is2008 Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 I think this post would benefit everyone/need everyone's input on. When trying to 'cope' how do you block out sexual thoughts of your ex? She by no means is my first but I was her first. It's driving me crazy thinking what she could be doing and although they're irrational thoughts, they do seem to get to me. Link to post Share on other sites
flow15 Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 This has been happening a lot to me lately, purely because I saw some photos of him with a girl recently so I can safely assume they're having sex... It makes me feel sick to the stomach, but in a way helps me to move on because I don't want to go near him now after he's been with her. Everytime I start to think of him with someone else I just tell myself to STOP and just try to concentrate on something else. The first night I couldn't sleep all night thinking about the two of them together, that was a week ago.. Now its getting easier to block out of my mind Link to post Share on other sites
Username37 Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 It happens. My ex and I did everything BUT sex (keep in mind im a youngin) and it pains me seeing her and the new bf together because it's assumed that they do that stuff. When I was with her, it was INSTANT so I'm sure it was like that with them What I do is just think of other things, keep the mind busy and avoid porn.....for now haha Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 It happens. My ex and I did everything BUT sex (keep in mind im a youngin) and it pains me seeing her and the new bf together because it's assumed that they do that stuff. When I was with her, it was INSTANT so I'm sure it was like that with them What I do is just think of other things, keep the mind busy and avoid porn.....for now haha good point on avoiding the porn. i have nothing against it but whenever i watch it i start to imagine it's my ex doing that with someone else. then i start wondering if he actually *is* doing that stuff with someone else and that she probably looks like the girl in the video. needless to say, i don't feel like watching it after that... Link to post Share on other sites
collegeguy_24 Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 For me, personally, I went to porn. TO avoid having sexual thoughts about the ex, watch and masturbate to porn. That will help get rid of the sexual arousal you feel, and its an outlet to avoid getting aroused by the ex. Be careful though, it is addicting, and should never take priority in your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author is2008 Posted February 21, 2011 Author Share Posted February 21, 2011 thanks for your input guys, it wasn't a troll question, i'm really struggling. part of the coping process is trying to seperate intimate thoughts away from the ex. i don't find any girl particularly sexually attractive right now, except my ex but i'm trying hard not to think about her. she does pop into my head often and that triggers intimate thoughts and anxiety... not arousal. Link to post Share on other sites
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