Originally Posted by ErikChevyLover
About 5 weeks ago my ex of 2.5 years dumped me saying she's not happy anymore. We were having a rough time towards the end I lost my job was stressed and didn't treat her the best. This was the second time she dumped me. I apologized for everything I did wrong begged for the first week then gave her a little space not much. She continues to tell me how happy she is without me but I know she has been isolating herself at home. Two weeks after the breakup she wanted to meet up so we did we talked and she continued to tell me she doesn't see us together but she still loves me and cares about me we ended up making out that night. She told me she misses my kind loving heart and maybe in the future we could get back together. We continued to text after that she told me all about her birthday how and how her dad was doing after surgery. On Christmas Day we texted a little she seemed happy to talk to me then out of the blue she says she needs space but I didn't do what I should have done and give her space. I continued to pester her and she got mad at me a week ago telling me not to contact her and to leave her alone. I finally got the message and did that haven't contacted her for a week the longest we have ever gone. Today I randomly went on her Instagram page and liked a photo literally a second later she started following me again. I'm lost is she still interested in me? Should I reach out and text her? She always told me that guys should be the one to reach out. Is she too scared to reach out to me? I'm lost any advice?
Im going to be straight up with you and you aren't going to like this.
She's done with you. For now at least, maybe forever. Considering this is you second breakup she has built up a lot of reasons for her not wanting to be with you anymore and there may not be anything you can do to shake that image. Your only chance, and I mean only chance of having a shot with her is becoming a ghost. Remove her and block her on Instagram, Facebook, phone numbers etc. You really shot yourself in the foot by begging for her back and still being around like this...this comes off needy and desperate. Meeting with her to talk also was a mistake as that helped her feel better at the expense of you. But you aren't going to become a ghost for her, you're going to become a ghost for you.
If you keep her on social media you're going to start seeing things you don't want to see. It's going to hurt you. At this point you need to protect yourself and the only way to do this is NC.
When you do cut her off, she may reach out to you. If she does post here and don't respond. Unless she comes begging for you back, I wouldn't bother even entertaining a response to her. She's probably going to be testing the waters to make sure you don't hate her and you're still around as her plan C.
Most importantly, any action besides no contact with her will ruin any marginal chance you have at her coming back at all. No amount of begging, pleading, changing, words or actions will make her change the way she feels towards you. Her feelings are gone at this point and there is nothing you can do to change it.