheating on her, and since she's cheated she thinks its possible I'll cheat too. She says she knows I would never want to hurt her and wouldn't cheat but everyone's human so it's possible. Kinda contradicting eh? So she doesn't like when I hang out with girls 1 on 1 or hanging out when theres more girls than guys in the group. She agreed to the same term with guys). Now she's completely open with me, she's given me her facebook, myspace, email ect. and even tells me when guys flirt with her. She says she can't imagine being with anyone else. The past still somewhat hurts though, is this understandable even though we only went out for a month before splitting that time? ]]> Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy Fall for you http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210427 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210370&goto=newpost Thu, 19 Nov 2009 20:34:02 GMT If you are friends with a woman and talks about how attractive other men are, does that mean that she couldn't see you anything more than friends?

I am curious as if i am with someone whom i like then i avoid talking about other womens attractiveness as i don't want her to seem like i am looking elsewhere. ]]> Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy LonelyGuy85 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210370 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210349&goto=newpost Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:55:35 GMT Bryan and I were together seven years. He gave me an engagement ring then proceeded to dump me six weeks later. I found out he started dating a... Bryan and I were together seven years. He gave me an engagement ring then proceeded to dump me six weeks later. I found out he started dating a girl he was cheating on me with. He became engaged to her. They broke up. He came back and sucked me in again. The whole time he was seeing the both of us. She found out about me and we talked on the phone for over an hour. It seems that not only was he seeing both of us the whole time and asking us to marry him, there were other women he was seeing also. He refuses to talk about feelings of any kind. He seems to show no remorse and is trying to turn this situation around like she and I are to blame. He's extremely charismatic. Almost to the point of being scary. He will not except accountability for anything he has done wrong. I'm devastated. Please help me understand why a man would do this. I told him many times he could have his freedom but he declared daily his undying love for me. All this i just found out this week. I found out he's been doing this all his life. I just wasted almost a decade of my life. What's wrong with him? ]]> Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy sandra3 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210349 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210336&goto=newpost Thu, 19 Nov 2009 14:50:25 GMT I cheated on my boyfriend of two years last week. I wasn't expecting to have sex, and perhaps it wasn't completely sensual, so I didn't use a condom. I plan to stay with my boyfriend and not tell him about this encounter, but I don't want to put him at physical risk. You can only get tested for a few things reliably immediately after a sexual encounter (i.e. chlymydia), but most you cannot. My doctor said it was pretty unlikely I could have gotten HIV since we're both heterosexual and not involved with iv drug users.

I feel fairly confident that the man I slept with wasn't lying to me about not having any STDs, but I'm not sure that he would know for sure about something like herpes if he hasn't had an outbreak.

I'm terrified of putting my partner at risk due to my own poor decision making. We haven't been using condoms. If I ask to start using them, is he likely to assume I cheated on him? The main two things I am worried about are herpes and HIV. ]]> Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy catwoman24 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210336 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210331&goto=newpost Thu, 19 Nov 2009 14:22:06 GMT We have been together four years- with many great moments and many rocky moments. Most of it has been long distance while we sort out his visa issues... We have been together four years- with many great moments and many rocky moments. Most of it has been long distance while we sort out his visa issues with an attorney. Ok so thats the background....here is whats going on. He has a female coworker he was hanging out with from time to time and I was jealous from the start- her husband ended up leaving her cause he was jealous over the situation. Still I convinced myself there is nothing going on. Well.....did some snooping last night (yes I know thats wrong) and found out he has a facebook page where he lists his relationship status as "not saying" and does not have a picture of me on it, yet has a picture of my dog on it. Then I found HER (said coworkers page)- lists herself as single.....BUT found two pictures of her and him from a trip he was supposed to be on with HIS MOM.....then found message she left on another girls page saying she wasnt in on Tuesday cause she normally spends Tuesdays at MY GUYS house (intrestingly enough, me and him spend 5-6 night a week together....on skype)- and now I see whats happening on that one night a week we arent together. When he took this trip I flat out accused him of being with her.....he insisted he was not, said he does NOT cheat, etc etc. Ok so now what? I have photographic evidence he was there with her. He of course doesnt know that. Also what the hell is up??? Why is he spending 5-6 nights a week with ME (online, long distance) and yet spending ONE day a week with a local girl? He mails me gifts all the time, makes up songs for me, etc. I am so confused and I just dont know at all what to think or what to do. He is still declaring his love for me, his plan to move to america, he seriously sleeps on skype with me 5-6 nights a week, sends me long love emails, calls a lot, etc.....why 90% more time and effort on ME (the long distance girl) yet the need for a little time with this local girl?? Is there any way on earth she is just a friend? and if so why does she spend one night a week at his house? what should I do????????????????? I am hurting so bad and I am so confused. ]]> Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy stellargirl9 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210331 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210305&goto=newpost Thu, 19 Nov 2009 02:01:07 GMT This Adult friend finder site--what kind of guys are on this site?? I used the site "to watch" guys to find out what i liked --and the ratio to guys to girls is immense--is this a "hook" up site or fantasy site -or what? ]]> Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy oxfordsocks http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210305 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210301&goto=newpost Thu, 19 Nov 2009 01:17:24 GMT This girl (Jane, whom I have met once) emailed my bf and one of his girl friends (Jessica) to say she was going to be in town this week and hoped... This girl (Jane, whom I have met once) emailed my bf and one of his girl friends (Jessica) to say she was going to be in town this week and hoped they would be able to meet up one night.

Jane and Jessica are "best friends," but they haven't seen each in 4 years, and they've barely spoken to each other in that time either. My bf knows Jane through Jessica, and he and Jane don't really speak either. He has only seen Jane once in the last four years, and that was the same time I met her.

Jessica really wanted my bf to be there (as a "buffer" whatever that means) when she met up with Jane, since they haven't seen or spoken to each other in years.

My bf mentioned the email to me and said I could come if I wanted (said as an after-thought). Then he didn't say anything more about it until yesterday morning. When we were getting ready for work he was like "by the way, tonight I'm getting dinner with Jane and Jessica." Because he hadn't included me in the plans (I know he had been texting both of them for a couple days before that), didn't tell me what HIS plan was until last minute, and then told me he was getting dinner and didn't mention me coming, I felt that I wasn't invited. However, I do know I would have been able to go had I said something. I just didn't really feel comfortable at that point, so I chose not to.

Last night my bf met these two women out for dinner at 7pm. I know for a fact, because I dropped him off at 7 at this girl's hotel then...which was actually a half hour before they were all supposed to meet, so Jessica wasn't even there yet.

Apparently this dinner was more of a drinking kind of get together, as I didn't hear from bf again until he stumbled in, completely wasted, at 1am.

I pretended to be asleep when he came in, as I didn't feel like dealing with him then, and I got up for work earlier than usual (while he was still passed out) and left before he woke up so I wouldn't have to try to talk to him before work.

I'm furious, as well as disgusted by his behavior. I don't think there is any reason a 33 year old adult needs to stay out that late getting totally hammered on a week night with a girl friend and some random girl neither of them is truly friends with.

He think I'm blowing things out of proportion and being ridiculous. What do you think? I don't know what to do right now. ]]> Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy NotNow http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210301