pdslt Posted April 5, 2008 Share Posted April 5, 2008 Hi everyone, i've recently met somone that i'm crazy about. She recently lost someone romantically close to her and is going through a very hard time. We met within the month of her loss and we are very attracted to each other and get along very well. I have been providing as much comfort as i can and i'm very worried about her. Problem is i'm not sure what to do? I want to be with her but she's naturally grieving and unable to offer much. I've said that i will move on if she needs time and she can call me at a later stage, yet she doesn't want this either as she needs all the support she can get. It's difficult because i already have so many feelings for her and i'm stuck in nowhere land while she's going through this loss. I know there's a strong attraction and we care about one another, but she's in a bad state of mind and i don't know if we can trust her judgements at the moment. It's difficult hearing how she feels so alone. I know it sounds selfish, but i also worry that i will always be second best. I posted this in another forum but have received no advice, i guess it's a tough topic. Hoping someone in this forum has had some experience in this area or can offer advice!? Link to post Share on other sites
dogtown Posted April 5, 2008 Share Posted April 5, 2008 All signs point to avoiding a relationship right now. You pretty much answer your own response in regards to her not being clear minded right now. The person you are interacting with is not thinking with a level head. It's natural for her to want to fill the void created by the death of her gf with someone else - you. People need space and time after a relationship and espcially after the death of a lover. Give her some room and let her sort things out. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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