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Old 31st December 2017, 6:33 PM   #1
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Unhappy Broke no contact due to new year

So basicly i messegen my ex gf happy new year she told me the same and i asked her if she is agree to call her and she told me no...after that intold her to have fun and she told me the same.

Now i feel worser cause i messed her and got refused..broke ip since 3 weeks now from 6 years rrelationship.
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Old 31st December 2017, 6:46 PM   #2
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Sorry your contact didn't turn out the way you would like. It usually doesn't. This is why I am such a strong advocate of no contact. By asking if she agreed to talk on the phone seems needy. Go no contact and preserve what dignity you have left. Silence helps to heal. I'm sorry.
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Old 31st December 2017, 8:52 PM   #3
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It's over man. The sooner you realize this the sooner you will begin to heal.

I was my ex for 6.5 years. I know the feeling!! Your not alone but you are looking very weak in her eyes right now. She will think of you less. Trust me.

You have to go NC. It's the only option to move on
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Old 31st December 2017, 10:21 PM   #4
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At least you got a response. And a definitive one at that. Be happy.

Itís better than no response.

Donít beat yourself up about it. We are all human and make mistakes. Just let this be a reason you donít reach out to her again.
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Old 1st January 2018, 12:05 AM   #5
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At least you got a response. And a definitive one at that. Be happy.

Itís better than no response.

Donít beat yourself up about it. We are all human and make mistakes. Just let this be a reason you donít reach out to her again.
Yeah absolutly im not going to reach out for a while but ill have tonreach cause we have bank credit together on her name... so yeah
But i do really feel that i want her back 😞
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Old 1st January 2018, 12:16 AM   #6
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Yeah absolutly im not going to reach out for a while but ill have tonreach cause we have bank credit together on her name... so yeah
But i do really feel that i want her back 😞
Iím sure you do but she wonít even talk to you so itís appears she does not.

It sucks but it can only help you move on. I reached out to my ex and she didnít even respond. Itís more limbo when what I was looking for was a difinitive no. You got that. Run with it.

It sucks bro but there are women out there who want to be with you. Focus your efforts on them.
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Old 1st January 2018, 11:32 AM   #7
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Iím sure you do but she wonít even talk to you so itís appears she does not.

It sucks but it can only help you move on. I reached out to my ex and she didnít even respond. Itís more limbo when what I was looking for was a difinitive no. You got that. Run with it.

It sucks bro but there are women out there who want to be with you. Focus your efforts on them.
Well when i message her she does answer everytine but has mixed emotions one time is fine one time she is cold. And i know she still loves me and care. But at this moment she is full of negativity. Thats why i want to find the best way to cope with this and make my self better for the time i would try again to get together with her.
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Old 1st January 2018, 11:38 AM   #8
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Well when i message her she does answer everytine but has mixed emotions one time is fine one time she is cold. And i know she still loves me and care. But at this moment she is full of negativity. Thats why i want to find the best way to cope with this and make my self better for the time i would try again to get together with her.
Just know your healing will never begin if you don't accept what has happened.

You are in denial. First step of grief.. you need to accept it's over. The first couple of months are going to be excruciating but keep pushing through. Don't worry about her. Focus on you
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Old 1st January 2018, 11:42 AM   #9
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Well when i message her she does answer everytine but has mixed emotions one time is fine one time she is cold. And i know she still loves me and care. But at this moment she is full of negativity. Thats why i want to find the best way to cope with this and make my self better for the time i would try again to get together with her.
She doesnít love you anymore. Stop contacting her; woman do not find needy/clingy people attractive. Time to move on.
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Old 1st January 2018, 11:52 AM   #10
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Well when i message her she does answer everytine but has mixed emotions one time is fine one time she is cold. And i know she still loves me and care. But at this moment she is full of negativity. Thats why i want to find the best way to cope with this and make my self better for the time i would try again to get together with her.
How do you KNOW that she still loves you? Don't project. I am not in complete agreement with some of the posters here. Her mixed emotions conveys conflict and that 'could' indicate that she still has some feelings for you. Don't hold your breath for the one you are hoping for.

