Glen123 Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 (edited) this is an interesting one! met this girl, shes pretty awesome, had 5 dates in 2 weeks, some day-long dates, we had a great time. Slept with her on the last one. Sex was great, i know that was a mutual feeling, enough said. the next day she says she doesnt know if we are compatible!! i find out its about star sign haha. could be 100 other reasons i know. i know everyone would have their own opinion about star signs, and even whether or not i should or should not pursue her. Point is i want to continue seeing her and have no data on a situation like this re the contact rule?? i mean 2 weeks is not long enough for her to miss me i would have thought, whats the best way to go about it? please keep in mind im seeking advice on seeing her again, not whether i should or not:) i like this girl. im thinking it might have been too much too soon? Edited April 29, 2017 by Glen123 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 She believes in star signs. The questionable nature of that belief aside, if you want to date her you have to convince her that a conviction she holds deeply is rubbish. Good luck. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Glen123 Posted April 29, 2017 Author Share Posted April 29, 2017 any thoughts on whether i should give this some time first? Link to post Share on other sites
enddeck Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 I don't believe in astrology. It's bad luck. Move on dude,she allready has. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 any thoughts on whether i should give this some time first? Time won't do anything. You will still be the same sign next week, next month, next year. And she still won't want to date you because astrology says she shouldn't. Unless you are willing to wait maybe decades when she finally realizes that star signs are silly. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 the next day she says she doesnt know if we are compatible!! please keep in mind im seeking advice on seeing her again, not whether i should or not:) i like this girl. Her reason(s) for wanting to end things are completely irrelevant. The fact that YOU want to continue seeing her because YOU still like her is completely irrelevant. If she does not want to see you again then there is nothing you can reasonably do...except honour her request and her right to choose her own life experiences. Even though it may suck, that's still what you need to do. (And you will be honouring your own self-worth and esteem in the process.) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whatnot Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 (edited) I had this happen once. It wasn't about the stars, though something similar. One strange person she was.... And I liked her too. I didn't pursue. LOL EDIT....With just five dates and a romp ... let it go. You'll get over it. Edited April 29, 2017 by whatnot 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 Do you mean she said she didn't know if you were compatible or was she breaking up with you? The first sounds doubtful, the second more definite. Perhaps you should take a step back and respect her doubts. If you pursue at this point, she will push you away. If you take a step back and be a bit more distant, she will have chance to miss you. It is easy to feel under pressure in a new relationship if one person seems to be keener than the other. Backing off gives you both chance to miss each other. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 Was she maybe using that as why she felt you weren't compatible? If so, she just decided she didn't find you compatible. how long had she known your star sign? I mean, most astrology nuts would ask that the first date -- if so, she kept dating you so it wasn't really the reason. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronnys93 Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 Eh, I believe in astrology and I know that it's more of a tool than a solid dating technique. My sign does complement my personality very well, but it's not something that would stop me from actually dating someone if I had chemistry with them and got along with them well. It sounds like she was more so saying you both weren't compatible and that was the excuse you were given. Link to post Share on other sites
jamili Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 Sounds like an immature excuse to stop seeing you (going to avoid saying "break up" because 2 weeks is hardly considered any measurable semblance of a relationship). How old is she?? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Glen123 Posted April 30, 2017 Author Share Posted April 30, 2017 (edited) shes 30 haha. Edited April 30, 2017 by Glen123 Link to post Share on other sites
Goodguy05 Posted April 30, 2017 Share Posted April 30, 2017 It's an excuse. Having said that, I must admit in my own life and personal relationships I've actually found the star sign thing to be pretty accurate lol. I'm not young either and never really gave it much credence till 20 yrs of relationships etc even friendships has shown some consistency wth astrology Link to post Share on other sites
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