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Old 11th December 2005, 9:30 AM   #1
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A dear friend sent this to me....

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a
lifetime.

When you know which one it is, you will know what to
do for that person.


When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is
usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have
come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide
you with guidance and support, to aid you physically,
emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a
godsend and they are. They are there for the reason
you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on
your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will
say or do something to bring the relationship to an
end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met,
our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer
you sent up has been answered and now it is time to
move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because
your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They
bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
things you must build upon in order to have a solid
emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the
lesson, love the person and put what you have learned
to use in all other relationships and areas of your
life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is
clairvoyant. And those good friends are like
stars....You don't always see them, but you know they
are always there for a lifetime.
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Old 11th December 2005, 10:56 AM   #2
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You know, while I respect the intent and the feelings, I have just one thing to say to this:

BULL*****.

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People come into your life for a reason, a season or a
lifetime.
No they don't. We bump dumbly into one another and create our own reasons. That is as it should be; we do not twitch on strings of some universal puppet-master.
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When you know which one it is...
First of all, you won't "know which one it is" because they aren't there for a reason, they are there because they just happen to be there. That, again, is all to the good, and it's even better when we can gain and learn and become stronger because of their influence in our lives.
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...you will know what to do for that person.
No you won't. You will learn what do do as you grow and evolve with them. Again, that's positive, because we grow and evolve, as does the relationship, as a result.

yea, I'm grouchy today. I really need to get laid...
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Old 11th December 2005, 11:01 AM   #3
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People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Experience will teach you that inner strength is your most valuable asset.
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Old 11th December 2005, 11:05 AM   #4
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OK. So, I take it you don't believe in destiny/fate?

That's well and good. To each their own. I understand your response but I guess I fall under the 'spiritual' category. I liked it.
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Old 11th December 2005, 11:10 AM   #5
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Experience will teach you that inner strength is your most valuable asset.
I concur!! Which brings me to finding meaning in the opinion of the original composer of this theory. I believe that life, trials, tribulations, are the foundation for building such inner strength. Yes, the people that join in this journey have a lot to do with the perception we each own in making us who we are today.
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Old 11th December 2005, 11:11 AM   #6
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OK. So, I take it you don't believe in destiny/fate?
Nope. Experience has taught me otherwise.

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That's well and good. To each their own. I understand your response but I guess I fall under the 'spiritual' category. I liked it.
Exactly. I certainly respect your beliefs, and while I don't happen to share them, I think it's positive that you have a faith on which you can depend. So don't let my grumpy post stop you from expressing your beliefs. (I don't think you would, but just wanna be clear...)
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Old 11th December 2005, 11:14 AM   #7
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No harm, no foul slubb. I'm a lot more bitter than this post would have anyone believe
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Old 11th December 2005, 11:17 AM   #8
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You too, eh? Welcome to the club! We meet every third Tuesday in Morty's basement. Bring rocks.
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I don't like it because it reminds me of all those stupid chain letters people send as e-mail.

I consider myself spiritual, too, but I'm also cynical and slightly curious about the darker side of life. It has more to do with yin and yang than anything else.

As long as it makes you feel good, that's all that matters.
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Old 11th December 2005, 11:24 AM   #10
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It has more to do with yin and yang than anything else.
The Asian couple down the street? Yin and Yang Chan, and their kids Grasshopper and Butterfly?
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Old 11th December 2005, 11:26 AM   #11
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People come into your life for a reason, a season or a
lifetime.

When you know which one it is, you will know what to
do for that person.


When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is
usually to meet a need you have expressed.

I'm not sure I can go with you on this one all the way heartnsoul....
I was in a relationship with a classic Narcissist, I have started reflecting how did I take part in allowing this destructive relationship in my life. Did I welcome
a verbally abusive person it willingly. No. I learned for myself now that it's an insidious form of brainwashing that goes in nanobits and because I was under the delusion "that I was in love" it continued until it got worse and he left me,
plain and simple. I am recovering slowly from a situation that diminished my self-esteem. So according to that quotation: Was there some "need" in me that was calling to be mislead to believe in someone and not see their behavior as destructive towards me. Could I have not learned that lesson another way? Less painful???
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Old 11th December 2005, 11:28 AM   #12
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The Asian couple down the street? Yin and Yang Chan, and their kids Grasshopper and Butterfly?
They live on Tao street.
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Old 11th December 2005, 11:31 AM   #13
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You too, eh? Welcome to the club! We meet every third Tuesday in Morty's basement. Bring rocks.
Oh, I'm wayyy beyond taking the rocks to someones basement!! I've graduated to highway overpasses I KID!!


West...I hear ya. It is rather sappy and trite. However, I've had my share of bs in this lifetime (as most have) and don't want to live ingulfed in hate and cynicism. It's all too easy to do but finding balance is what I aspire to accomplish. "Negative" weighs too heavy on the soul, ya know.
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Old 11th December 2005, 11:34 AM   #14
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Oh, I'm wayyy beyond taking the rocks to someones basement!! I've graduated to highway overpasses I KID!!
Nononononono..., you don't understand. We don't use them in the basement, that's just where we collect them. Then we go to highway overpasses and tall buildings and bridges and whatnot.

note to the literal-minded: the above was humour, not to be taken seriously or with other medication
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Old 11th December 2005, 11:39 AM   #15
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"Negative" weighs too heavy on the soul, ya know.
I hear you, even though I love being cynical. It's gotten me into trouble on first dates, but those women were too uptight to begin with, so it turned out to be a blessing in disguise.

I guess everything does happen for a reason. *snicker*
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