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Old 8th April 2012, 9:17 AM   #1
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loneliness

how you handle loneliness?
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Old 8th April 2012, 9:21 AM   #2
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Get busy.

Don't sit around and post here

Stop thinking of the word lonely or any variation thereof.

Think abundance.

Get out, do something.

( Yea I need to follow my own advice!
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Old 8th April 2012, 9:44 AM   #3
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Alone - needn't equal lonely.

The worst times people feel lonely is in the evening, when the door is closed, the world is dark and there's nobody to say goodnight to.
That's when being alone hits you.
so in the evening, take ten minutes to practice 'free Writing'
It's incredibly therapeutic.

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Free writing has these benefits:

It makes you more comfortable with the act of writing.
It helps you bypass the "inner critic" who tells you you can't write.
It can be a valve to release inner tensions.
It can help you discover things to write about.
It can indirectly improve your formal writing.
It can be fun.
Then, have a warm drink, curl up in bed with a positive book, and then go to sleep listening to a cd of positive affirmations, relaxation or visualisation.

it helps.

trust me, it really does.
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Study, play guitar, exercise, study, play video-games, study, watch a movie, surf the web, study, exercise.
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Old 8th April 2012, 11:37 AM   #5
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Oh.... and... study.
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Old 8th April 2012, 12:23 PM   #6
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how you handle loneliness?
I've never felt lonely. If you mean missing the one you have feelings for, and being in a funk because of this, it's good to get the body moving. Even if all you can do is do an exercise video; something, anything to trigger endorphins and do something nice and healthy for yourself. Go to an animal shelter just to look at the adorable animals. Read a funny book or listen to some happy, light tunes
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Old 8th April 2012, 10:05 PM   #7
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I've never felt lonely.
[Insert needle scratch]

Really? Wow. I mean... really? Wha... hmm... any secret?
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Old 8th April 2012, 10:12 PM   #8
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I was surrounded by my mom, dad, neice, nephew and my siblings today, i still felt the most alone in the room.

I find that ive been in a trance the past few days, that trance, that stage of heartbreak and feeling of emptiness, is pretty lonely....How to deal with it?

Ill get back to you on that.....
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Old 8th April 2012, 10:17 PM   #9
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By connecting with the world.

Reaching out and interacting.

Whether it's with nature, other people, your environment, your work, or life in general.

And rather than looking inward, at your needs, look outward at other's needs.

Volunteering is a good one for this.
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[Insert needle scratch]

Really? Wow. I mean... really? Wha... hmm... any secret?
I always liked my space, I guess. When I am alone, I fill my time with stuff. I was in alot of pain after what my ex had done, but I never ever felt lonely. If I had a line, it would probably be "I vant to be alone" I can't recall the actress who was famous for saying that. It's just part of who I am, I suppose. When I am by myself, I always put in classic movies, a comedy or read a funny book. I practically live in my garden, even in Winter, I am cleaning it up/prepping for Spring and it keeps me centered. I just look at it as being in touch with me.
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I always liked my space, I guess. When I am alone, I fill my time with stuff. I was in alot of pain after what my ex had done, but I never ever felt lonely. If I had a line, it would probably be "I vant to be alone" I can't recall the actress who was famous for saying that. It's just part of who I am, I suppose. When I am by myself, I always put in classic movies, a comedy or read a funny book. I practically live in my garden, even in Winter, I am cleaning it up/prepping for Spring and it keeps me centered. I just look at it as being in touch with me.
Id love to be like that....
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Music.

Listen to it, all day, every day, doesn't matter what the genre is. And when you do listen to it, throw every ounce of your body, mind, and soul into every note, every beat, every rhythm, every lyric, every syllable. Try to be attentive to what you're actually listening to, and how it relates to your situation. Words cannot describe how amazing and valuable something like this is in a time where your pain outweighs your pleasure.

Out of every healing tool that has ever gotten me through a horrible time, music is still the only one that first comes to mind when giving advice to another person about loneliness or heartbreak. Not meditation, or writing, or being active, though those are all beneficial in the long run. Yet from experience, I know there would be times where, in all honesty, I didn't feel as if I had the energy to write for even a few minutes, or even had the "energy" to sit still for a while and meditate. But in music was that perfect cure that was almost untouchable, no matter what thoughts were flowing through me, or what kind of mood had taken me over. Feeling down? Put on some blues. Feeling up? Cherish it, and put on any music that's good for the soul. Feeling down and inebriated? Put on some rock n' roll. Rinse, and repeat. Rinse, and repeat...
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I have absolutely nothing to add to this thread. I feel lonely all the time. I felt lonely in my last relationship and especially now that broke up. Let me know if you learn the secret.
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I fill my days up with so much. It can be going out and partying to just cleaning my house. I don't put anything off. If there is a dish in the sink I wash it. If someone says they are going out I go and join them. If been wanting to do something to my house I just do it. If I have a second break from everything I phone a friend, family member. Not to mention the gym! Man I practically live there. If I can't go there for whatever reason I work out at home. I also have a kid so that fills up a ton of my time when she isn't off with her mom.

When all that is done and I have no energy, or motivation to do anything, I'll rent a movie or watch some tv. But after all the working out, running around, doing things I find that just sitting there and doing nothing is actually something in itself.
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Old 9th April 2012, 8:13 PM   #15
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Yep keeping busy is the key.

I got a double whammy going, first the breakup then I get hit with Bronchitis.

So the last thing I want to do is lay around and think, yet I am so beat down I don't have the energy to do anything and can't stop coughing.

Yay me
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