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Me and my ex broke up almost a year ago. I am the one who ended it. I do regret it now but I think it might be to late. We have been great friends since we broke up so a couple weeks ago I told her I wanted to talk with her and I apologized and asked about the possibility of us being together again. She never said no but said she doesn't want to be in a relationship at all right now and that her main priority was her two daughters and her niece that live with her. I help her out as much as I can and she's always there whenever I need something. She even got me a present for my birthday the other day. I recently told her that I respect her wishes to not want a relationship right now and that I'm a way maybe we are better off as friends. The only problem is I love her and I want to be with her but I have to respect her wishes and back off and just be her friend. I would love to be back together one day but I don't want to be just wishful thinking. I don't know what to do do I play it out or just be her friend and accept the fact that's all we ever be?

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Happy Lemming

Maybe she is trying to protect her children and niece.

 

Seeing you come in and out of their lives as well, might be difficult on them.

 

Just a thought??

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Why did you break up wih her? Are the reasons now magically resolved? Or is it that you haven't found anyone better?

 

I don't beleive in masquerading as someone's friend when you want something romantic. Can you be happy for her when she finds someone else? If not, that's a pretty crappy friendship.

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When I asked if we could discuss the possibility she said "At this point in my life I don't want to be in a relationship right now my life is crazy enough as it is and I just don't have time to dedicate to anything else" I don't know what to do I love her and can't just give up I want to marry her and spend my life with her and her kids

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When I asked if we could discuss the possibility she said "At this point in my life I don't want to be in a relationship right now my life is crazy enough as it is and I just don't have time to dedicate to anything else" I don't know what to do I love her and can't just give up I want to marry her and spend my life with her and her kids

 

She said "NO" and in a polite way, so move on!

 

Go "No Contact", heal, then attempt to find someone else.

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All you can do is accept that she no longer trusts you with her heart. Her stated reason is an excuse. If she was willing to try again a busy life wouldn't stop her. If you can handle being "just friends" carry on. If you will always pine for more, put some distance in here. Don't ghost & don't just drop her because she has been very kind to you; treat her graciously in response.

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She has been loud and very clear that she doesn’t want a relationship. Leave her alone.

 

 

If you respected her decision, you would have left her alone.

 

Leave her alone. Period.

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