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Old 18th October 2017, 2:22 PM   #16
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I still have feelings for my ex girlfriend. Why does she do this?

It's been 5 months since my ex broke up with me. It was very difficult to deal with in the beginning as she played a lot of mind games. Everybody sees it. It's quite difficult. Some of the things she did was flirt with other guys infront of me, hot and cold, and all of that stuff.

I'll admit, it destroyed me quite hard. Only now am I slowly recovering but it will take a while as we see each other like twice a week because of class.

Anyways, this month, she stares at any girl I talk too. When the girl is all alone, she gives them dirty looks and completely ignores them. Will be completely obnoxious, attention seeking, and kinda grumpy. She has facetime video call me but she let it ring twice then hang up, liked my instagram post and all that stuff. She tried to grab my attention.

What threw me off was last night, she was in a super good mood. Not being disrespectful to anybody or anything like that. I am hurt to be honest.

I anticipate her wanting me to chase but honestly, due to my past relationships with other women, I have chased and no success came out of it. I did care for her and I still do love her. It's hard that I continously have to see her all the time. It gets annoying and frustrating.
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Old 18th October 2017, 2:36 PM   #17
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She tried to grab my attention.
Six words sum up your post, dude. Welcome to the crazy world of exes that are still on the scene. You have to see her, but you don't have to acknowledge her. Block her everywhere you can and no doubt she'll try even harder to enforce those six words above. Don't let her get to you. Because she's trying...and it's working. If your life depends on her state of mind/mood/actions...you end up like a kite in the wind not knowing which direction you're a about to blown. Ignore he as much as is humanly possible. She'll soon show her true intentions...

Peace.
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Old 18th October 2017, 7:29 PM   #18
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Often times when we are rejected or do the rejection we have an ego about such things. If you get rejected your ego gets crushed, we don;t often miss the relationship or person like we think we do we are nursing a hurt ego.

Some people will do the dumping, and still have a hurt ego when the dumpee moves on or stops showing the dumper interest. It blows their ego up when they know dumpees are pining away for them or they know the dumpee could be a PLAN B.

Egos are often not mentioned when we talk about our broken hearts, often times we think it's a broken heart but it's our ego.

"How could this person tell me they would never hurt me and then leave me for someone else out of the blue?"

^that's most likely the ego and not love, your ego suffers from rejection.
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Old 20th October 2017, 12:25 PM   #19
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Thanks for sharing

I'm sorry man, that's tough. If you still have to see her a lot then that's no fun either. Have you thought about limiting your contact with her or not contacting her at all? Also, placing a guard on your thoughts help and remember all the mind games she played with you. Ugh. There are certainly quality women out there in the world that don't that. You sound like a good guy so go find a gal who respect you. Best wishes man!
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Old 20th October 2017, 12:37 PM   #20
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Exclamation Struggling through a breakup.

I met this woman where we 'kinda work in the same place'. She is 10 years older than I am with two kids. Got into a 'fwb' relationship, but we were more like an actual relationship. She broke it off to 'focus on herself'. She anticipated me to chase. Fortunately, I didn't. She broke it up 5 months ago.

Anyways, right after the break-up I was devastated. She played a lot of games with me. She was hot & cold, flirted with a colleague of mine (who she knows i look up too), and always stared. So yeah, other people even noticed the games she played. There were other things that she did but I just tried to remain in no contact and focused on myself.

Lately though, within this past month and a half, her behavior has been off the charts. Any girl I would talk too, she would stare and even give them dirty looks. She has liked an 'instagram post' i had posted up, i missed a facetime call from her at 12:15am, and just like other stuff. Also, her FRIEND put me in an instagram group chat with her and 3 other people.

After sometime, I finally had the strength to block her from my social media. Right after that block, she had a very negative attitude.

To be honest, only within the past 48 hours have I really felt like I miss her so much. I feel really sad. I know logically she aint right for me. Those mind games that she had played really screwed me up. I don't know what to do or even how to get through it.

I know I am typing a lot but I really hope someone can give me their opinion on things. Absolutely anything like what is up with her behavior and how can I get over it?
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Old 20th October 2017, 1:10 PM   #21
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There’s a strong possibility that the fact she is 10 years older than you with a couple of kids and single and how she is treating you is connected.

Hint: absolute psycho
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Old 20th October 2017, 3:29 PM   #22
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I'm sorry man, that's tough. If you still have to see her a lot then that's no fun either. Have you thought about limiting your contact with her or not contacting her at all? Also, placing a guard on your thoughts help and remember all the mind games she played with you. Ugh. There are certainly quality women out there in the world that don't that. You sound like a good guy so go find a gal who respect you. Best wishes man!
I don't talk to her at all when I see her. She's been blocked on everything.
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Old 20th October 2017, 4:04 PM   #23
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HEART BROKEN: Struggle is real getting over the ex girlfriend.

