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Old 28th September 2017, 6:55 AM   #1
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Dated a sociopath...

Has anyone dated a sociopath before? Please share your story.

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Old 28th September 2017, 3:45 PM   #2
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Not a sociopath, but someone with PPD.

Not recommended.
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Old 28th September 2017, 3:58 PM   #3
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What makes you think the person was a sociopath?

Could it be NPD? That I can talk about.
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Old 28th September 2017, 4:53 PM   #4
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Yes. So smooth at the start to hook me in - then the real him started to show through. Glad I dumped him when I saw the real him.

But I knew the next girl he went to. He used all the same lines on her too!! Sadly, she didn't dump him early enough and went on to have an emotionally abusive marriage with him until she left.

He threw a molotov cocktail at her parents house (while they were inside asleep!) in revenge for their financial and emotional support during the divorce process.
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Old 28th September 2017, 5:20 PM   #5
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I wrote a REALLY long version of my story here:

https://lithium-dragon.deviantart.co...Door-706530621
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Old 5th October 2017, 10:54 PM   #6
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I guess I should tell my story

Met a woman at a wedding while I was just getting out of a relationship. She lived overseas and it was a long distance relationship. Biggest mistake was not just staying single, perhaps I wouldn't of wasted those 5 months and would of gone back to the ex sooner after seeing things could of worked out. Anyways, I got with Jane Doe and it was so blissful, intense, and things were just moving so quickly. She said I was the one, she was a law student and our families knew each other and were close. Come the end of the 4th month she starts to change, the "I can't live without you", and the "I need to talk to you all day", turns to "I can't have my phone by my side all the time!", the out of the blue arguments or anger over the dumbest topics. Other signs included one day she told me "My friends love you because they said I treat them better since you came into my life", also she told me she loved me within the second week of making it official, and finally the "I get bored easily" comment that sends shivers down my spine. The lies also started unraveling about who she was and her own stories she told me.

Within the first month of dating we bought tickets to see each other (she lives outside the country), I was visiting her and she was supposed to come down in the summer. Around the end of the 4th month she starts becoming distant and finally just only texts, on the third day I sent her the money for her flight and told her that she doesn't have to come and we can try in December. She breaks up with me through text and gives me some excuse about taking care of her great grandmother, after that she still flew 4 days later (leaving her dying great grandmother) to my neck of the woods and I just ignored her and just spoke to her the day she needed to fly back and told her there was no confidence and gently departed with a scathing e-mail.

The damage is done though, I can't believe I fell for someone that created a facade of a personality. I'm mourning a ghost and I got back with my ex now, but it just pains to have been duped and lied to.
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Old 6th October 2017, 3:25 AM   #7
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I had something similiar to the case above. Came on strong at the start, incredibly romantic. Felt like i had met the 'one'.

Then, the discarding and false blame started. I was asked not to make her 'choose' between her and her moonlighting business when i expressed sorrow once via text that i would not see her due to her work situation. I told her, that's okay, you already have and ceased to contact her.

She messaged me two weeks later with a heart-felt 'i have been thinking of you every day, i am terrified of being vulnerable and i run and go silent when i do'. I thought she needed to work for me a bit IF i was going to take her back.

Three days later came the SOS message re- her pet dying, so of course i dropped everything and ran to her side to support her. After spending 1.5 weeks supporting her nearly every night, including staying up late, and doing a few things i didn't want to do, another discarding arrived. The most sudden withdrawal.

Woke up one morning and after sending the goodnight message with xxx, i got nothing in the morning. Usually she'd respond. I KNEW in my waters that something had changed, just like that... Overnight.

The next two days were spent arguing over text and me trying to find out where i stood, as she had previously said "i have to slow down, centre myself.. Change is good". When i asked where i stood in all that slowing down and change, i got, I'll talk to you later about it". I thought, that's nice coming from somebody i put my life on hold for for 1.5 weeks.

The worst i got was when i said that i was aching all over after 2 x 13 hour physical shifts in 40 degree heat. I told her i was "getting nothing" from her... She muttered (under her breath) "i'm showing you how i feel".