She sounds like she's still angry. You may need to continue NC to let her cool off or heal. Either way, not to bring your hopes up for reconciliation. She responds, so there is certainly some connection still there. You two were together for 6 years so not surprising.

I am in a NC situation as we speak. Back to NC. My situation is very different, I suspect. I am the dumper.

Who did the breaking up?
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Old 1st January 2018, 12:08 PM   #11
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I think your contact with her should have been to apologize and address what went wrong, rather than just happy new year and hey, can we just talk like nothing happened? That may have been better received.
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Old 1st January 2018, 12:14 PM   #12
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I think your contact with her should have been to apologize and address what went wrong, rather than just happy new year and hey, can we just talk like nothing happened? That may have been better received.
I already apologized after the break up we talked things thru and i dont want to be pushy and apologize all over again. And indid told her what went wrong.
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How do you KNOW that she still loves you? Don't project. I am not in complete agreement with some of the posters here. Her mixed emotions conveys conflict and that 'could' indicate that she still has some feelings for you. Don't hold your breath for the one you are hoping for.

She sounds like she's still angry. You may need to continue NC to let her cool off or heal. Either way, not to bring your hopes up for reconciliation. She responds, so there is certainly some connection still there. You two were together for 6 years so not surprising.

I am in a NC situation as we speak. Back to NC. My situation is very different, I suspect. I am the dumper.

Who did the breaking up?
Yes she is still angry... well first time i was the one, then i came back and worked things out lasted 1 week cause she could not stay to much in house she wanted to gonout with our friends mutual. She then hide the fact that she is speaking with a guy in facebook. Filtring stuff as i entered her phone and facebook big mistake i know and then after this she did broke up and then we agreed that to be over. 2 days before that she told me she love me very much but after the breakup she told me is over and she doesent live me. But thats not true...it was like this cause i entered her facebook witch was a big mistake. After the break up i left in italy and we kissed goodbye and i started nc she contacted me a lot ignored her but then inwrote her that im in italy and im fine. Since then we talked time to time but not relationahip stuff. Then ine day i asked her if i still have a chance and she was very cold she told me is iver and she doesent want nothing anynore not now and not in the future. After that i went full nc and talked with her on christmas as i sent her money for our bank credit and then now on new year. I remived her from snapchat and blocked her fb. Im doing full nc again since yesterday, but i asking my self how she did party in new year since she didnt got out with our mutual friends and that was the plan basicly. So inhave no ideea what she did...and i keep thinking she was with the guy she was flirting. The guy lives 300km away from our home... sonyeah. Sorry for ling post.
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She was polite That is more than many people can manage.

She's not interested in reconciliation. Her refusal to walk to you is simply more evidence that it's over. As much as this latest rejection hurt all over again, hopefully the reality will start to sink in.

You aren't going to heal from the loss of a 6 year relationship in a few days. Give yourself time & space to grieve.
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Old 1st January 2018, 1:23 PM   #15
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Everything went right until i started working on computer and i started to have anxiety issues.
She was supportive but we stoped doing activitys cause of my anxiety. 3 years go by without doing to much but this year i really neglated her a lot and im sorry for that..i feel guilty for that.

Our relationship was going wrll until i stopped giving her attention and affection. I was working to much and i treated her like hell she was coming to kiss me and hug me and i said leave me alone cause i felt bad cause anxiety..
YOU treated her bad for about 3 years ^^^
She did well to stick by you, I guess because she was so young.
But who would really want that back?
You don't usually get a second chance with love.
You can kick up the shins of your parents and family, treat them like sh^t and they will still love you to bits and come back for more.
Lovers are not usually the same, they will tolerate some "abuse" but once they are done they are done.
She sounds very done to me.
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