She broke up with me about 5 months ago. I struggle to get over her. I see her about twice a week.

Right after the break up, she played mad mind games with me. Everybody noticed it. It was so obvious. She still does it. She really wanted me to chase her and give her attention.

It's hard to get over her especially since we see each other about twice a week.

The games she played right after the break up:

Flirted with my colleagues
Hot and cold
Staring
(These are to name the few)

Her games lately:

Stares at any girl I talk too
Gives those girls dirty looks
Liked an instagram post
Facetime Video Called me at midnight. Rang twice then stopped.
Her friends added me into a group chat with her in it.
(All I can remember at the moment)

It's tough for me to get over her because I genuinely did love her. I don't even know what to do.

All I have been doing is acting indifferent and focusing on my own thing. Minding my own business. That's about it.
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Old 20th October 2017, 4:38 PM   #24
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In my humble opinion, you have to stop seeing her. There's no way around this. For those trying to get over an ex while maintaining contact, even if it's limited, I don't envy you. That would drive me insane, literally. I believe you said in an earlier post that you go to the same gym. Change gyms or stop going for a while. It's a no brainer really.
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Old 20th October 2017, 10:14 PM   #25
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In my humble opinion, you have to stop seeing her. There's no way around this. For those trying to get over an ex while maintaining contact, even if it's limited, I don't envy you. That would drive me insane, literally. I believe you said in an earlier post that you go to the same gym. Change gyms or stop going for a while. It's a no brainer really.
Thank you for your haste response. Unfortunately, I can't switch gyms. There is something specific in that gym that I cant get anywhere else.
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Old 20th October 2017, 11:28 PM   #26
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Thank you for your haste response. Unfortunately, I can't switch gyms. There is something specific in that gym that I cant get anywhere else.
Is that thing worth your sanity? It would be easier for you to heal will getting away from her for a little while. This means getting off her social media as well, if you don't wanna block, unfollowing works well. Deleting her number too etc.

If you completely get over her, you can return to that gym but I think people like to hold on to bits of the ex (social media, trying to get back their stuff that they know deep down isn't worth much, staying in the same gym) because as you said you still love her.

You don't have to put up with her games if you don't want to. But you have to make the choice.

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Old 21st October 2017, 10:32 AM   #27
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Thank you for your haste response. Unfortunately, I can't switch gyms. There is something specific in that gym that I cant get anywhere else.
There is no piece of equipment in any gym more important than your well being. Not even close.
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Old 21st October 2017, 12:00 PM   #28
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How many more threads do you plan to start on this basically covering the same thing?
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Old 4th November 2017, 6:21 PM   #29
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Exclamation My ex girlfriend started to talk to me?

So long story short...

I met her at the gym. (so yes, we do see each other on a weekly basis) We didn't date for very long. She broke up with me 5 months ago and right after that, she played a lot of mind games. Other people noticed it too. It was quite obvious.

Anyways, I started to talk to this girl, who is strictly a friend. My ex would give her the dirty looks and stare at her. She would make my friend feel very uncomfortable coming to the gym. Somedays, she would even have a mean attitude.

I ended up blocking her on all social media. Continuing on, the next time I see her after the block, she has the worst attitude I have ever seen. Absolutely negative and attention seeking.

Last friday in the gym, I partnered with one of her closest guy friends. He said a lot of good things about me and such.

Continuing on with the story to this Tuesday, she started to tease me that I was a bad partner for her friend in class. In addition, she threw a playful kick at me. I returned back with a tease of my own.

Last night, I saw her at the gym again as I walked by her and she would stare. Her gym bag was next to mine and as I was going for my gym bag, she made small talk and I left it at that.

I saw her again this morning, as she was walking by me, she made small talk and heard about a muscle competition I was going to do. I told her not to come. Then she walked back my way, and I told her "because I don't want her to take topless photos of me anymore". Just as a tease. Then, she smacks my arm and walks away and says "one day you'll grow up"

Just so you know, she stares at me a lot!

Give me your thoughts????

Why is she talking to me again??
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Old 4th November 2017, 6:38 PM   #30
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The simple answer is that is difficult to ignore someone who you see all the time, especially when you have some history together. Also, it sounds like you are an active participant in all the games and drama.

The whole situation could easily be avoided by changing gym, then you would never have to associate with one another again. However, something tells me you wouldn't even if you could, so you must be getting something out of it.

Maybe you both just enjoy the attention, or perhaps there is still some unfinished business?
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