Angiepacetx Posted October 26, 2017 Share Posted October 26, 2017 Recently one of my best friends started hanging out with a woman that my ex cheated on me with. I didn't have a problem with him befriending her because I thought he was interested in dating her. Turns out my ex had a get together that I wasn't invited to but he invited her. I guess when she mentioned that she was still having sex with my ex he decided to invite my ex over to his house as well so that him and her could hook up. I was deeply hurt and felt betrayed by friend. My friend didn't understand because he said well the two of you aren't together anymore so what's the big deal. I introduced my friend to my ex and he'd only hung out with him when I was around. He knew how I felt about him cheating on me with with woman. It's one of the reasons him and I broke up and that was only 2 months ago. Me and my friend had a big falling out about it because he told me I was being stupid for being upset. So now, we aren't speaking. All of my friend tell me that I had a right to feel the way that I did and he was being insensitive and selfish. Was I wrong to be offended by this? Link to post Share on other sites
HumanMachine Posted October 26, 2017 Share Posted October 26, 2017 I’m sorry but I found this very hard to read. Anyone else? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
1966Seahorse Posted October 26, 2017 Share Posted October 26, 2017 I’m sorry but I found this very hard to read. Anyone else? Yep - I agree - I have just read it four times and am still struggling ha ha! I looked down hoping (in a way) there were no replies as it would have made me think I was being thick Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted October 26, 2017 Share Posted October 26, 2017 Personally, I would feel offended too especially if your friend knew your ex cheated on you with this woman. As a friend, I'd likely want nothing to do with them. Also, why would you think you would be invited to a party that your ex was organizing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angiepacetx Posted October 26, 2017 Author Share Posted October 26, 2017 I get that it's lacking some punctuation but what is it that you don't understand? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angiepacetx Posted October 26, 2017 Author Share Posted October 26, 2017 My ex didn't organize the party that was a typo on my party. My best friend did. Link to post Share on other sites
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Zahara Posted October 26, 2017 Share Posted October 26, 2017 My ex didn't organize the party. That was a typo on my party. My best friend did. Then I guess he was prioritizing his friendship with them or decided to chose their company since he couldn't have the best of both worlds. I think there should have been some level of sensitivity on his part especially since you only recently ended with your ex due to cheating but you can't always control the actions of others. Let it be for awhile and if you think this is something you can look past, then you can decide if you want to resume a friendship. Otherwise, keep moving on. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliBabe Posted October 26, 2017 Share Posted October 26, 2017 You are not wrong at all. Hold your ground. You did nothing wrong so do not go looking for your friend. Your friend, if they have any sense should come with an apology and quick. Link to post Share on other sites
marky00 Posted October 26, 2017 Share Posted October 26, 2017 I’m sorry but I found this very hard to read. Anyone else? lol, me too, bring in the Chinese translator 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Frostedflake Posted October 26, 2017 Share Posted October 26, 2017 (edited) I'll try my best. The people involved: OP OP's exboyfriend. OP's best friend The girl that OP's ex-bf cheated on her with The issue at hand: OP's best friend started talking to the girl that OP's ex-bf cheated on her with. OP did not have an issue with this because she thought her friend expressed interest in dating the girl. It's not working out that way because the girl is still hooking up with OP's ex. Then there was a party the best friend, OP's ex-bf, and the girl attended but OP was not invited to. (I'm lost if it's the ex-bf's party or the best friend's party?) OP is upset that her best friend is fraternizing with both the girl and her ex-bf because she introduced him to the guy (ex-bf/who cheated and broke OP's heart) and expects her friends loyalty to be with her and not them. Best friend thinks she's being unreasonable and "stupid for being upset". Basically, OP feels teamed up on and like she's losing her best friend to her ex and this girl. Edited October 26, 2017 by Frostedflake Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted October 26, 2017 Share Posted October 26, 2017 anybody who called me stupid would have to go, it sounds a bit abusive Link to post Share on other sites
marky00 Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 I'll try my best. The people involved: OP OP's exboyfriend. OP's best friend The girl that OP's ex-bf cheated on her with The issue at hand: OP's best friend started talking to the girl that OP's ex-bf cheated on her with. OP did not have an issue with this because she thought her friend expressed interest in dating the girl. It's not working out that way because the girl is still hooking up with OP's ex. Then there was a party the best friend, OP's ex-bf, and the girl attended but OP was not invited to. (I'm lost if it's the ex-bf's party or the best friend's party?) OP is upset that her best friend is fraternizing with both the girl and her ex-bf because she introduced him to the guy (ex-bf/who cheated and broke OP's heart) and expects her friends loyalty to be with her and not them. Best friend thinks she's being unreasonable and "stupid for being upset". Basically, OP feels teamed up on and like she's losing her best friend to her ex and this girl. Thanks Mr Translator I think having 4 people referred to into the first (and very condensed) sentence was a bit of a mind trip It does make better sense now. Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 Thanks Mr Translator I think having 4 people referred to into the first (and very condensed) sentence was a bit of a mind trip It does make better sense now. Plus, OP doesn't make clear the gender of her best friend which is important to the story. Link to post Share on other sites
marky00 Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 Plus, OP doesn't make clear the gender of her best friend which is important to the story. yeah, the missing gender info is what really made it confusing 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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