Ddermont Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 Where do i start? Hi my names David , me and my wife have been married for 2 years. Well eveything was fine for us , until we decided to move in with the mother in law. We have a 14 month old son together. Well she changed after that. We signed a apartment together on a lease. She spent less time with me and we would argue about that. Well we got into a big fight the other day , because i wanted to take my son to my moms for mothers day, she didn't trust me. Well her mom called the cops on me. ( i went to jail for a traffic ticket i was unaware of. ) i got out came back she was gone. She moved to her aunts , that didn't work out. Well she moved her stuff back to the apartment , while i was at work. I talked to her uncle , she wants me to leave for a week to give her time to think of what her next move is. as she didn't get to think it over at her aunts. EVERYONE REASSURED ME SHE STILL LOVES ME. Is this a trick to get me to leave, or does she really need time to think it out? Link to post Share on other sites
sarahssarah Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 I think you should just give her time .. maybe wait a couple days And give her a call .. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 You wanted to take your child to your mother's for Mother's Day? Hate to disillusion you, but the mother of your child gets first dibs for choice on Mother's Day. Just as you should get first dibs on Father's Day. Also, the comment about her not trusting you makes me believe you were going without her on Mother's Day. What reason did she give for not trusting you? Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 (edited) The responses on here so far are not making sense to me . This is what I read: OP wanted to take his son to see OP's mom, and what OP's wife's mom did was *call the cops on him* and his wife moved out. Yet the advice OP got so far was "give her more time" and "mom's get first dibs on Mother's Day". Are we all reading the same thread here??? FWIW I agree that Moms get first dibs on Mother's Day, but if Law Enforcement is asked to get involved, there are far more serious issues at play. My take on this is that either OP's inlaws are quite resentful to OP for a valid reason, or OP's wife is having an affair, quite possibly both. This whole situation seems severely dysfunctional either way. At any rate, it really does look like there is a lot of details left out by the OP. Edited May 18, 2017 by Imajerk17 7 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted May 18, 2017 Share Posted May 18, 2017 The responses on here so far are not making sense to me . This is what I read: OP wanted to take his son to see OP's mom, and what OP's wife's mom did was *call the cops on him* and his wife moved out. Yet the advice OP got so far was "give her more time" and "mom's get first dibs on Mother's Day". Are we all reading the same thread here??? FWIW I agree that Moms get first dibs on Mother's Day, but if Law Enforcement is asked to get involved, there are far more serious issues at play. My take on this is that either OP's inlaws are quite resentful to OP for a valid reason, or OP's wife is having an affair, quite possibly both. This whole situation seems severely dysfunctional either way. At any rate, it really does look like there is a lot of details left out by the OP. Agreed. Either there is more to the story of your wife and her family are crazy. To say that what they did is over-the-top is an understatement. Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 David, they are not very fond of you. May be justified, may not. Have no idea, but: 1) mom calling cops 2) wife moving out during your jail time without a word sounds like it could have been premeditated 3) wife doesn't trust you with your own child 4) aunts and uncles ask you to let wife live in your place alone look at what happened the last time you weren't around and all thier assurances that she loves you? They mean less than nothing, as in : RED FLAG! Something is going on, and you're the patsy. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 Never ever leave your home and under the circumstances you need a Voice Activated Recorder on you at all times. Next up is a restraining order against you. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 I feel sorry for the kid. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 Good points about me only commenting on the Mother's Day thing. I probably should have elaborated further and said that if this is the kind of judgement call he makes, then I don't believe that he's a totally innocent party in all of this. The OP doesn't say why she called the police. It could be anything from her trying to prevent him from taking the child without her permission (bad reason to call the police) to the OP being abusive or frightening during the argument (good reason to call the police). Or possibly he was angry and in no state to take a child anywhere. We just don't have enough information. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 Calling police is no joke. OTOH, new mothers are always possessive of new babies. Something is missing in the story. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ddermont Posted May 20, 2017 Author Share Posted May 20, 2017 Sorry for leaving out details.. the mother in law lives with us, i got upset not angry the other night as she said she wasn't going to do anything for me anymore(make lunch,do laundry etc).so out of emotional spite i said i was going to cut her phone off. Ya i messed up , im not a abusive guy , i just wanted to feel appreciated for providing for my family. So the next day she said she was done and i havent spoken to her since then . As she doesn't reply to my text or calls. She has since then moved to her grandmas , but can only stay for a week. Her mom gave me a ultimatum , move out as she wants to come back , but without me their. My lease ends in 2 months and dont want to ruin my lease record. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ddermont Posted May 20, 2017 Author Share Posted May 20, 2017 About taking my son ,my mom hardly ever gets to see him as she lives 3 1/2 hours away. So i thought id go take him to go see my mom. Ya i should of went about it very differently . Im a screw up , depressed , and want my family back Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted May 20, 2017 Share Posted May 20, 2017 Do you mind illuminating us on why your wife and her family have so much resentment towards you? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted May 20, 2017 Share Posted May 20, 2017 You're screwed because you have your wife and her mom living there so it'll always be two against one. Your name is on the lease? Is your MILs name on the lease? If not throw her out. She shouldn't be living with you anyway. Weird. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 Sorry for leaving out details.. the mother in law lives with us, i got upset not angry the other night as she said she wasn't going to do anything for me anymore(make lunch,do laundry etc).so out of emotional spite i said i was going to cut her phone off. Ya i messed up , im not a abusive guy , i just wanted to feel appreciated for providing for my family. So the next day she said she was done and i havent spoken to her since then . As she doesn't reply to my text or calls. She has since then moved to her grandmas , but can only stay for a week. Her mom gave me a ultimatum , move out as she wants to come back , but without me their. My lease ends in 2 months and dont want to ruin my lease record. Call the police and have that old bag escorted out of your home. Link to post Share on other sites
live2ndin Posted May 23, 2017 Share Posted May 23, 2017 Could you perhaps have a direct face to face conversation with your wife, so that you can talk about these issues and hopefully start resolving them? There is a real value to making sure you are on the same page with your spouse. I really want to encourage you and give you some hope, that perhaps with some communication this issue will be resolved. I get the impression that you care deeply for your wife, and I commend you for that. Link to post Share on other sites
frigginlost Posted May 23, 2017 Share Posted May 23, 2017 About taking my son ,my mom hardly ever gets to see him as she lives 3 1/2 hours away. So i thought id go take him to go see my mom. Ya i should of went about it very differently . Im a screw up , depressed , and want my family back OP, Sorry you're feeling the way you are, but something isn't adding up with me. You stated that your wife "did not trust you" when you were going to take the baby 3 1/2 hours away on Mothers Day. Were you guys already fighting at that point? I could see a woman absolutely losing it if someone was going to take their baby on Mothers Day 3 1/2 hours away. Was that the catalyst to the cops being called? Link to post Share on other sites
springy Posted May 23, 2017 Share Posted May 23, 2017 How does mom in law give you an ultimatum on an apartment that has your name on the lease? Too much missing information in this post. So she staying in your apartment and wants to live there with her daughter? She can't give you an ultimatum on your own apartment. lol...please...I sure hope you aren't seriously considering that. She can't kick you out of your leased apartment. So much drama. Link to post Share on other sites
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