http://www.loveshack.org/forums/ Start off with a great foundation! The place to ponder the journey towards improving yourself! en Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:25:52 GMT vBulletin 15 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/images/red/misc/rss.jpg http://www.loveshack.org/forums/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210359&goto=newpost Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:59:02 GMT Lately i've been feeling really allienated and completely detatched from life. I've always been quite serious and I don't always see the lighter side of life. I like to think in many ways that I am very mature but emotionally I am a bit more stunted (incredibly sensitive/angry easily).

I have had very close friends in the past but over the years have grown apart from them all. Either they have taken up with things that I disagree with such as drugs and promiscuity and I have therefore been cut out purely because I don't do those things or they are obsessed with getting drunk or always gossipping or they come across to me as vacuous and shallow. I've begun to realise that with most of my friends there is a perfomative level; that when i'm around them I have to be different to who I truly am. It seems to me that everyone my own age is just obsessed with drinking and sex and has such a childish attitude to everything. I don't know if I just high-strung or too moralistic and judgemental but I find it hard to stomach and everyone seems to think there's something wrong with my view that binge-drinking is boring and promiscuity is wrong (at least for me in my life).

I feel unaccepted for who I am and what I believe. I almost feel too old for my age. I think this is in part because of my breakup and prior to this I had panic disorder/agrophobia so I think I became very negative. I find a lot of things very juvenile and irritating and so I feel really allienated, like I kind of have to wait for everyone else to grow up? And just be lonely and bored because of it?

Anyone else feel the same. ]]> Self-Improvement and Personal Well-Being Nikki Sahagin http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210359 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210287&goto=newpost Wed, 18 Nov 2009 23:35:22 GMT first let me introduce myself for a bit: im an 18 year old , kinda observer type of guy who doesnt really spend much time with people, aside from... first let me introduce myself for a bit:
im an 18 year old , kinda observer type of guy who doesnt really spend much time with people, aside from school and things alike.
im quite pessimistic about lotsa things, may suddenly do random stuff ( moving arms randomly during class, jumping circles around classmates during break)( blaming adhd), but sometimes just sit and listen music quietly and forgetting the world... sometimes? no really often.
or just watch people i know interact and listen to people talk without actually taking/being part of the conversations. also im quite afraid of any kind of rejection or pain (physical or emotional)

the trouble im having is that ive never succeded in having any kind of romantic relationship with a girl in my life, while im seeing increasing numbers of fellow high schoolers getting a gf or bf.

you might say: well youre just 18, your time may come. or : its in your attitude, change that and itll be fine.

itd be nice to actually know what to do to change this fact ( gf less ness)

odds are wayy against me and this may be too incoherent to awnser but please try or ask for refinement ^^

thanks in advance ]]> Self-Improvement and Personal Well-Being C-life http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=210287