midnightcircle Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 hi can i have some advice i was dating someone but he ghosted me last year and came back to me at christmas i think hes doing it again im not sure hes not contacted for a week now ive not text him either thinking im not going chase him and was hoping i would hear off him whats he playing at what shall i do, i asked if its over he said no i need be patient with him is he playing games with me Link to post Share on other sites
HumanMachine Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 Of course he is playing games with you. He doesn’t care about you and he can use you whenever he wants. Block him and find someone that appreciates you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 (edited) Yes, game playing. I learned the hard way. Once someone ghosts without a very good reason, they tend to do it again and again. It's part of their personality, lack of respect for people in general and is just someone that can't handle dealing with things head on and it's easier to just disappear then make the effort. Generally means you don't matter to them. Edited October 27, 2017 by dumbass2 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author midnightcircle Posted October 27, 2017 Author Share Posted October 27, 2017 ok i understand but what do you thinks hes thinking when i have not chased him and asked why has he not contacted me and yes he does this than keeps coming back but last time i was texting him asking why hes done this what have i done etc but this time i cant be bothered to chase him Link to post Share on other sites
HumanMachine Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 ok i understand but what do you thinks hes thinking when i have not chased him and asked why has he not contacted me and yes he does this than keeps coming back but last time i was texting him asking why hes done this what have i done etc but this time i cant be bothered to chase him He’s with someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author midnightcircle Posted October 27, 2017 Author Share Posted October 27, 2017 what makes you think that ive told him and gave him option for us to go our seperate ways but he tells me no he dont want that do you think he come running back again Link to post Share on other sites
HumanMachine Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 what makes you think that ive told him and gave him option for us to go our seperate ways but he tells me no he dont want that do you think he come running back again He doesn’t want that because you’re easy and naive. He can be with whoever and do whatever he wants and he knows he can check in with you and get what he wants. Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 Well, he still sees you as a potential option, but he doesn't think you are a number one. He knows from your past actions that you allow the ghosting. That's set in his mind. If you don't chase and ignore he will probably go away or he may test you again. He may just like the fact that you allow this to go on but when you stop he's gone. Again, what does he think? He thinks you are not a priority or else he would not do what he does. You are an option and only because you allow. His actions, not his words, tell you what he thinks of you. You're in a game right now, one you only win by blocking him and moving on. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 do you think he come running back again Of course. You've taught him that you'll accept him coming in and out of your life so he'll keep doing it. You're an option. He's not going to give that up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author midnightcircle Posted October 27, 2017 Author Share Posted October 27, 2017 thankyou am i doing right thing to not make contact with him untill he contacts me if he will Link to post Share on other sites
Trust666 Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 When he contacts you again ignore him, do not reply. You don;t want this guy in your life, he'll mess you up. Ghosting hurts we want answers and it bruises our ego, ignoring him will drive him nuts and leave you in peace so you can forget him. You don;t want this kind of guy in your life, he's a disrespectful selfish coward. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 thankyou am i doing right thing to not make contact with him untill he contacts me if he will 1. Do not contact him. 2. Remain No Contact indefinitely. Nothing is changing with this guy. You've taught him that you accept disrespect. Allow him back into your life again and he'll keep doing it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author midnightcircle Posted October 27, 2017 Author Share Posted October 27, 2017 its hard not too but i will be strong its just making me question what did i do wrong no arguments no fall out was great last time we spoke Link to post Share on other sites
Trust666 Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 its hard not too but i will be strong its just making me question what did i do wrong no arguments no fall out was great last time we spoke ...and then he went quiet on you again. Actions over words. You could have done nothing wrong, he just might not be that into you or about a gazillion other things. It is hard, and I still fail from time to time, and every time I fail I get hurt more always. NC is the best and only option unless you want him to have zero respect for you. He's not worth it, move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author midnightcircle Posted October 27, 2017 Author Share Posted October 27, 2017 thanks im trying to i dont know why he does it than comes back he text me last saturday 22nd october and all was great and wished he was here with me etc and cares alot about me than here nothing since than confusing Link to post Share on other sites
Bromeo Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 I was ghosted three times over the course of 18 months by the same gf. It sucked every time. I agree with the above posters, and wish I had this advice when I was experiencing my debacle. People ghost because: 1. They can't communicate properly. 2. They are too cowardly to face you and own up. Whatever other bs they give you is just that. Either way, their insecurities end up hurting you. It's indicative of monstrous issues. Back then I wasn't strong enough to ignore the enormous red flags. Now I am. Please learn from my mistakes. The more you permit this behavior, the more it will hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
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