LoveShack.org Community Forums

Reload this Page LoveShack.org Community Forums > Breaking Up, Reconciliation & Coping > Second Chances

I responded during no contact like an idiot!!!!


Second Chances Called it off but doubting the decision now? Someone wants you back? Let us know about it!

Like Tree1Likes
  • 1 Post By 1fish2fish
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 11th November 2017, 11:35 PM   #1
New Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2017
Posts: 2
Unhappy I responded during no contact like an idiot!!!!

Hey all!
Need a little advice here. My ex of two years and I broke up officially a few days ago after a three week break. I moved back home with my family and haven't contacted him since the morning after I arrived. I think he is in a rebound relationship with one of his coworkers, he's been posting pictures from our date spots so that's my only assumption. Anyways. Only a few days after I left and I saw he MIGHT be in a new relationship, he sent me a plain, "How are you?" text. I responded about a half hour later with, "I'm fine. Thank you for asking."
He hasn't responded even though I know he must seen it. I know he's at work right now but is there any reason he may not have replied? Why did he send it so shortly? Should I not have responded or at least so passively?
He knows I'm hurt so I don't know his motive on asking.
FreeFromBurden is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11th November 2017, 11:46 PM   #2
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2017
Posts: 14
He doesnt sound that nice...
I think you deserve someone so much better hun...
Don't sell yourself short..
You are worth it!!
And you will find someone whose going to love you...
Don't rush into anything..
Find yourself first...
Form friendships first and dont just jump right into dating.....

You will find love... ��
Habibiti is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th November 2017, 7:02 AM   #3
Established Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2017
Posts: 336
He didn't reply because you answered his breadcrumb with a closed ended statement instead of asking him how he was in return.

It's better to not respond to any breadcrumbs he tosses your way. This is to allow YOU to heal. The best way to not respond to him is to not be able to receive any communication from him. By responding, it tells him that you're still there in the background. Nothing but food for his ego.



Delete. Block. Remove him from your life completely.
1fish2fish is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th November 2017, 9:14 PM   #4
Established Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2017
Posts: 178
Quote:
Originally Posted by FreeFromBurden View Post
he sent me a plain, "How are you?" text. I responded about a half hour later with, "I'm fine. Thank you for asking."
He hasn't responded even though I know he must seen it. I know he's at work right now but is there any reason he may not have replied? Why did he send it so shortly? Should I not have responded or at least so passively?
He knows I'm hurt so I don't know his motive on asking.
With texting, sometimes you can never tell the tone in how someone responds. He might think your text response is a smart ass come back......because how could you be fine, you two just broke up and he must know you are hurting.

With that being said, I agree 100 per cent with 1fish2fish, delete, block and remove. This is the only way you will be able to heal and ultimately move on.
IF you ever come into contact with the ex, you must come from a place of indifference. This way, whatever is said won't make a difference either way.

Right now, contact is too raw. Realize you deserve better.
Good luck.
HarmonyDriven is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

 

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Responded to my Ex's attempts to contact me - BIG MISTAKE - don't do it! Hoosfoos Breaks and Breaking Up 16 10th March 2014 9:34 PM
I broke the No Contact Rule!!! Am an Idiot !!!! secondfailure Separation and Divorce 9 30th September 2013 8:35 PM
broke no contact, and i was such an idiot lemonadekiwi Breaks and Breaking Up 1 5th June 2013 8:28 PM
Broke No Contact, she responded okay. Now I have a dilemma. gargleblar Second Chances 2 18th December 2012 7:35 PM
I responded to my ex a year after he made contact. What have I done?? kichelka Second Chances 21 20th August 2011 1:49 AM

 

All times are GMT -4. The time now is 4:44 AM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.


Copyright © 1997-2013 LoveShack.org. All Rights Reserved.