Pentel Posted December 2, 2009 Share Posted December 2, 2009 at the end of next semester, which ends in june of next year she said "i want next semester, but i think its too much time, but i want to" i told her i probably won't be waiting for her that long, the reasons: - she wants time for herself - she don't want pressures - she wants time with her girlfriends - she wants to get better grades at school Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pentel Posted December 2, 2009 Author Share Posted December 2, 2009 sooo.... what would you guys do? wait? dont wait? try to wait but even like that try with someone else? kill yourself? kill her and then yourself? (joke on the last 2) Link to post Share on other sites
sean1970 Posted December 2, 2009 Share Posted December 2, 2009 the reasons: - she wants time for herself... and other people. - she don't want pressures... from your relationship. - she wants time with her girlfriends... and what do her GFs want to do? - she wants to get better grades at school... and you make that not possible how? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pentel Posted December 2, 2009 Author Share Posted December 2, 2009 (edited) she says she doesn't wants a boyfriend right now, she wants to be alone for a while, but that we could see each other some days Edited December 2, 2009 by Pentel Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pentel Posted December 2, 2009 Author Share Posted December 2, 2009 we talked yesterday, she said "you are the one" and stuff like that, but she said that she wants some time to work on herself, Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted December 2, 2009 Share Posted December 2, 2009 Live your life,man. If it works out in the future great..if not cool. Focus on yourself and your happiness from here out. If you want to date, do it. If you feel like hanging out with her during her "break" do it. Just don't pressure her to move her timeline at all. Go out and have fun.. you're free now that you have her answer. Link to post Share on other sites
McGrupp Posted December 2, 2009 Share Posted December 2, 2009 i mean honestly, your in college right? yer ****ed. but she might come back. you should act accordingly Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pentel Posted December 2, 2009 Author Share Posted December 2, 2009 i mean honestly, your in college right? yer ****ed. but she might come back. you should act accordingly She isn't acting accordingly... Link to post Share on other sites
leap83 Posted December 2, 2009 Share Posted December 2, 2009 Pentel, the fact that you HAVE to ask the LS says everything. Think about it. If you were sure she was the one, you wouldn't have to ask anyone. You would know it and act accordingly. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted December 2, 2009 Share Posted December 2, 2009 at the end of next semester, which ends in june of next year she said "i want next semester, but i think its too much time, but i want to" i told her i probably won't be waiting for her that long, the reasons: - she wants time for herself - she don't want pressures - she wants time with her girlfriends - she wants to get better grades at school You shouldn't wait AT ALL. And I disagree that you should hang out at all with her. If someone tells you this you cut bait and move on. If they find they have made an error and want the relationship they WILL come to you and they WILL tell you. If not then they were never going to anyway - you just simply do not impact their life, their mind, or their heart. Rest assured that is she met a man she thought was her ultimate she wouldn't put HIM on the back burner. Don't ever settle for being a back burner guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pentel Posted December 2, 2009 Author Share Posted December 2, 2009 anything else? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 2, 2009 Share Posted December 2, 2009 If someone insulted my emotions and my intelligence with an offer to be a 'back burner' girl, I'd tell them to f*ck right off. I know you want to see the good in it, but it really is the lowest priority you can give someone without outright dumping them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pentel Posted December 2, 2009 Author Share Posted December 2, 2009 the reason im actually kinda ok with it, cause i need some time too to get my heart to heal, Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted December 2, 2009 Share Posted December 2, 2009 the reason im actually kinda ok with it, cause i need some time too to get my heart to heal, Then do what you should do and heal -- ALONE. Don't use that an excuse to be downgraded and shifted to the lowest of priorities in ANYONE else's life. You aren't doing yourself any favors at all by accepting this and OBVIOUSLY you are somewhat wrapped up in it or you wouldn't be posting here Link to post Share on other sites
001bh Posted December 3, 2009 Share Posted December 3, 2009 yeah don't do what I did: beg to keep it going one more semester and (and then got dumpped when she starts grad school and replaced me with new pHd guy, yet she feels 'hurt' when i defriended her.) If I could do it all over again. I would've just said we're through and cya after she gave me the "i want a break crap'', start looking for something new. You only live so long. Don't let other people walk all over you. (Then I saw eternal sunshine of the spotless mind and 500 days of summer and felt like crap for months.) Link to post Share on other sites
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