We were supposed to go scatter the ashes of her pet the following day. She dumped me at 9.30pm the night before via text and demanded that i come and get my things over the weekend.

That is only a small portion of the madness i went through- everything from 'why don't you walk around in front of me naked' to 'when i give you a compliment and tell you you're beautiful, you should say thank you" to "tell me how you feel" and when i did i'd get a lecture about my 'past' (something must have happened in your past etc), get told "that's your truth / your space", "they're your feelings, not mine" and "i don't have the words right now".

It was six months of on and off hell, and guess who got the 'blame' when it all ended? Yep, that's right... Me. The only nice bit was the initial period before i saw this cold, unfeeling and dangerous monster. She'd also previously stated "people are replaceable.. they are, but they aren't". Wtf?

I was so angry after we broke up. I still am a bit, but the indifference comes in every now and then. I'm not jaded about other women, i know there are a few out there.

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Old 7th October 2017, 10:20 AM   #8
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I had something similiar to the case above. Came on strong at the start, incredibly romantic. Felt like i had met the 'one'.

Then, the discarding and false blame started. I was asked not to make her 'choose' between her and her moonlighting business when i expressed sorrow once via text that i would not see her due to her work situation. I told her, that's okay, you already have and ceased to contact her.

She messaged me two weeks later with a heart-felt 'i have been thinking of you every day, i am terrified of being vulnerable and i run and go silent when i do'. I thought she needed to work for me a bit IF i was going to take her back.

Three days later came the SOS message re- her pet dying, so of course i dropped everything and ran to her side to support her. After spending 1.5 weeks supporting her nearly every night, including staying up late, and doing a few things i didn't want to do, another discarding arrived. The most sudden withdrawal.

Woke up one morning and after sending the goodnight message with xxx, i got nothing in the morning. Usually she'd respond. I KNEW in my waters that something had changed, just like that... Overnight.

The next two days were spent arguing over text and me trying to find out where i stood, as she had previously said "i have to slow down, centre myself.. Change is good". When i asked where i stood in all that slowing down and change, i got, I'll talk to you later about it". I thought, that's nice coming from somebody i put my life on hold for for 1.5 weeks.

The worst i got was when i said that i was aching all over after 2 x 13 hour physical shifts in 40 degree heat. I told her i was "getting nothing" from her... She muttered (under her breath) "i'm showing you how i feel".

We were supposed to go scatter the ashes of her pet the following day. She dumped me at 9.30pm the night before via text and demanded that i come and get my things over the weekend.

That is only a small portion of the madness i went through- everything from 'why don't you walk around in front of me naked' to 'when i give you a compliment and tell you you're beautiful, you should say thank you" to "tell me how you feel" and when i did i'd get a lecture about my 'past' (something must have happened in your past etc), get told "that's your truth / your space", "they're your feelings, not mine" and "i don't have the words right now".

It was six months of on and off hell, and guess who got the 'blame' when it all ended? Yep, that's right... Me. The only nice bit was the initial period before i saw this cold, unfeeling and dangerous monster. She'd also previously stated "people are replaceable.. they are, but they aren't". Wtf?

I was so angry after we broke up. I still am a bit, but the indifference comes in every now and then. I'm not jaded about other women, i know there are a few out there.

The madness is correct! Same thing she wanted me to do things via our video chats that she wouldn't reciprocate. She came off as a mature individual and that she couldn't relate to people her age (she was 22). I bought so much of her lies that at the end. I'm mourning a ghost, nothing I think about our past gives me any urge or belief that things could have been different. Its such a sad, depressing, and horrible feeling.
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Old 11th October 2017, 11:39 PM   #9
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She reached out... slipped through the cracks

Guys I need your help keeping no NC, please. She ripped my heart out, I told my cousin to tell her to leave me alone. I have a girlfriend now, and I don't want to hurt her or betray her trust.

She reached out in the only way she could, via facebook. I blocked her on all other mediums, so I blocked her on this one.
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