A dear friend

[carrie3107]

I have a dear male friend. (He calls me sis and is a friend of my brothers hence the sis part) along with many lads that I know from my local social club.

 

He has just recently split up with his wife about 3 wks ago. He has asked me if i want to go for a meal with him, drinks etc, as company.

 

Maybe its just me reading too much into it, and needs a friend but not sure weither to go for the meal or not???

[nowhereman82]

Meal but perhaps no drinks?

 

No real answer...you can go as a friend and if he cross's any boundaries then you enforce them. Or just avoid the situation...but then what kind of friend are you?

 

Tough call indeed

[Ronni_W]

Every once in a while, throw in some reference to your "sibling" relationship; talk about guys in whom you are interested; say how glad you are to be able to fulfill your "sister" role during his challenging time...anything that'll help to keep your relationship in its proper perspective.

 

Yes, there is potential for the current, normal and nice relationship dynamics to go sideways, depending on his own coping skills and strategies -- it is an idea to keep a small eye and ear out, for that. I guess the trick is to find a balance between being properly cautious and just plain paranoid?

 

But. It is also normal for him to be looking for comfort and support from his "sis". At some point, you may want to suggest an in-person divorce support group or singles' club...to help ensure that you do not become his sole or primary support "network".

[mark982]

why not go. he probale just wants a trusted friend to talk his troubles to. guys have a tough time doing this with male friends.if he over steps his bounderies.tell him,or leave.

[wareagle]

I don't see anything wrong with it. This guy is hurting and probably just needs someone to talk to.