JoshCube Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 To make a long story short, I met this girl six years ago at my job, she is German, and I'm Jewish (not religious). When we were friends, we had tension towards each other based on the events of the holocaust, and we had a deep dislike towards each other. One day, we had a "click", exchanged numbers, and fell in love. Our relationship was extremely lustful, and based on sex with loud music blasting, drinking, and smoking. I've taken psychology, and I think we had a sexual attraction towards each other with all the hate that was bottled up. It was some sort of fetish. Every time we had sex, it was very dirty, and felt like we were doing a porno. There was little to no emotion this whole time. 6 years have passed, and I just recently broke up with her, and I'm filing a divorce. All this time she was putting me down in front of her family, and I had no idea she was doing this (I recently found out). I had tears in my eyes, and she sat there quietly with a smirk on her face. I haven't spoken to her on the phone since. My gut feeling has felt emotional pain, and I strongly believe her genetics from her ancestors is what caused her to act like this. The spirit of the Nazis is trying to break us up, because they find our relationship sickening. This story is true, I'm not making this all up. As of now, I feel heartbroken inside, and I don't know if I have the strength to approach her to ask her why she did this all these years. Please help. Link to post Share on other sites
badpenny Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 Racial prejudice and anti-semitism are hateful trademarks, but one thing is for sure: if you hold onto this hatred, resentment and antipathy in your heart, you embrace and welcome them as if you loved and cherished them. if you're divorcing (though you don't mention when or why you actually married) then simply divorce, but do not harbour grudges. Whatever decisions you take based on an emotional response, these will invariably be misguided and wrong. Divorce for sound reasons, but you really must work through the hatred and resentment you may still cradle in your heart and mind. Remember what Viktor Frankl said: “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 Best for you to let go and take care of yourself. NO good can come of talking to her about this, as to why she chose to do this to you. Mental illness, or whatever it is that's wrong with her won't take away your pain. Chances are she'll make you feel worse than you already do. DO NOT give her that satisfaction! She is evil. I wish you strength to get through this. Reach out to your trusted friends and family. Link to post Share on other sites
TravisHubbard Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 This is a very unfortunate turn of events, and I feel for you. But you must break free from this nonsense. > I don't know if I have the strength to approach her to ask her why she did this all these years. Don't do this, do not talk to her. It will likely amuse her and give her pleasure to see you in pain. This could lead to her wanting to have sex, which you will mistake for love, causing you more pain. Break away my friend. Take time to heal and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 This story is true, I'm not making this all up. Usually the posters who declare this are the ones making things up. The spirit of the Nazis is trying to break us up, because they find our relationship sickening. Really... Mr. Lucky 3 Link to post Share on other sites
lollipopspot Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 we had tension towards each other based on the events of the holocaust, and we had a deep dislike towards each other What could the tension be? I'm assuming she doesn't deny or excuse it? Because if so, feel yourself to be free of someone with emotional/mental issues. I don't even know any rational people who have mixed feelings about the holocaust. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JoshCube Posted March 3, 2015 Author Share Posted March 3, 2015 Best for you to let go and take care of yourself. NO good can come of talking to her about this, as to why she chose to do this to you. Mental illness, or whatever it is that's wrong with her won't take away your pain. Chances are she'll make you feel worse than you already do. DO NOT give her that satisfaction! She is evil. I wish you strength to get through this. Reach out to your trusted friends and family. I really cannot comprehend why this happened. We had a perfect relationship with no fighting, no problems, and we had beautiful sex every day. We kissed on the lips and said we loved each other, although this was at a minimum. I just don't understand how someone could hate someone for all these years, and then hide it while pretending to be your lover. What she did doesn't even sound human, it feels as if she's a monster of the dark world. I do not know what possessed her to do this to me other than the fact this was her secret plan to see me suffer when this day finally came. I treated this woman like a queen, and this is how she repays me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JoshCube Posted March 3, 2015 Author Share Posted March 3, 2015 What could the tension be? I'm assuming she doesn't deny or excuse it? Because if so, feel yourself to be free of someone with emotional/mental issues. I don't even know any rational people who have mixed feelings about the holocaust. There is a lot of racial tension till this day based on events from the holocaust, even though this happened like 80 years ago. Its the same as how Native Americans and Blacks show racial tension towards Whites although those incidents took place 100 - 300 years ago. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 The spirit of the Nazis is trying to break us up, because they find our relationship sickening. Err... how old is she...? I've lived in Germany all my life and the only times I was faced with prejudice and unreasoned arrogance was when I was around a "certain type" of people (not Jewish myself, but my family origins are in East-Europe, so basically the first thing people have in mind when I tell them my nationality is car thieves). But schools here are open for kids of all social circles so there's no way around that. I highly doubt this "Nazi spirit" as you call it is what's wrong (Being Jewish doesn't really interest anybody over here anymore, the only ones getting badmouthed are eastern German folk). You probably just fell for a borderliner or narcissist. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author JoshCube Posted March 3, 2015 Author Share Posted March 3, 2015 Err... how old is she...? I've lived in Germany all my life and the only times I was faced with prejudice and unreasoned arrogance was when I was around a "certain type" of people (not Jewish myself, but my family origins are in East-Europe, so basically the first thing people have in mind when I tell them my nationality is car thieves). But schools here are open for kids of all social circles so there's no way around that. I highly doubt this "Nazi spirit" as you call it is what's wrong (Being Jewish doesn't really interest anybody over here anymore, the only ones getting badmouthed are eastern German folk). You probably just fell for a borderliner or narcissist. I'm 29, she's 28. We're only 8 months apart in age. I spoke to my mother; she said that the girl was playing games with me all these years, and I was too in love with her to see it. I feel that it is really inhuman for a person to "pretend" they love you all this time, but have hatred for you inside. As I sit here typing this, I really cannot believe this happened. Did I marry a goddamn vampire? Jesus...... Link to post Share on other sites
idoltree Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 My gut feeling has felt emotional pain, and I strongly believe her genetics from her ancestors is what caused her to act like this. The spirit of the Nazis is trying to break us up, because they find our relationship sickening. Well this is one I haven't heard before. I really cannot comprehend why this happened. We had a perfect relationship with no fighting, no problems, and we had beautiful sex every day. We kissed on the lips and said we loved each other, although this was at a minimum. This contradicts with the below. Every time we had sex, it was very dirty, and felt like we were doing a porno. There was little to no emotion this whole time.I think you need to get your story straight before trying to sell your screenplay. Maybe pitch it to M. Night Shyamalan and keep the "Nazi/Jewish-ancestry tearing apart two loving but regularly hate-f*cking individuals" thing for the surprise twist at the end! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author JoshCube Posted March 3, 2015 Author Share Posted March 3, 2015 Well this is one I haven't heard before. This contradicts with the below. I think you need to get your story straight before trying to sell your screenplay. Maybe pitch it to M. Night Shyamalan and keep the "Nazi/Jewish-ancestry tearing apart two loving but regularly hate-f*cking individuals" thing for the surprise twist at the end! Dude, kissing on the lips doesn't necessarily mean it was emotional. It was sexual kissing. Link to post Share on other sites
jimmy1968 Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 Time for you to move on and heal. Find a woman who is not crazy. Love yourself. Drinking, smoking, crazy sex, I've been there. Sounds like you don't want to be happy and enjoy life. Now's your chance, take it. She sounds rotten and you deserve much better in life. Find yourself, learn to love yourself, hang out with friends new and old, stay busy and you will get through this much happier. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JoshCube Posted March 4, 2015 Author Share Posted March 4, 2015 Josh' date=' is she taking any kind of medication?[/quote'] Yes, she takes medication for insomnia and depression. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JoshCube Posted March 4, 2015 Author Share Posted March 4, 2015 Time for you to move on and heal. Find a woman who is not crazy. Love yourself. Drinking, smoking, crazy sex, I've been there. Sounds like you don't want to be happy and enjoy life. Now's your chance, take it. She sounds rotten and you deserve much better in life. Find yourself, learn to love yourself, hang out with friends new and old, stay busy and you will get through this much happier. For some reason, it seems like I'm attracting women that are no good. Going to invest some money into The Tao System. It will likely clear up some stuff about how women are seeing me as. I'm talking to another woman overseas, and it seems like history is wanting to repeat itself. Link to post Share on other sites
karnak Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 Err... how old is she...? I've lived in Germany all my life and the only times I was faced with prejudice and unreasoned arrogance was when I was around a "certain type" of people (not Jewish myself, but my family origins are in East-Europe, so basically the first thing people have in mind when I tell them my nationality is car thieves). But schools here are open for kids of all social circles so there's no way around that. I highly doubt this "Nazi spirit" as you call it is what's wrong (Being Jewish doesn't really interest anybody over here anymore, the only ones getting badmouthed are eastern German folk). You probably just fell for a borderliner or narcissist. EHEH... I once saw a documentary in which a reporter from Israel asked the great rabbi of the Berlin jewish community if the german jews still felt any problems in Germany. The rabbi looked like one of those old SS propaganda-figures. A blonde, giant, muscular guy. The israeli team looked like midgets near him. In fact the rabbi was angry that they'd ask him if the germans were anti-semites. Looking at the pictures it'd seem the israeli reporters were afraid that the rabbi would give them a beating for asking him stupid questions. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JoshCube Posted March 7, 2015 Author Share Posted March 7, 2015 Is she taking an SSRI for depression or something else? I really don't care no more, because she's gone. Link to post Share on other sites
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